About a girl

[Lilbeets]

I know this isnt the place to post girl issues but I need help. Okay its kind of a long story but ill shorten it up this girl and I had something and lost it im trying to get it back I broke the barrier of her agreeing to go on a date with me to the movies, I know I have competition how do I make myself look better than them, and what should I do in the movies? how should I act?

 

[Erana]

Chivalrous.

If the girl's worth anything, she'll appreciate a well-mannered male.

 

[Hazy]

Don't come on too strong, let her lead. If she does subtle things like: Looking at your eyes constantly, smiling, and usual signs on acceptance (It's pretty self explanatory at this point) But what type of competition do you mean? Another guy?

 

[Erana]

Chivalrous.

Not unless he actually is chivalrous by nature.
Lying isn't going to get you anywhere, OP.

You should act like yourself.
Yes, I am aware how cliche that is.

Well, he asked how to make himself look better than the competition, not what is morally just and what wcould lead to a healthy relationship...

 

[Skizle]

be yourself, if she cant accept you for who you are then fuck it.
also dont talk about video games the entire time, i know someone that doesnt understand this aspect, in fact keep video game talk down to none

 

[AlexTheBucket2112]

Chivalrous.

If the girl's worth anything, she'll appreciate a well-mannered male.

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Don't come on too strong, let her lead. If she does subtle things like: Looking at your eyes constantly, smiling, and usual signs on acceptance (It's pretty self explanatory at this point) But what type of competition do you mean? Another guy?

AND this

 

[JRCB]

Just be yourself. If she likes you, she should like you for who you are. Don't let a girl change you.

EDIT: But changing yourself for the better may be a good thing. Like better hygiene, swearing less, et cetera.

 

[JC175]

Take a well weighted throwing knife and place it up your sleeve. If the said competition arrives, let them have it with a smooth snap of the wrist.

Seriously though? Don't try too hard. That's the thing that kills it, every time. Just try to relax and be yourself, you don't need to be cracking a joke every 30 seconds to keep her interested.

Oh, and see a good movie. Preferably one that's liable to make women cry.

 

[bad rider]

Well if you lost her, try looking in the last place you left her, that's what I'd do.

 

[Lilbeets]

Don't come on too strong, let her lead. If she does subtle things like: Looking at your eyes constantly, smiling, and usual signs on acceptance (It's pretty self explanatory at this point) But what type of competition do you mean? Another guy?

Well I mean their are other guys probably, and to add on I really like this girl a lot theirs like a book I could write about us...

 

[LilGherkin]

Posts like these make me wish I could watch everything that went on in the world.

But my advice would be to pray he screws up on his own than move in, not to strong though.

 

[NewGeekPhilosopher]

Don't come on too strong, let her lead. If she does subtle things like: Looking at your eyes constantly, smiling, and usual signs on acceptance (It's pretty self explanatory at this point) But what type of competition do you mean? Another guy?

Well I mean their are other guys probably, and to add on I really like this girl a lot theirs like a book I could write about us...

You ever read Train Man by Hitori Nakano? It's about a Japanese otaku who saves a girl on a train from a drunk guy and he falls in love with her, but he's so desperate for help he gets his forum buddies on 2Channel to give him advice. It could have ended up horribly, but thank God that true story had a happy ending...

 

[Sneakist]

Seriously though? Don't try too hard. That's the thing that kills it, every time. Just try to relax and be yourself, you don't need to be cracking a joke every 30 seconds to keep her interested.

Basically this, as well as chivalry.

Also, if you believe that she's truly into you, then you shouldn't have to be worried about competition.

 

[AlexTheBucket2112]

Don't come on too strong, let her lead. If she does subtle things like: Looking at your eyes constantly, smiling, and usual signs on acceptance (It's pretty self explanatory at this point) But what type of competition do you mean? Another guy?

Well I mean their are other guys probably, and to add on I really like this girl a lot theirs like a book I could write about us...

You ever read Train Man by Hitori Nakano? It's about a Japanese otaku who saves a girl on a train from a drunk guy and he falls in love with her, but he's so desperate for help he gets his forum buddies on 2Channel to give him advice. It could have ended up horribly, but thank God that true story had a happy ending...

