Oathy said:
To me, it's first how he moves and carries himself. If he's all shrugged over and looks awkward, then i assume he's shy and not really confident in himself. To me, I like guys who show a bit of confidence yet aren't cocky about it. A nice smile always gets to me
This, this, this. We have a female winner here.
In my experience as a philanderer, what gets women
to open up is confidence, comfort with oneself, and assertiveness in body and speech. Keeping a warm, yet slightly intimidating eye contact (I'd fall in love with my own eye contact, so imagine girls), smile, cocky attitude in the face (they all say they don't like cocky, just like all guys say they don't want a Megan Fox. Yeah right.), torso straight, shoulders back, and lack of hesitation. Being able to make her feel you're dominant, comfortable, daring, fun to be with. A total lack of neediness, that you do not need her approval. That you can make her feel good about a human being, that you can hold a conversation, make her laugh without acting like a clown for her approval, that you are actually interested about her as a person, not as a piece of meat. And, finally, knowing what you want and reach for it without apology or uncertainty.
The bad news is, you have it or you don't. Either girls react, look down, smile, prep themselves, and act open and submissive, or they don't. The good news is, it can be developed, it can be honed, and it can be improved with time, experience, and doing certain things to improve oneself (hitting the gym, changing one's cloth style, standing one's ground, knowing one's core values, practicing eye contact and body language control, and so on). Only one thing is required: balls.
Want to have a coffee? Ask her number if you really need to go want to try later, OR ask her on a date right now, today. Just tell her that you want to have a coffee. If she follows, guess what, it's a date and she's into the idea.
Want to have sex? Touch her, make her feel good, make her go in the mood by dancing, pulling, pushing, teasing, kissing, playing with her. Follow her feedback, go smooth, make her feel a part of this dance. And then, have actually the guts to go for the kill, by asking her to go to your house or to her house and do it. If I start touching her and I don't get a "don't touch me", a slap in the face, or her leaving me, or anything resembling that, it's all a matter of making her comfortable and at ease with the idea.