Teacher! leave them kids alone!we should be able to mention that "Hey, a lot of maladjusted male youths play videogames!" without making other people feel excluded or insulted
Teacher! leave them kids alone!we should be able to mention that "Hey, a lot of maladjusted male youths play videogames!" without making other people feel excluded or insulted
A little pro-tip from a guy that goes out of his way to piss people off. A lot of an argument is tone and choice of words. To get someone to care what you think, you have to be very careful about what you say (and, before you start going off on one, this applies to EVERYONE), and from reading through what you've written, even without the joys of being able to hear you speak, your choice of words is entirely constructed to make your argument seem less worthwhile - combative, contrary and putting words into other people's mouths.girl_in_background said:Why, yes, actually, since I haven't seen my dad since I was three years old, and have since known two other men as my step-father, the first which only lasted four years, and the second which has lasted six but doesn't like teenagers, and teenage girls in particular, I would say that I have "daddy issues". And the fact that I have yet to meet any guy who genuinely cares what I think, or even respects me for who I am (as in, not calling me "*****", "whore", or "c-nt"), well, I would agree with you that I think that it's mostly men who should change. I'm sorry if the crap that spews from my brain offends you. I'll get back to the kitchen now.Jinxey said:"I think society would benefit from having a little bit more feminism injected into it. Not hardcore feminism, but more being in tune with your feelings, being able and willing to talk to someone about your problems, and not being afraid to show care and understanding, especially if you're a guy."
This is the kind of crap that does infuriate me >.<
I'm 100% happy being who I am - why do I have to be what you want me to be?
That whole quote makes it sound more like you have daddy issues than you care about mankind (in this use, specifically men) than anything.
I ain't broke don't fix me .
Thanks for seeing the good in that. Honestly, after I hit the post button, I had one of those moments where it's like "Ah, crap, shouldnt've done that...". So, if I offended anyone with my post, please accept my apology. The first post, I didn't mean for it to come off sounding the way it did, the second post, well... I don't have any excuse for it, so again, I am sorry. I must say, though, thank you for not just ripping me a new one, and actually pointing out what I did wrong. I'll work on rectifying those errors in the future.Chipperz said:A little pro-tip from a guy that goes out of his way to piss people off. A lot of an argument is tone and choice of words. To get someone to care what you think, you have to be very careful about what you say (and, before you start going off on one, this applies to EVERYONE), and from reading through what you've written, even without the joys of being able to hear you speak, your choice of words is entirely constructed to make your argument seem less worthwhile - combative, contrary and putting words into other people's mouths.girl_in_background said:Why, yes, actually, since I haven't seen my dad since I was three years old, and have since known two other men as my step-father, the first which only lasted four years, and the second which has lasted six but doesn't like teenagers, and teenage girls in particular, I would say that I have "daddy issues". And the fact that I have yet to meet any guy who genuinely cares what I think, or even respects me for who I am (as in, not calling me "*****", "whore", or "c-nt"), well, I would agree with you that I think that it's mostly men who should change. I'm sorry if the crap that spews from my brain offends you. I'll get back to the kitchen now.Jinxey said:"I think society would benefit from having a little bit more feminism injected into it. Not hardcore feminism, but more being in tune with your feelings, being able and willing to talk to someone about your problems, and not being afraid to show care and understanding, especially if you're a guy."
This is the kind of crap that does infuriate me >.<
I'm 100% happy being who I am - why do I have to be what you want me to be?
That whole quote makes it sound more like you have daddy issues than you care about mankind (in this use, specifically men) than anything.
I ain't broke don't fix me .
Honestly, if that's you (and it does seem that way), much like it is me, I say enjoy it. You'll never be taken seriously, but fully embraced, it lets you say whatever the fuck you want. Go on, try it, throw "****" randomly into a conversation with an authority figure - it's VERY liberating. When you've done this, come back and we'll cover step two - not getting caught
Also, never met my father, mother never remarried or even had a boyfriend, so that won't work on me
OT - I've read this before, and I still don't agree. Of course, I'm a grown man who has embraced his immature side with a vengeance, so it might just be that I don't see the bad side to wanting to gun shit down. Also, Dom kills his wife as a mercy killing, not out of a sense of mysoginist wankery.