How very Ironic!

 

[Seldon2639]

I know this isnt the place to post girl issues but I need help. Okay its kind of a long story but ill shorten it up this girl and I had something and lost it im trying to get it back I broke the barrier of her agreeing to go on a date with me to the movies, I know I have competition how do I make myself look better than them, and what should I do in the movies? how should I act?

First, it's not a problem to ask for advice here.

To your main question:

Don't be too ostentatious about it. If you try to hard (especially if you look like it), you can end up coming off as creepy and desperate (two really unattractive things), and you'll end up having wasted a lot more energy if it doesn't work. If you don't normally do things like hold open doors (even though you should), or if you act nice to her but not to other people, not only does it really make you a jerk, but it probably won't help.

Be nice, be attentive, don't put the other guys down. You might even try being direct about your intentions (to go out with her). Either it'll work, or you'll be able to skip right to the getting over it phase.

If you do get her to go out with you, avoid the cliches. Don't surreptitiously put your arm around her (you're probably not that smooth). Don't be bawdy, or rude. Most of all, don't psyche yourself out, it's just going out. If you treat it like she's the last girl on earth, you'll shoot yourself in the foot. Try to be comfortable, since even if you can't be with her again, maybe you can be friends.

 

[Desert_Storm]

I guess you can be polite a bit but opening her car door
writing love poems and singing out front her window will get you
a restraining order
Be Cocky Funny and sarcastic

=D works like a charm for me.

Look at the competition if she does like him
How does he act try to see what he does differently to you
and be better than him.

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

Just be polite, ask her about her day, invite her to a keggar-

NO! BAD MATTHEW! Stay away from achohol unless she says something first. And listen to the other people on here. They probably have better ideas than me.

 

[Lilbeets]

Heres the whole story so everyone can be informed of what situation im in... Okay so this starts a year and a half ago she was in my class and I had my friend who was her best friend mention me to her so she and I started talking and we hung out halloween in 2007 and had a really great time at a little party kind of thing and then back to school her best friend ( my friend) said she wants me to kiss her. So here's what ive been regretting ever since that time we were gonna hang out that sunday and i was thinking im gonna kiss her .... i never did call me what you want .... Then after asking her to be my girlfriend she said no then the net day she went out with some other guy .... So I tried to cover up my feelings for her with another girl. Then when she broke up with that guy i started talking to her again and I told her after the appropriate waiting time I told her I still had feelings for her and she said we can go on a date, then my friend whos not my friend anymore texted her saying this shit about me like o you guys are going out and w.e. and then when i got home I told her my friend is a dick in a text message and other shit she didnt reply for a while so I started talking with the other girl and it ended with me and her going out and then as soon as that happened she said dont worry about it we still have that date right? so yeah I hate myself because I went out with this girl for a good chunk of my life and now i started talking to the girl i really like again who i got to agree to go on a date with me and i saw pics of her at a party and asked her friend whats up and she said "well you have a little competition not much I think you have them beat but try hard" so ive become dedicated to kiss her on the movies but idk if i should and im really nervous idk wht to do im lost im going in circles...

 

[New Troll]

If she doesn't like you for you, then she's not the girl for you. Quit worrying about competition and just be yourself. If the two of you don't hit it off, there's other girls out there who you will mesh with.

Good luck, but if it doesn't work out, just don't sweat it. Your day will come.

 

[Erana]

Chivalrous.

Not unless he actually is chivalrous by nature.
Lying isn't going to get you anywhere, OP.

You should act like yourself.
Yes, I am aware how cliche that is.

Well, he asked how to make himself look better than the competition, not what is morally just and what wcould lead to a healthy relationship...

...I guess you have a point, loathe as I am to admit defeat. <color=white> To a gurrrl.
Still, I never liked the idea of hiding who you are from someone you plan on developing a relationship with, friends or otherwise.

Which is strange because goddamn do I love to lie.

Anyway, OP, if you're interested solely in making yourself look better...you'd have to tell us more about the girl, I guess.
But yeah, being polite and gentlemanly is a pretty sure thing for most girls.

<color=white>I was kidding about the "to a girl" thing, but you probably knew that.

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