1 + 1 = ?

[MassiveGeek]

Humanity never ceases to fascinate and piss me off.

I know a girl in my class who's had a nice big chunk of boyfriends - all of them now ex-boyfriends. It wasn't long ago that the latest ex was added to her list, and as much as I love listening to her, as Yahzee puts it, "verbally assasinate him", it has made me wonder...

Now, after observations and personal experiences(not recent ones though, I have a lovely super nerd of a boyfriend myself at the moment) most relationships(especially teen ones) seem to end in fire and explosion because of terrible, terrible communication between the people in it.

Frankly, people now days seem to utterly forget this:

There are two people in a relationship.

Not just you; not just your partner. There's two people, which is what makes it both so wonderful, and complicated. You cannot forget about them, or yourself when you're in a relationship, yet people seem to do this all the time.

Now, I imagine some people might recognise this, and some might not get what the fork I'm talking about.

So, what do you think cause so many relationships these days to crash and burn? Bad communication or other things?

Opinions are very much welcome.

/TW


EDIT: Another thing that came to mind, mostly about teens, is that when you don't understand yourself and you're still growing it's practically impossible to be in a stable relationship, because you're constantly changing/growing yourself(ans probably them as well). Just a side note, keep posting, you have interesting points that I love reading.

 

[SpikeyGirl]

Heat the moment lust. Then later you relise you don't actually like them and learning to love them is too much effort. In a relationship you have to compromise but people seem to forget that now.

<color=white>I hate wireless keyboards

 

[the Dept of Science]

I'm pretty sure these things don't change as you get older.

 

[Aeshi]

1 + 1 = ?

10 if you're using/counting in binary,2 if you're using ternary or greater Numeral System

 

[Sneaky-Pie]

The answer is maturity. Most relationships these days, no matter what age, tend to lack it.

 

[ArchAngelKira]

I could be wrong but I think it could be 69 or 11.

 

[child of lileth]

Kids just don't think, or understand what relationships are like. It's even worse when they try to commit to a serious relationship, when they can't handle anything like that. Also, kids always think they are in love, when they only love the sex.

 

[hyperhammy]

I could be wrong but I think it could be 69 or 11.

69 lol... xD sorry
I think most relationships lack proper communication.

 

[M-JN]

1+1...
2+2...

If two plus two equals four, does tunafish plus tunafish equal fournafish?

 

[101194]

...Aint nothing but Bitches and Bastards in this world. Better find someone that's as self centered as you.

 

[lacktheknack]

1 + 1 = ?

10 if you're using/counting in binary,2 if you're using ternary or greater Numeral System

Or 11 if you're warped logically.

Or 69 if you're sexually minded, because this DOES involve relationships.

 

[Jedamethis]

1 + 1 = ?

10 if you're using/counting in binary,2 if you're using ternary or greater Numeral System

Or 11, window, and drawing of a window.

OT: I have no idea.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

DELETED

 

[VivaciousDeimos]

1 + 1 = ?

10 if you're using/counting in binary,2 if you're using ternary or greater Numeral System

There's also a proof that shows the answer can be 1.

 

[lacktheknack]

1+1...
2+2...

If two plus two equals four, does tunafish plus tunafish equal fournafish?

Four'n a fish sounds... well, creepy and dirty. Unless they're playing CoD, I guess.

Anyways, I watch these things destruct a ton, and don't plan to date until I'm serious about it.

 

[-Samurai-]

Money!

Seriously, money problems ruin most real* relationships.

*[small]Those little things teens have aren't relationships. They don't yet know what a real relationship consists of.[/small]

 

[Celtic_Kerr]

Humanity never ceases to fascinate and piss me off.

I know a girl in my class who's had a nice big chunk of boyfriends - all of them now ex-boyfriends. It wasn't long ago that the latest ex was added to her list, and as much as I love listening to her, as Yahzee puts it, "verbally assasinate him", it has made me wonder...

Now, after observations and personal experiences(not recent ones though, I have a lovely super nerd of a boyfriend myself at the moment) most relationships(especially teen ones) seem to end in fire and explosion because of terrible, terrible communication between the people in it.

Frankly, people now days seem to utterly forget this:

There are two people in a relationship.

Not just you; not just your partner. There's two people, which is what makes it both so wonderful, and complicated. You cannot forget about them, or yourself when you're in a relationship, yet people seem to do this all the time.

Now, I imagine some people might recognise this, and some might not get what the fork I'm talking about.

So, what do you think cause so many relationships these days to crash and burn? Bad communication or other things?

Opinions are very much welcome.

/TW

A mixture of maturity, communication, and trust. OH! And dedication to your significant other.

I had a gf once, not so long ago, that would blow me off for plans, saying she was cleaning her room and giving her old stuff to child charity, so I'd go out during the dauy, do my own thing, and speak to her that night, and get what she says:

"Oh, right that... Yeah, I got lazy, so I went and hung out with Katherine" She pulled this a few times, never told me when things were wrong, and hen she finally wanted to break up with me (Because she could see herself married to me 10 YEARS down the road), she didn't tell me for months, so by the time I finally got her to tell me, she'd already made her mind up on the matter. She said she'd rather take the easy way out than work on it and try for something.

I've never been terribly picky in my relationships. I ask only that my gf is honest and forthcoming with me, bringing any issues to me, and I try to make her as happy as is humanly possible. Obviously you can't promise anything, but I try. Communication and trust are so under valued nowadays, no wonder why relationships fail so bad

 

[HSIAMetalKing]

So, what do you think cause so many relationships these days to crash and burn? Bad communication or other things?


/TW

It's because your friends are immature-- break-ups don't need to be explosive and end in bitterness; that usually happens when a relationship is built upon a fickle foundation. These kids have no sense of what it means to engage in a real relationship and, when they realize that they no longer want to be a part of it they invent a crisis-- usually a completely stupid excuse-- and then they cling to that excuse no matter how you try to reason with them, frustrating both parties, which is how you get the deeply entrenched battles between exes.

Break-ups never need to end that way; mature individuals in a relationship are able to accept their incompatibility and move on without destroying the things which brought them together in the first place.

 

[Im Nightmare]

In this case, 1 + 1 = ?.

There aren't just 2 people in a relationship.
When you introduce your partner to your friends, they get involved in the relationship too.
The friends form an opinion of the partner.

And when/if you break up, who do you complain to?
More people than yourself, right?
Those are affected by the relationship too.

You can't just take a relationship for yourself, the two of you can't be in it alone.
It's fairly impossible.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

My friend whom I have known since the 3rd grade has a new girlfriend. Now before we use to hang out almost daily. We still hang out about 4-5 times a week. But now its three of us causing havoc on society.

 

[TraumaHound]

I'm going to go with something of the "grass is greener" theory presented above. I think relationships, as a whole, lasted longer when our "world" was smaller. Now, with nearly the entire multiverse at our digital fingertips (thanks Google, Wikipedia, and Match.com!) we can only take "right now" for so long before we realize it's become "right then" and we need to hit "REFRESH" on our lives. Our folks and more so our grand-folks had a much smaller world to be the centers of and as such had much smaller circles of influence to goad them into things like wondering if there's a more desirable mate waiting for them at the coffee shop around the corner. Now, those new-mates are a few clicks on our devices of choice away. I can't say that I'd prefer to live in that small-world but I can certainly appreciate the naivety that it provided seemingly not so long ago.

As for the 1+1 equation...*shrug*. I do know that 2+2=5, though:

Spoiler: Radiohead's 2+2=5 on Letterman