I'm sorry. What I said was out of line. I'm sorry that I just spewed out the first crap that was on my brain, without taking the time to think about it first. Please accept my apology.Jinxey said:To reply in equal sarcasm,Why, yes, actually, since I haven't seen my dad since I was three years old, and have since known two other men as my step-father, the first which only lasted four years, and the second which has lasted six but doesn't like teenagers, and teenage girls in particular, I would say that I have "daddy issues". And the fact that I have yet to meet any guy who genuinely cares what I think, or even respects me for who I am (as in, not calling me "*****", "whore", or "c-nt"), well, I would agree with you that I think that it's mostly men who should change. I'm sorry if the crap that spews from my brain offends you. I'll get back to the kitchen now.
I'm sorry I got offended at your obvious distrust/dislike for mankind being a man.
/sarcasm
1.) I listened to you
2.) Stated my emotions (I am infuriated)
3.) Stated I have an opposing opinion without using the words *****, whore or **** to describe you.
Isn't that what you said you wanted in the first post? Lets review!
in tune with my feelings; check.I think society would benefit from having a little bit more feminism injected into it. Not hardcore feminism, but more being in tune with your feelings, being able and willing to talk to someone about your problems, and not being afraid to show care and understanding, especially if you're a guy
being able and willing to talk to someone about my problem; check. (my problem being you think I got a problem).
not afraid to show I care and understand; while I don't understand I haven't said you're stupid or anything, just stated my own opposing opinion that's a check in my book.
especially if you're a guy; check.
Peace, and I mean that-
oooohhhh kay ... I'm afraid of men too... mainly because every job I've lost was because of a guy, the one time I truly felt as though I may be murdered (not necessarily just killed like in a car accident) was due to a man, and it was my original thought that it would be men that are likely to beat me up (albeit history has actually proven this incorrect).Furrama said:snip
I hate to repost all of that, but I don't feel like trimming it.Epoetker said:Finally! A woman actually tells the truth about human nature when surrounded by guys! Stop the presses, the pigs are flying!Furrama said:After reading this article and some of the comments, (most of which are obviously men), I have only to say this:
It's frightening to be a woman- it always has been, and you gamer guys aren't making it any easier for those of us who have to live with you and game alongside you.
True. But keep in mind which particular members of the opposite sex it's scary to be around.Woman are weaker physically, and now and historically we have had a lot more to loose in our encounters with the opposite sex.
Whine, whine, whine, whine. There are very few misunderstandings that are not deliberate in male-female relations. And given that a woman's most valuable asset (at first) is her appearance, physicality, and sexuality, being treated as an object is a high honor for them-when the right man is treating her that way. And given how large a percentage of romance novels written by women have their first encounter with the man be a rape or near-rape experience, [http://www.welmer.org/2009/09/02/womens-rape-fantasies-the-deepest-taboo/] there's probably something about the definition of 'rape' that we're forgetting. And I see Mr van der Sloot is getting scads of marriage proposals. [http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/06/22/van-der-sloot-i-have-mult_n_620643.html]Misunderstanding, being treated as objects, rape
Because a man is usually firmly against rape until his wife does it to him. [http://roissy.wordpress.com/2007/08/28/female-rapists/] After that he tends to look the other way.- these are still prevalent today, and most have taken modern forms in the more 'civilized' countries.
When you appear in video games at all. The original Super Mario Bros. would have been just as good without the princess subplot. The original Half Life had no female characters at all. Men did not make video games to fantasize about YOU, princess. It can be fairly argued that men made videogames to get away from women, or occasionally to live in a world where the idealized woman was more often than not a Yamato Nadeshiko. [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/YamatoNadeshiko] Or an Action Girl. [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ActionGirl] The dreams of the unreflective prepubescent boy are either a girl like his mother or a girl that likes all the same stuff he does, after all.In videogames we see ourselves being made into objects to be oggled- we are hyper sexualized and one dimensional, and thats how the male fantasy wants it.
