Your Problems

[xitel]

Christ... It's 04:53 AM and my mate nicked the couch, my feet are cold and I'm really fuckin tired... What should I do? D:

Kick him off the bed and sleep.

Nah, that's a bad idea. You never wake up a sleeping mate. What you oughta do is find a blanket and sleep somewhere. Then wake up before he does, and lie out on the couch RIGHT NEXT TO HIM. Really creep him out.

 

[The Kind Cannibal]

How can I drop an emotional facade without loosing everyone who's come to like me for said facade?

 

[xitel]

How can I drop an emotional facade without loosing everyone who's come to like me for said facade?

We actually went over this one earlier, just do it gradually. Don't suddenly switch personalities, but change yourself a little bit each day.

 

[The Kind Cannibal]

But the real me is apparently an aggressively irritable asshole, while the alter me is a bubbly hyper empathetic...thing. Anytime I drop it even a little people take notice, almost always in the bad way like "we will never be friend anymore."

 

[xitel]

But the real me is apparently an aggressively irritable asshole, while the alter me is a bubbly hyper empathetic...thing. Anytime I drop it even a little people take notice, almost always in the bad way like "we will never be friend anymore."

Well, if they can't handle the real you, they aren't lasting friends.

 

[reaper_2k9]

Do you have any problems you need help with? Do you think your fellow Escapists may be more useful than the people you hang out with? This is the place to talk about them. Any problems, ranging from the philosophical to "What should I have for dinner?"

I'll start by posing my current conundrum. I'm not doing so hot in some of my courses because I can't motivate myself to go to them. I don't know why, I keep telling myself the things I need to do, but I can't get myself to go. Any advice?


Serious questions and answers only please.

I'm having the exact same problem but mine stems from the fact that I'm not learning anything from the instructor, and if I'm not going to be learning anything why should I go. I dont know what to say other than force your self thats what I have been doing, seeing as I'll be in school for awhile I'm just going to turn everything in last minute and have some bs excuses for not being in class....its worked for me in the past.

 

[xitel]

Do you have any problems you need help with? Do you think your fellow Escapists may be more useful than the people you hang out with? This is the place to talk about them. Any problems, ranging from the philosophical to "What should I have for dinner?"

I'll start by posing my current conundrum. I'm not doing so hot in some of my courses because I can't motivate myself to go to them. I don't know why, I keep telling myself the things I need to do, but I can't get myself to go. Any advice?


Serious questions and answers only please.

I'm having the exact same problem but mine stems from the fact that I'm not learning anything from the instructor, and if I'm not going to be learning anything why should I go. I dont know what to say other than force your self thats what I have been doing, seeing as I'll be in school for awhile I'm just going to turn everything in last minute and have some bs excuses for not being in class....its worked for me in the past.

I tried doing that, but it just exacerbated the problem.

 

[reaper_2k9]

Do you have any problems you need help with? Do you think your fellow Escapists may be more useful than the people you hang out with? This is the place to talk about them. Any problems, ranging from the philosophical to "What should I have for dinner?"

I'll start by posing my current conundrum. I'm not doing so hot in some of my courses because I can't motivate myself to go to them. I don't know why, I keep telling myself the things I need to do, but I can't get myself to go. Any advice?


Serious questions and answers only please.

I'm having the exact same problem but mine stems from the fact that I'm not learning anything from the instructor, and if I'm not going to be learning anything why should I go. I dont know what to say other than force your self thats what I have been doing, seeing as I'll be in school for awhile I'm just going to turn everything in last minute and have some bs excuses for not being in class....its worked for me in the past.

I tried doing that, but it just exacerbated the problem.

I know I'm at the point that I just want to be done with it a friend of mine who I go to school with and work with feels the same way and he's just started. I dont know I know it will bite me in the ass later on but I just dont care, just want o be done.

 

[Duck Sandwich]

I've been doing kickboxing for 5 months and mixed martial arts for 1 month. But there is the occasional moment during my training where I just feel like I've lost my edge. Like I just can't do as good as I normally do. I must admit that sometimes I have a very slight lack of motivation, but other times, I just tire out more easily than I normally do.

