A hard choice.

[Justank]

You should probably just mind your own business.

I took the liberty of checking your profile. At 14 you don't need for your relationships to match adult relationships. Leave your friend to do his thing, if it doesn't go well...so be it.

Also, you've known her a week and she's already on a pedestal?

That's a bit of a revelation. One week being close + alcohol + FOURTEEN is a bad combination.

 

[AugustFall]

I never said I, myself was better than him, he's a good guy, but he's one of my best friends, I know him too well and I have, seen him devastate relationships. I could be about as hopeless. He almost had sex with about 3 other girls when going out with someone he was trying to get to like him for months.

And because he has fucked up you don't think he should be allowed to go out with anyone? Or just people you like?

Are you forgetting that this girl you like is part of this relationship too? What does that say about her?

 

[Blights]

You should probably just mind your own business.

I took the liberty of checking your profile. At 14 you don't need for your relationships to match adult relationships. Leave your friend to do his thing, if it doesn't go well...so be it.

Also, you've known her a week and she's already on a pedestal?

I apologize for trying to be mature enough to talk about something I thought was a real matter, and since you're what... 27? You don't think things have changed since you were my age?

Yeah, maybe I might be a little immature for shit like this, but I've known loads of people who are married to someone they went out with at 14-15, it may be a long shot but mature relationships start at around that age.

And I'm sure you've never felt the same about someone like that before? She's in most of my classes so yeah, I do get to talk to her alot.

 

[Blights]

I never said I, myself was better than him, he's a good guy, but he's one of my best friends, I know him too well and I have, seen him devastate relationships. I could be about as hopeless. He almost had sex with about 3 other girls when going out with someone he was trying to get to like him for months.

And because he has fucked up you don't think he should be allowed to go out with anyone? Or just people you like?

Are you forgetting that this girl you like is part of this relationship too? What does that say about her?

I don't think she knows too much about that relationship, plus they were rather tipsy. Still, I'm not saying I'd rather he'd go out with no-one, just until he manages to handle a relationship properly I'd want him atleast to try and do something other than get her drunk.

 

[theguitarhero6]

I'd say just let the relationship proceed, bro.
Its better not to intervene, 'cuz he could pin the break up on you in the future (if hes that kinda guy).
But I feel that if you just let it be, you'll be better off in the end.

 

[astrav1]

Well I would ask first why you are friends with this alleged dipshit, but on a more relevant topic, talk it out. Maybe you can make him see the light.

 

[Jazzyjazz2323]

Be a good friend and don't undercut him stay supportive and do what's in his best interest not yours.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

You should probably just mind your own business.

I took the liberty of checking your profile. At 14 you don't need for your relationships to match adult relationships. Leave your friend to do his thing, if it doesn't go well...so be it.

Also, you've known her a week and she's already on a pedestal?

I apologize for trying to be mature enough to talk about something I thought was a real matter, and since you're what... 27? You don't think things have changed since you were my age?

Yeah, maybe I might be a little immature for shit like this, but I've known loads of people who are married to someone they went out with at 14-15, it may be a long shot but mature relationships start at around that age.

And I'm sure you've never felt the same about someone like that before? She's in most of my classes so yeah, I do get to talk to her alot.

I'm 24, and no...things haven't changed all that much in the last 10 years...don't be silly. Facebook is popular now, Myspace was big back then...everything else was more-or-less the same.

At 14 I was(and still am)all about fun. There will be plenty of time later in life to be on "love-triangle" episodes of the Jeremy Kyle show. On a very basic level, the things you do...you will have to live with, so conduct yourself with class(by respecting your friend and minding your own business). You might not get the girl this time, but at least you can keep your friend and your self-respect by not doing anything stupid.

 

[NewClassic_v1legacy]

Everything from this post up has been a reply in Off-Topic. Just so you guys know. :3

On topic: I think you should honestly talk it out with him. He's your friend, so you should want to help him out with relationships. If if doesn't work out, then you tried. If you didn't try, then you'll never be sure.

Just my quick two cents.

 

[BonsaiK]

One of the reasons why I like this Advice Forum so much is because it saves me a lot of typing. Just follow Trivun's advice, I think that's quite good.

