My first post was the result of me registering on this forum just to tell someone, who was complaining about a well-intentioned mistake their wife made rather than just being grateful she was thinking of him in the first place, to stop being a jerk.
...A lot of my posts since then have been telling other people to stop being jerks. It's easy to forget that our opinions or initial reactions, especially on an anonymous venue, don't give us good reason or right to just act like assholes to one another, and I feel we'd do it a lot less often if there was always someone willing to say "Hey, you're being rude. Stop it." each time, to remind us that we are talking to other people, and should make an effort to at least get along, especially when there's no good reason not to.
And really, the guy was genuinely embarrassed over his reaction and did indeed follow the advice I gave to thank his wife for her gesture. Sometimes all it takes to change someone's outlook or decision is to let them know they could have done something differently. I'm admittedly more blunt than I need to be most of the time, but I do think a bit of an impact is sometimes necessary to shock a person out of their course. I just need to work on the ratio.