In order to be hyper-sexualized from a female standpoint, the male lead only has to be the alpha male. Women, being hypergamous, are turned on by social dominance, and most video game heroes are already the stars of their own games.(Male characters might be buff, but they aren't hyper sexualized- if they were they'd have giant erect penises, and cater to the desires of woman (or gay men), not to the male ego.)
What scares you deeply is that those beta males you either snubbed or paid no attention to will get revenge on you as soon as you lose your beauty. Or even worse, ignore you completely, as your intrinsic attractiveness has lost its value from overexposure. [http://biblicalmanhood.blogspot.com/2010/01/female-sexuality-ambient-porn-and-pink.html]And to think there are games where you can kill the hussy/prostitute/girl for no reason other than 'you can' to fulfill some male fantasy is something that scares me deeply.
You fear what you never even attempt to understand.I am afraid of men.
It only makes sense to not care about women if it seems that all women are against you already. Which isn't true. Just those women in powerful and influential positions. [http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/06/17/the-end-of-beta-providers/]Rape, in essence, is being treated as an object. Think about it... you don't care about her (or the general representation of women). They exist 'for you', to be feared, to be used for whatever pleasure you want at the time. When you treat a girl in a game as an object in order to act out your angst against women you are in essence raping all women, (or that woman if it is someone in particular).
You are humanity's great, squishy middle. Great genius and great stupidity alike are foreign to you. You are submissive, empty vessels. You cannot see past the end of your own nose. You worship power. And you understand everything except the abstract. You are the most vulnerable to advertising, the cult of personality, and bloc-voting. You are more racist and more insular than men. Where you dominate, chaos reigns. Where your presence abides, so does boredom, and excessive civility, and bland adherence to trends. Where you congregate, reason and folly alike flee. You are often dictators, or slaves, yet almost never a fellow citizen with equal standing before the law. When you see a system, whether it be democracy, dictatorship, marriage, or divorce, your first instinct is to subvert it to serve your own ends. You are far too close to your own nature to notice it at work.We are people. Human beings, with hopes and dreams. We are your mothers, sisters, and daughters. We as a gender are generally not represented in the gaming medium in any respectable way.
You have your greatest moments when attached to one man, yet you are the majority of those who initiate divorces.
You need the protection of civilization in order to be free, yet you reflexively tear down the 'boys clubs' that protect it.
Burn all feminist literature immediately, and without remorse. Oppose all feminist measures, as coldly and cruelly as necessary. Shun all openly feminist women, for they are the subverters of boyhood. Feminism kills family relations; of that there is no reasonable doubt.I am a young married woman with a good husband and a son... I don't want him to grow up like you.
Stop projecting the games you want to play onto your son. He'll most assuredly find a way to play them anyway, on his own. Go play throughHalf Life 2, the highest-rated game of all time, yourself, and then come back and convince me that video games are all about female exploitation. Or Zelda. Or Mario. Or even Halo. Play a real game that requires real concentration and a real time investment and serves real meaningful experiences and you might actually gain the insight to have a real conversation with your son down the line that seems to elude so many mothers these days. Self-denial is the first step toward understanding.I just want to be able to play Katamari or something with him when he gets older, and not worry about what dark path I might inadvertently be putting him on.
Then go get some real education on human nature. [http://www.isteve.com/] Quit listening to the vapid platitudes of the alpha guys and start actually listening to the nerds who built this society. [http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/06/08/the-true-creative-class/]
So, you're afraid that women are going to hurt your feelings.PaulH said:Say what you like, I am more regularly hurt by women than I am other men actually. Maybe women should change and cease their aggressive emotional sabotaging? Afterall I think most men in the western world would say with little hesitation that the biggest 'hurt' they have ever received was at the lips of a woman.
Dare I say it women probably cause 90% of male suicides (biggest cause of death in males under 45 in Australia). Emotional bullying by women hurt more than any physical torment I have ever received.
Yep, It's really weird how you don't want to give a fresh dose of murder to someone. People like you make me sick.FallenJellyDoughnut said:I never, ever felt the need to beat a woman to death in a videogame, but maybe I'm just strange like that
Are you seriously, in public, going to sit here and state that the most important thing about women is what they look like? Seriously?Epoetker said:Whine, whine, whine, whine. There are very few misunderstandings that are not deliberate in male-female relations. And given that a woman's most valuable asset (at first) is her appearance, physicality, and sexuality, being treated as an object is a high honor for them-when the right man is treating her that way.