 

[Zaik]

First off, I'd like to nip the "i like her too" thing in the bud. Any girl who goes hopping around to their boyfriend's friends does it 100% of the time. Bros before hoes exists, not only because a real friend has somewhere between 100% to over 9000% chance of sticking with you than any slut that will jump from friend to friend, but because any slut that will jump from friend to friend will jump to one of your friends too. Don't believe a damn thing she says about how bad xyz thing he does is, they ALL talk that shit about their boyfriends ALL the time, except for the ones that get off on being treated badly and don't bother to keep it a secret.

Now, on to the actual problem. Just let it crash like it always does. He's your friend and you should respect his right to intentionally ground relationships like a quarterback with a shitty offensive line. If he wants your help, he'll ask. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, that's really just how it is. If a friend of mine wanted to talk to me about how i handle women, I'd ask him if he's prepping me for his mother.

Your friend probably just knows that there's a ton of women in the world and there's no sense in getting attached to any old one that happened to throw herself at him while they were drunk, and enjoyed herself enough to make it a ritual.

 

[coolicus]

Okay, so one of my best friends has started going out with a girl, normally I'd be happy for him, but I like her too, which sucks for me.

I've only really gotten to know her over the past week, but she's amazing and I do really like her. But see, my friend isn't so good with a relationship. Us and some friends went out on a saturday, they got drunk and ended up having each others tongues down each others mouths in the bathroom, right, he knows how to do... that. But his last relationships ended up with him and the girlfriend only really talking on those kinds on nights, half conscious and unaware of everything.

He's going to fuck it up, and I'm not being mean, he is, badly. But there are two things I can do.

1) Wait, I can let it play out and let it blow over, they'll break up, I know it.

2) Talk to both of them, and get him to do something more than just on those saturday nights.

What should I do?

Also: I know this is a gaming forum, and that you people probably don't want to give out or listen to relationship advice, but I feel safe on this site and knowing there a people like me on this site comforts me.

EDIT: Can a mod move this to the Advice Forum? Cheers in advance.

Edit: This has been moved from Off-Topic. -Mod

To be honest I know its so annoying when someone takes this attitude but I don't think you have a very healthy attitude and here's a heads up:

As a 14 year old its very unlikely your going to get a long term lasting relationship - it's just the nature of things. But its even less likely when you are hanging around like a vulture for your bud to mess up and then try and swoop in and start going out with the girl. Hell it might work out but its more than likely you are going to seriously upset and possibly lose your friend because he will be incredibly jealous for the dickish move you pulled. Basically if you are after a pull there are other places to look rather than going down a slippery slope for something you probably wont have in even a years time. I'd say let what happens happen and at least have the good grace to talk to your friend about liking her too and giving it some time if indeed they do fall apart before moving in if you really must.

That's just my two cents though your only young you can afford to make plenty of mistakes .

Yes when you become an adult you will be a douche like this too.

 

[Cupid]

Your first option worries me slightly. "They'll break up eventually" is not a healthy attitude to have in this situation, but nevertheless, I would recommend letting the situation unfold.

I would do this too. It's best to stay out of others relationships as much as you can, especially if there is the interest on your end.

 

[Aurgelmir]

Okay, so one of my best friends has started going out with a girl, normally I'd be happy for him, but I like her too, which sucks for me.

I've only really gotten to know her over the past week, but she's amazing and I do really like her. But see, my friend isn't so good with a relationship. Us and some friends went out on a saturday, they got drunk and ended up having each others tongues down each others mouths in the bathroom, right, he knows how to do... that. But his last relationships ended up with him and the girlfriend only really talking on those kinds on nights, half conscious and unaware of everything.

He's going to fuck it up, and I'm not being mean, he is, badly. But there are two things I can do.

1) Wait, I can let it play out and let it blow over, they'll break up, I know it.

2) Talk to both of them, and get him to do something more than just on those saturday nights.

What should I do?

Also: I know this is a gaming forum, and that you people probably don't want to give out or listen to relationship advice, but I feel safe on this site and knowing there a people like me on this site comforts me.

EDIT: Can a mod move this to the Advice Forum? Cheers in advance.

Edit: This has been moved from Off-Topic. -Mod

This is probably several months past when you would like any sort of help on this, but I am at work; bored... so you get my opinion anyways (yay internet)



Ever stopped to think what she want?

I mean there are three people in this drama, you, him and her. Yet you only presented what you want, and what your friend seem to want.