Lynx said:
Me and my boyfriend of three years broke up last night. It sucked. It sucks. More than anything, it sucks that he's my home, my best friend, he's the number one guy I call when I feel like shit, and now when I indeed feel very shitty, he's the one person I can't call.
But all wounds close up eventually. Let yourself grieve, but don't get stuck. If you feel like crying or yelling in the middle of the day; take a time out, let it out, then go back to shool or work or whatever it is you do the rest of the day. Keep busy, meet friends, and be kind to yourself. Wait it out and don't forget that you've come out on the other side before, and you will again.
Oh no, lovely
*hugs* I'm always just a PM away if you need to talk
OT: Very good advice just above actually. It sounds cliché but time
is a healer. Distance yourself from the one who broke your heart and you'll be able to pull through eventually.
It'll take time, and how much time it will take is dependant on the individual.
It fucking sucks and the first heartbreak is the worst because it's a million new feelings you don't know how to deal with or you don't know how much pain you can potentially handle emotionally.
It doesn't get easier as you get older, but the healing process does because you know you've come out of getting your heart kicked in the arse a better person and you will do again.
If you have to take a day out where you want to sob uncontrollably and stuff ice cream into your mouth, then go for it. Getting your emotions and frustrations out is a good thing.
Take up a new hobby, try your hand at a few things until you find something that feels right.
Exercise. Dance. Go for walks and clear your mind. Put music and belt out a tune. Take up a martial art.
Use your feelings to progress, if your emotionas are bottled up, release them when you exercise. You'll look and feel better too.
Avoid crappy, sugary foods. They make you feel worse and make you bloated which will affect your confidence.
Listen to your favourite bands. Take time out with your friends, just take your mind off it. Start dating again, even if you're not 100% ready, just get to know some more people and see what it can develop into.
Everyone's go their own ways to deal with it, but that's what I find helps.
Keep yourself surrounded by people who love you. It's easy to sink in depression, unbeknown to yourself and stay there. Friends and family will be able to help you out of it and get you some help.
There's always someone you can turn to and you'll come out of it a stronger person.