Although if you've actually studied the field, you should be aware that the percentage of rape in romance novels has drastically declined over time. It was quite high when romance novels were a new genre. Why? SHAME. It was absolutely unimaginable that a "good" girl would seek out sex, so having the heroine be constantly ravished (by, of course, highly desirable men) was necessary in order to maintain her image as a heroine. That makes it all "not her fault" - she can still be good and noble and pure and everything that the reader wanted to identify with.And given how large a percentage of romance novels written by women have their first encounter with the man be a rape or near-rape experience, [http://www.welmer.org/2009/09/02/womens-rape-fantasies-the-deepest-taboo/] there's probably something about the definition of 'rape' that we're forgetting.
... Why do you assume that any given woman both has beauty and snubs so-called beta males?What scares you deeply is that those beta males you either snubbed or paid no attention to will get revenge on you as soon as you lose your beauty.
Precisely. Both sexes use their sex as weapons to a degree. The fallacy of 'there's no female bullies' has been disproven. That being said it really doesn't help when people talk abut bullying and they automatically assume 'oh it's a bunch of guys in primary school/high school 'binning' weaker guys'. I would think this is why the computer entertainment industry has developed the way it has.hanako said:So, you're afraid that women are going to hurt your feelings.PaulH said:Say what you like, I am more regularly hurt by women than I am other men actually. Maybe women should change and cease their aggressive emotional sabotaging? Afterall I think most men in the western world would say with little hesitation that the biggest 'hurt' they have ever received was at the lips of a woman.
Dare I say it women probably cause 90% of male suicides (biggest cause of death in males under 45 in Australia). Emotional bullying by women hurt more than any physical torment I have ever received.
That's a valid fear. It doesn't mean that there IS an evil conspiracy of women out there actively scheming to hurt your feelings, of course, but fearing hurt is a legitimate thing to be afraid of.
However, most women in the western world are afraid that they are going to be raped and murdered. Again, this doesn't mean there actually ARE roving rape gangs in the streets of Australia, but this is what they fear. Particularly since both rape and murder happen quite a lot, and when they do happen, public reaction is usually to claim that it was all the victim's fault for not being on guard enough.
What they fear is kind of more dangerous than what you fear, and this can tend to make them quite angry when the fears are compared.
"Men" do not need to change in order to stop the rapes and murders, because MOST men are not rapists and murderers. "Women" do not need to change their "aggressive emotional sabotaging" because most women are not actually out to get you. For that matter, men can be raped, men can be murdered, and men can be emotionally abusive. Men and women are really not so different most of the time.
PEOPLE need to change, to recognise when SOME PEOPLE do bad things, attempt to prevent them from doing so, and support people who have had bad things happen to them. All of this "I NEED A SPECIAL MAN PLACE TO BE MANLY IN" (or for that matter, a special woman place to be womanly) is not helping.
... wait, are you only talking about what's most important in terms of heterosexual people meeting each other with the intent of forming relationships? That puts a slightly different spin on what you're saying. Because I'm baffled at the idea that you would evaluate an artist or mechanic or manager solely on her appearance.Epoetker said:Because men are interested in beauty and women are interested in small-s social security.Do you think the same thing is true for men? If not, why not?
No - from about 100% to under 5%, thus averaging out at around 50-60% overall.And given how large a percentage of romance novels written by women have their first encounter with the man be a rape or near-rape experience, [http://www.welmer.org/2009/09/02/womens-rape-fantasies-the-deepest-taboo/] there's probably something about the definition of 'rape' that we're forgetting.From about %100 to just around %50-%60?Although if you've actually studied the field, you should be aware that the percentage of rape in romance novels has drastically declined over time.
Which point? I'm agreeing with you that the "rapist hero" was a very common thing in early romance novels. This is a provable fact, it would be silly for me to deny it.You're not exactly defeating my point hereIt was quite high when romance novels were a new genre. Why? SHAME. It was absolutely unimaginable that a "good" girl would seek out sex, so having the heroine be constantly ravished (by, of course, highly desirable men) was necessary in order to maintain her image as a heroine. That makes it all "not her fault" - she can still be good and noble and pure and everything that the reader wanted to identify with.