I don't think the problem is with my eating/sleeping habits. I almost never eat junk food, and I get at least 7 hours of sleep a day. (I read on a fitness website once that the more you exercise, the less sleep you need, so I should be able to get along fine with 1 less hour of sleep than most people, seeing as how I do kickboxing fairly often)

 

[xitel]

I've been doing kickboxing for 5 months and mixed martial arts for 1 month. But there is the occasional moment during my training where I just feel like I've lost my edge. Like I just can't do as good as I normally do. I must admit that sometimes I have a very slight lack of motivation, but other times, I just tire out more easily than I normally do.

I don't think the problem is with my eating/sleeping habits. I almost never eat junk food, and I get at least 7 hours of sleep a day. (I read on a fitness website once that the more you exercise, the less sleep you need, so I should be able to get along fine with 1 less hour of sleep than most people, seeing as how I do kickboxing fairly often)

Have you ever thought that maybe kickboxing just isn't your sport? Maybe you tried it out and realized that you don't really like it. Back in high school my sister tried pretty much every activity she could before she settled on the one she liked. I think maybe you should try out some other martial arts and see if you like those better. Think about the thing that attracted you to kickboxing in the first place, and look for other styles that have that same factor.

 

[Fruhstuck]

A musical question for drummers and/or percussionist out there.

I need to work on my limb separation, mainly the fact that I can get my feet doing a basic steady rhythm(4/4 for instance all the way up to 250bpm sections) and my hands doing offtime beats, but I can't do viceversa at all. Help?

Asked my drum tutor about this and he said to slow yourself down doing say 120bpm without using your feet at all for 2 minutes or so, really into the groove of the thing and then start on a really simple off-time beat with your feet and keep doing that for a while, then gradually get faster and faster
The idea is that you completely forget about what your hands are doing (because it becomes so easy after you do the same thing for 2 minutes) and you can then completely concentrate on your feet

 

[Fruhstuck]

I need help!

Back in August I went to a music festival with a chum from school. VIP passes and it was free because his Dad worked there. My friend's family went and he was allowed to bring a friend (hence me going for free) and his sister brought her friend. I fell in love with her (the sister's friend) and I still think of her. For the entire concert, I just dumped my friend on his own (selfish, I know) and stayed with said girl. However, the festival was only for five days and I haven't seen her since but I can't stop thinking of her. I haven't felt the emotions that I have for her for quite sometime and I can't imagine myself with anyone else at this very moment in time.

Now, in January I have the possibility of seeing her just for one day at another concert. I want to ask her out and express my love for her but I don't believe I have the courage. Even if I do she'll most likely say no or will be currently taken because I doubt I have much chance with her. There is also the possibility that she won't come to the concert, if in that case should I move on or attempt at contacting her some way or another by getting her phone number or something off of my friend's sister but then I'll appear as a stalker and I wouldn't know what to say?

If someone can just give me advice or suggestions, I will truly appreciate it.

-Ricky

Go for it?
I should think you'll regret it if you don't
If you go for it and she says "yes" then Kudos and a cookie for you
If you go for it and she says "no" then you won't see her again
And if you don't try it at all then you won't see her again
I can't see as you lose anything by trying

 

[xitel]

I need help!

Back in August I went to a music festival with a chum from school. VIP passes and it was free because his Dad worked there. My friend's family went and he was allowed to bring a friend (hence me going for free) and his sister brought her friend. I fell in love with her (the sister's friend) and I still think of her. For the entire concert, I just dumped my friend on his own (selfish, I know) and stayed with said girl. However, the festival was only for five days and I haven't seen her since but I can't stop thinking of her. I haven't felt the emotions that I have for her for quite sometime and I can't imagine myself with anyone else at this very moment in time.

