1 + 1 = ?

[MassiveGeek]

the fact that sheeple always believe the grass is better on the other side of the fence. i dont know anyone atm that is satisfied with their relationship, even though theyre together with and amazing guy/girl.

I'm very satisfied actually. XD So you technically know someone, hurr hurr.

 

[Ymbirtt]

The internet doesn't help. Removing all bounds to communication allows lovers to speak to each other 24/7. This does not help at all.

 

[hyperhammy]

The internet doesn't help. Removing all bounds to communication allows lovers to speak to each other 24/7. This does not help at all.

I agree, too much communication is never good.
Even if 1+1=2 each 1 still has his seperate life.

 

[Palademon]

Teens only care what people look like -_-
Apparently people have grown up by the time they get to college. I'm hoping for a date...

 

[Breaker deGodot]

Heat the moment lust. Then later you relise you don't actually like them and learning to love them is too much effort. In a relatiosip you have to compromise but people seem to forget that now.

This. Also, just plain old selfishness.

 

[Megacherv]

1 + 1 = ?

10 if you're using/counting in binary,2 if you're using ternary or greater Numeral System

There's also a proof that shows the answer can be 1.

Which is also wrong because it includes dividing by 0

They're teenagers, they're most likely have NO idea how a relationship works.

My ex really slandered me after we broke up, when I just took it well, because I knew it wasn't serious and never would be. I saw her today at my old high school (went to pick up a re-sat GCSE result, my friend is now going out with her who went to get his 1st-year GCSE results), and I swear she was massively embarrassed. I have no idea why, she just is.

Still hate her for being immature and totally making me look like a bad guy to loads of people, but that was to loads of people I don't like, so that doesn't matter to me.

 

[Slaanax]

Look into my eyes and its easy to one and one make two, two and one make three! Its Destiny!

 

[Raijha]

Money!

Seriously, money problems ruin most real* relationships.

*[small]Those little things teens have aren't relationships. They don't yet know what a real relationship consists of.[/small]

While I do agree that money can be a huge deal breaker in any relationship, I'd have to argue with you're other statement there. My wife and I met in high school at 14 and 15, we started dating a year later and are almost at our first wedding anniversary. (Now 24 and 25) If the couple are mature enough and able to work together through their problems, understand each other and make compromises, realize that its about the two of them being together, then yea, I think even teens can make it work. But like a lot of other people have been saying, for some people figuring that out can take a long time and mean many broken hearts.

 

[geldonyetich]

Personally I think the OP is being just a tad unfair. A high school girl certainly has the right to play the field. Until a couple has formally announced they are "going steady," they're more or less open to pursue other relationships, am I wrong?

"There are two people in this relationship, and you are not allowed to have a relationship with anyone else" is about the same sentiment as, "she puts the lotion in the basket or else she gets the hose again."

Flashes of abusive spouses who keep their domestic partners caged indoors and don't let them have any friends. If that's being done just because, "I feel a relationship is magical because there's only two of us," that does little to alleviate the overall creepiness.

 

[Kelthurin]

Bad communication, making assumptions (of what your partner thinks, how they would react to X or Y)
Less than complete honesty. Neglect. Apathy.

All a part of a (bad) breakup, I've learned.
I'm a part of that "club" of people who would rather talk things over calmly if there seems to be a problem in the relationship, instead of ignoring it, then potentially letting said problem grow.
Better to nip that shit in the bud, I say.
Makes for a more peaceful and enjoyable relationship. Or so the theory is.

In other words, I think good communication is KEY. Not necessarily talking 24/7 and not letting each other have some decent space as some have suggested(Honestly, was that the first thing that came to mind?), but to talk properly and honestly with each other when you do talk. Make compromises where compromises can be made, if needed at all.

There are two people in a relationship, each with their quirks, and each with their god-awful habits that annoy the crap out of the other person. If you don't talk about problems, or things that really annoy each of you, you'll be changing partners more often than you change your socks. And if that is indeed the case, and life throws you that many chances at experiencing some good 'ol happiness, then shame on you for wasting them.

My two cents.

 

[ThreeWords]

In my opinion, things go to crap because people follow a hedonistic mindset of seeking the greatest pleasure and end up sleeping together, then assuming that it must lead to a relationship, which then falls apart because it was built on the wrong foundations

Kids just don't think, or understand what relationships are like. It's even worse when they try to commit to a serious relationship, when they can't handle anything like that. Also, kids always think they are in love, when they only love the sex.

Am I a kid, at 16? Not to sound pretentious, but I do consider my relationships, and I do understand what a relationship should be like. While I concede that many people my age don't think and approach the whole business the wrong way (I have a friend who, like you say, always thinks it's true love, evry time, and every time, it breaks his heart), I resent us all being lumped together under one term because of our age

 

[child of lileth]

Kids just don't think, or understand what relationships are like. It's even worse when they try to commit to a serious relationship, when they can't handle anything like that. Also, kids always think they are in love, when they only love the sex.