Not really. See Twilight, for example. Now, I must admit up front that I have not read it, I've only read a lot of reviews and essays discussing it. But it's VERY popular, there are hordes of female readers, and plenty of them are young.In other words, romance novels have become less about rape because fewer women are reading, and the ones left over are the older, tireder, or more intellectual women who still have an imagination. But the larger mass of females has moved toward visual media to get their kicks.
If fully-consensual sex six months after getting married when you've finally come to love and trust each other counts as "almost raped" in your worldview, it'll be difficult to have anything resembling a sensible discussion here.In other words, modern romance novels go for the kinda-sorta-almost-raped-but-not-really-because-I-liked-it view.Modern romance novels find that idea squicky. Characters are pushed together in forced marriages, but the sex in general now tends to wait until both partners consent.
*eyeroll*Fewer forms to fill out?There are, of course, some people both male and female with 'rape fetishes', and there's nothing wrong with that - fantasy rape is not at all the same as the real thing.
No, men who are of good alignment support feminist legislation because they support equality and human rights. Men who are not of good alignment laugh and point and squawk about how ugly all the feminists are, and how clearly they'll never be able to get a man. Somehow missing the point that diehard feminists don't give a shit if Joe Random thinks they're ugly and doesn't want to screw them.But if men did not defer to your standard fairly beautiful women, they would lose their power even more quickly, since deference to beautiful, innocent or vulnerable women is one of the biggest mental reasons why men support feminist legislation.
I have to address this for memetic reasons. Even in that particular report, the number was a third, not 60%. Most large-scale research puts the number at about 10-20%, although individual studies have found false rates going anywhere from 5% to 45%. However, people tend to repeat things and shade them in the direction of their own personal beliefs, causing the numbers to become increasingly more inflated, which is where you get some people claiming 1% and some people claiming 80% without a scrap of truth behind either.PaulH said:Even 'rape' is no longer a 'male' problem in modern society. It seems as though there is a greater number of false rape allegations then there are real instances of rape. Which hurts both true victims of rape, but also punishes men who have done no wrong and victiizes them due to psychotic women. This is a recorded phenomenon that was first brought to light by an internal review by the USAF back in the 80's due to heightened numbers of 'rape' cases being prosecuted in military courts. They discovered that 60% of cases were completely fictional ... that didn't stop the majority of the defendants in these cases being sent to prison or otherwise having their lives shattered despite being found innocent later on.
My bad ... the figure is moreso (or should say *atleast*) 50%. 25% of the women admitted to the USAF internal review that their allegations were false when asked to take a lie detector test. A further 15% of the original number of case accusers afterwards admitted they falsified the charges after an independant review of the allegations within the 9 year period.hanako said:I have to address this for memetic reasons. Even in that particular report, the number was a third, not 60%. Most large-scale research puts the number at about 10-20%, although individual studies have found false rates going anywhere from 5% to 45%. However, people tend to repeat things and shade them in the direction of their own personal beliefs, causing the numbers to become increasingly more inflated, which is where you get some people claiming 1% and some people claiming 80% without a scrap of truth behind either.PaulH said:Even 'rape' is no longer a 'male' problem in modern society. It seems as though there is a greater number of false rape allegations then there are real instances of rape. Which hurts both true victims of rape, but also punishes men who have done no wrong and victiizes them due to psychotic women. This is a recorded phenomenon that was first brought to light by an internal review by the USAF back in the 80's due to heightened numbers of 'rape' cases being prosecuted in military courts. They discovered that 60% of cases were completely fictional ... that didn't stop the majority of the defendants in these cases being sent to prison or otherwise having their lives shattered despite being found innocent later on.
False rape claims happen, and yes, they can damage people's lives (although it's highly unlikely for lives to be *destroyed* unless there's not only a false claim but a terrible trial and an incorrect verdict. The Duke boys' lives certainly weren't ruined, although they were VERY inconvenienced for a while there.)