But the woman is also obviously aware that she's in a relationship, yet still made no efforts to stop the guy's advances. And if she's aware enough to think about a condom (even if one ultimately wasn't used) then I don't think she's drunk enough that it should be assumed the guy took advantage of her.00slash00 said:as i said, it gets significantly more complicated when both people are drunk but the person who is the least drunk is the one i would place most of the blame on. no, i dont think being drunk means you arent responsible for your actions. that is why i blame the guy even if he was drunk. the fact that the dude seems to have known she was in a relationship, was less drunk than her, and initiated things, leads me to the conclusion that she is the victim in this situation. she definitely deserves some of the blame for getting so wasted but i would still place the vast majority of it upon his shouldersb3nn3tt said:Quick question for you. What if the guy was an 8 on the scale of drunkenness? That would make him more sober than the girl, but far from sober, would you still consider him 'responsible'?00slash00 said:short answer: that guy is scum. if she was obviously wasted and especially if she had a boyfriend, he is a complete bastard for taking advantage of her.
if the guy is also drunk then things get a little murky. in general, i would say the person with the most control over their actions (ie, the person who is less drunk) would bear the responsibility. since the girl in your story seems to pretty much be too drunk to move im gonna put the blame on the guy. in any case, i see this guy as a 10 and a rapist
From the OP I think it sounded like the guy had also been drinking, so I think it's unfair to label him a rapist.
Also, do you think being drunk absolves people of responsibility? Genuine question, I'm curious about your view on that.
I agree with you that the guy is not very nice indeed, but I think claiming that the situation is akin to rape is too far.