Am I a kid, at 16? Not to sound pretentious, but I do consider my relationships, and I do understand what a relationship should be like. While I concede that many people my age don't think and approach the whole business the wrong way (I have a friend who, like you say, always thinks it's true love, evry time, and every time, it breaks his heart), I resent us all being lumped together under one term because of our age

No one directly called you a kid to begin with. And have you ever had someone depend on you to support them because they can't do it anymore, physically or otherwise, because of circumstances beyond both of your control? Have you ever had to help someone you're in a relationship with be able to afford the cost of living because something came up, and it affects the both of you directly? Have you ever had any kind of family with your partner in a relationship that you will also be responsible for?

Don't assume you've seen it all either just because you aren't in the majority.

 

[SpecklePattern]

So, what do you think cause so many relationships these days to crash and burn? Bad communication or other things?

Fast world has made it possible.

There are less and less of a 'my fair lady' type of getting known to people nowadays. Everything happens or people (in my sight) think that things must happen in an instant. Today we are making decisions faster than ever. Even big ones like getting married. I don't know if it is the sex saturated type of media or whatnot. And I don't actually care (I have never been history type of guy. Usually present is hard enough to understand for my tiny brains).

But what comes to younger population, OP is right in her insight, if I am asked. If I recall something fancy about growing as human we have two major stopping points what comes self identity. Something like 5 years old (don't hang me I can't really remember), and in teenager. Both hard, but as we know, the older type gets more noice and attention in general when the sex comes to play also. Youngsters getting all independent and all ;-)

And with sex comes todays media. TV spams sex and sexuality... Come to think of it. I think that it might have to do something with the media in general. Perhaps media is filling young minds with sexuality and strong personalities which quide their decisions in their relationships. I dunno... Just throwing thoughts.

There are two people in a relationship.

*snip*

EDIT: Another thing that came to mind, mostly about teens, is that when you don't understand yourself and you're still growing it's practically impossible to be in a stable relationship, because you're constantly changing/growing yourself(ans probably them as well). Just a side note, keep posting, you have interesting points that I love reading.

Yes.

If one does not know oneself, how can one have ability to know the partner in relationship and how can the partner grasp to that identity.

 

[Tharwen]

Well...

1 + 1 == 2
"1" .. "1" == "11"
1 + 1.0f == "Error: Cannot convert type 'float' to type 'integer'."

 

[Shycte]

It is tough to be in a relationship and it is much eaiser to just end it then go on with it. When teens have their flings don't expect there to be any touble, but there will be. They do not take thime to know eachother, in a healthy relationship you have a fundation of friendship building up a tower of power love.

I am at the age of 16 and have been with my 15 year old girlfriend for over 14 months. People often tell us how long that is but I don't really thing so. I'd say the reason is that I have taken her seriously and our relation seriously from second one and I know she does the same.

Mutal respect and try to to bath in the wrong thigh bay.

 

[Jiefu]

Young people charge headlong into things by their nature. People learn by making mistakes. These ephemeral teenage relationships are how people learn what they want, how to make others happy, and the other things required in a successful relationship.

 

[savandicus]

The biggest problem with relationships these days is honesty is you ask me, how often is the question 'whats wrong?' answered with 'Nothing'. Its really quite shocking how openly couples will lie to each other and for neither to care that one of them is telling such an obvious lie.

Communication in general is the biggest problem in my opinion.

 

[Outright Villainy]

In other words, I think good communication is KEY. Not necessarily talking 24/7 and not letting each other have some decent space as some have suggested(Honestly, was that the first thing that came to mind?), but to talk properly and honestly with each other when you do talk. Make compromises where compromises can be made, if needed at all.

Exactly. Problems get exponentionally worse the longer they're kept from each other. Even if it's something small, it means you're not exactly eye to eye and there can be a weird disconnect that can unravel pretty fast.
It's one of those things that should be hit over people's heads with a branding iron:
[HEADING=2]COMMUNICATE.[/HEADING]

 

[SpecklePattern]

Money!

Seriously, money problems ruin most real* relationships.

*[small]Those little things teens have aren't relationships. They don't yet know what a real relationship consists of.[/small]

While I do agree that money can be a huge deal breaker in any relationship, I'd have to argue with you're other statement there. My wife and I met in high school at 14 and 15, we started dating a year later and are almost at our first wedding anniversary. (Now 24 and 25) If the couple are mature enough and able to work together through their problems, understand each other and make compromises, realize that its about the two of them being together, then yea, I think even teens can make it work. But like a lot of other people have been saying, for some people figuring that out can take a long time and mean many broken hearts.

Hear hear. I can't also agree that money could be problem in a healthy relationship. Well I have been only 6 years now in a relationship and we have NEVER had money to spare (students) but we are just fine