A Senior Dating an 8th Grader

[Escapist Account]

To make a long story short, my cousin is dating my friend. Now let me add a few details. My friend is 18 years of age and a senior in high school, my cousin is in 8th grade, they have been dating for 2 months, and they have never seen each other in real life. Not even once. They live 2.5 hours away from each other and they met each other via a Xbox live party hosted by yours truly. I don't have much of an opinion on this but I do constantly tease them about the situation.

So members of the Escapist, I want to know how you feel about relationships between high school seniors and 8th graders. Or other similar relationships.

EDIT: To make this clear, they ARE dating. They just met each other via xbox live and now they are in a long distance relationship. And they Skype each other everyday. Whether they do this naked or not I do not know.

 

[Eldarion]

Is 8th grade freshmen year? Its been a while, I don't remember.

Anyway, if its a healthy relationship then its fine by me.

 

[artanis_neravar]

How old is the 8th grader?

 

[Astoria]

If they haven't actually met they aren't really dating. When it comes to teenage dating I find it gets creepy when there's more than two years difference. My sister who's 14 started dating a 19 year old and let's just say it didn't end well.

 

[Dags90]

Anyone who wants to be in a relationship with an 8th grader probably isn't mature enough to be in a relationship, including 8th graders. As long as there's no fucking or CP though, "online date" away.

You're sure your cousin isn't an undercover FBI agent though, right?

 

[DeadlyYellow]

Is 8th grade freshmen year? Its been a while, I don't remember.

Anyway, if its a healthy relationship then its fine by me.

Ninth is freshman.

And meh. It's long distance and nonphysical.

 

[KefkaCultist]

For those wondering: 8th grade is before freshman year and usually the ages 13-15 depending on late/early birthdays and what not whereas senior is like ages 17-19. (In america, fyi)

Anyway, its not reeeealy dating if they've never met. Its probably just a "thing" that wont last long. Still, you friend is kind of a creep imo.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Is 8th grade freshmen year? Its been a while, I don't remember.

Anyway, if its a healthy relationship then its fine by me.

8th Grade is the year before freshman year, so they would be 13/14

 

[jesoneric]

Ask your friend if he can score me a Chris Hanson autograph.

 

[Littlee300]

How old is the 8th grader?

Usually fourteen. Sometimes thirteen.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Also this is bordering on Pedophilia tell your friend to back off if he doesn't want to be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life

 

[artanis_neravar]

How old is the 8th grader?

Usually fourteen. Sometimes thirteen.

Yeah I just did the math lol, thanks though

 

[Goofguy]

When I first read the thread title, I thought the OP meant a senior citizen. In comparison to that, this seems alright to me, I guess.

 

[Phlakes]

First, an 8th grader in a "long distance relationship"... Well, I see it ending very, very soon.

Second, that much of a difference in age is just weird. If it was 30 and 35, that would be normal, but the ratio is wrong here.

 

[Risingblade]

This won't end well

 

[Veldel]

Thats nothing my teacher i had in HS was 60 and his wife was 27 and they had children


Now imgine that for a momment


OT: Eh it wont last long

 

[DSQ]

It seems a bit werid but it is only 5yrs diff. My friend s parnt are 10yrs apart in age.

Maybe the 13yr old is mature or vice versa.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

For those wondering: 8th grade is before freshman year and usually the ages 13-15 depending on late/early birthdays and what not whereas senior is like ages 17-19. (In america, fyi)

This would have been useful in the OP. Not everywhere operates under the same school structure.

Anyway, preeetty creepy. He's an adult and she is basically still a child. Barely even a teen. But as long as it's nonphysical, why the fuck not.
Still, I think the best possible outcome here is that they just get bored of it and stop. I mean, it can't really GO anywhere. Not unless they plan to stay together mostly platonically for like four or five years.

And seeing as one of them is a fucking early adolescent (and the other is the kind of dude who would DATE an early adolescent), I really don't see that happening.

 

[squidtm]

Minimum age you can date without seeming creepy= (1/2*your age)+7, so even if the 8th grader is 14, it seems bad. That said, I wouldn't expect this to become serious in any way, so you should just let it play out however it does.