Now, in January I have the possibility of seeing her just for one day at another concert. I want to ask her out and express my love for her but I don't believe I have the courage. Even if I do she'll most likely say no or will be currently taken because I doubt I have much chance with her. There is also the possibility that she won't come to the concert, if in that case should I move on or attempt at contacting her some way or another by getting her phone number or something off of my friend's sister but then I'll appear as a stalker and I wouldn't know what to say?

If someone can just give me advice or suggestions, I will truly appreciate it.

-Ricky

Well, I would say don't ask her out right off the bat. That's a mistake a lot of people make. Just go up to her and start talking about the music, and at the end of the concert, ask if she wants to hang out some time, nothing else. If she says no, then you'll know that you had no chance with her without coming off as some weird guy. If she says yes, you'll be sure that you can see her again outside of the concert, and you'll get rid of you "deadline" that the concert provides. Don't ask for her number, but give her yours, or your email address.

 

[xitel]

Have any of you ever thought that this is your problem? The very fact that you are on the Internet asking for help rather than just DOING it. The time that you spend on the Internet and on Games has to be limited to encorperate time for Studies and work.

Christ, come on!

The point of this thread is to get advice. No matter what the problem is, you can still always use advice. And the reason asking here is useful is because you can maintain a certain level of anonymity if you have a slightly embarrassing question that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking your friends in person.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

This thread is about getting anonymous advice.

 

[Death Magnetic]

Thanks to both xitel and fruhstuck, I'll make an attempt with the advice and go for it if she's there at the concert. If she isn't there, I'll know it unfortunately probably wasn't destined to be much to my protest. I'll also like to publically express my gratitude to antiantagonist for advice through a PM. If she is there at the concert, I'm going for it a hundred percent and attempt not looking like a weirdo. Thanks.

-Ricky

 

[xitel]

Have any of you ever thought that this is your problem? The very fact that you are on the Internet asking for help rather than just DOING it. The time that you spend on the Internet and on Games has to be limited to encorperate time for Studies and work.

Christ, come on!

The point of this thread is to get advice. No matter what the problem is, you can still always use advice. And the reason asking here is useful is because you can maintain a certain level of anonymity if you have a slightly embarrassing question that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking your friends in person.

If you feel you can't ask your friend something because it may be embarrassing, then you need to look at the relationship you have with him/her.

Deep down you will always know what is wrong with yourself and you know what to do but just don't have the motivation or confidence to do it. You just want someone else to clarify your desision, and that's okay. But people over the Internet don't know you, and part of giving advice on a situation is knowing the person you are giving it to.

I still strongly feel that you should just think as much and do as much as you can in a situation before giving up and resolrting to asking someone else. Self motivation is important in life.

Some people find that logical, anonymous advice is just what certain situations call for. If you don't want advice, then don't ask for it. If you want to help people, then by all means do so. But don't insult people just because they are looking for advice on a problem they may have.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

Have any of you ever thought that this is your problem? The very fact that you are on the Internet asking for help rather than just DOING it. The time that you spend on the Internet and on Games has to be limited to encorperate time for Studies and work.

Christ, come on!

The point of this thread is to get advice. No matter what the problem is, you can still always use advice. And the reason asking here is useful is because you can maintain a certain level of anonymity if you have a slightly embarrassing question that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking your friends in person.

If you feel you can't ask your friend something because it may be embarrassing, then you need to look at the relationship you have with him/her.

Deep down you will always know what is wrong with yourself and you know what to do but just don't have the motivation or confidence to do it. You just want someone else to clarify your desision, and that's okay. But people over the Internet don't know you, and part of giving advice on a situation is knowing the person you are giving it to.

I still strongly feel that you should just think as much and do as much as you can in a situation before giving up and resolrting to asking someone else. Self motivation is important in life.

Some people just want to remain anonymous when asking. Don't ask for advice if you don't want it and help people if you feel like it, but don't mess with people asking for advice.

 

[xitel]

Alright, I've got a problem. A friend of mine doesn't get that parroting me annoys everyone, and I'm worried that other folks think that I like him doing it. I JUST CAN'T GET HIM TO STOP.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

Have you tried talking to him personally?