Been going to the same church for 3 years; Overall, it has been an great experience.
But recently, we had someone new coming in. We tried to be welcoming, convice him to go through the same initiaion process as any one who wants to join our church; It's basically having small talks, talking about themselves, how they came to believe in Jesus, or how they came to this church, etc. You know, very friendly stuff. We do this on how and where the new member will best fit in small groups and teams in the church.
The dude rejected every time we asked him, and instead kept rambling on about how much his life sucks, how his wife left him, his family cut contacts with him, he doesn't have any place to live, what life goals he has, how he owns 6 properties and 2 start-up companies but "don't know" what to do with them, and keeping asking us to pray.
Which we don't mind at all, but we also want him to join our church officially so we can help him discover other resources he can utilize.
The dude didn't want to join our church, or stay for the sunday service. He has been dropping in unnanouced to the short prayer meeting before the service, and every week, he has repeated the same phrase that I mentioned above, and basically used us as a trauma dump.
Not to mention, when we first met him, he asked for all of our numbers which we all did because all he wanted was for us to pray with him on the phone. The dude would call any one of us randomly through the weekdays, and have us on the phone for more than 30 min sometimes over an hour, just for him to complain to us before actually praying together.
Then this past Suday, he actually yelled at the prayer group leader in front of the pastor. All she did was carefully suggest to join our church officially if he wants to keep being part of the prayer team. He said to her, and I quote, "backstabbing anti Christian, that I'm being offensive, discriminating him and destroying him" (her words). I was on the other side of a large hall and saw that he was frantically talking, but didn't understand what was said until now.
He yelled at her pretty bad and left, and she told me she was crying outsidee before coming in.
We have warned the leadership figures at the church about this guy. They wanted everyone to try to help him, but he keeps rejecting the help we can give him. I have also been carefully suggesting to restrict his access on which part of the building he can go, or quite possibly outright tresspass him. They did not want to go there.
But this time, many of the leaderships saw how he was yelling like that, so I am hoping they finally realize how serious this is becoming and more action will be done.
Also, we are moving to another room/place for the prayer meeting, and I also suggested have the men in the group escort her to the worship hall.