All I'm saying is what I would do myself, however ignorant it may be. It's got more to do with my unwillingness to tolerate the situation the OP described. I've never been homeless but I've spent a few nights sleeping rough and not been raped or gone hungry. Not saying I wouldn't get sick of it and run back home again either. Besides, going hungry and cold and all that is bullshit, as you can just get unemployment benefit and buy yourself a burger as well as get yourself into public housing. Where I live anyway.Ilikemilkshake said:No, homelessness and poverty are not the same thing but there is an undeniable link. To pretend that monks who deliberately forgo possessions live a life comparable to the average homeless person is pretty disingenuous.Blood Brain Barrier said:I'm just saying what I'd rather do, doesn't have anything to do with you. I bet you've never been homeless before either.Ilikemilkshake said:No offence but that's a pretty silly thing to say.Blood Brain Barrier said:Christ, I'd just move out. I'd rather be homeless than live with that kind of shit.
Having to deal with one person being an ass is not worse than having to live in perpetual poverty, lacking food, shelter, warmth, Being isolated from people, living with the threat of violence and rape, Being more prone to alcohol/drug abuse or even being forgotten or abused by your own government http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2013/08/28/south-carolina-capital-city-forces-its-homeless-out/
And by the way, homeless and poverty are not the same thing. Mendicants are homeless but not necessarily impoverished. And I'd listen to Shakyamuni over Fox News (or any news).
And It's funny you bring up Fox news, I didn't even realise my link was from there, it was just the first thing I came across. If you would dismiss it and any other sources of news that describe homeless people being mistreated (because Buddha says otherwise?.. I don't really follow your logic) then I'd say you're pretty ignorant.
A description of homelessness in Britain:
http://www.theguardian.com/housing-network/2013/oct/29/homeless-sleep-out-charity
Wow. I don't even...Blood Brain Barrier said:All I'm saying is what I would do myself, however ignorant it may be. It's got more to do with my unwillingness to tolerate the situation the OP described. I've never been homeless but I've spent a few nights sleeping rough and not been raped or gone hungry. Not saying I wouldn't get sick of it and run back home again either. Besides, going hungry and cold and all that is bullshit, as you can just get unemployment benefit and buy yourself a burger as well as get yourself into public housing. Where I live anyway.Ilikemilkshake said:No, homelessness and poverty are not the same thing but there is an undeniable link. To pretend that monks who deliberately forgo possessions live a life comparable to the average homeless person is pretty disingenuous.Blood Brain Barrier said:I'm just saying what I'd rather do, doesn't have anything to do with you. I bet you've never been homeless before either.Ilikemilkshake said:No offence but that's a pretty silly thing to say.Blood Brain Barrier said:Christ, I'd just move out. I'd rather be homeless than live with that kind of shit.
Having to deal with one person being an ass is not worse than having to live in perpetual poverty, lacking food, shelter, warmth, Being isolated from people, living with the threat of violence and rape, Being more prone to alcohol/drug abuse or even being forgotten or abused by your own government http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2013/08/28/south-carolina-capital-city-forces-its-homeless-out/
And by the way, homeless and poverty are not the same thing. Mendicants are homeless but not necessarily impoverished. And I'd listen to Shakyamuni over Fox News (or any news).
And It's funny you bring up Fox news, I didn't even realise my link was from there, it was just the first thing I came across. If you would dismiss it and any other sources of news that describe homeless people being mistreated (because Buddha says otherwise?.. I don't really follow your logic) then I'd say you're pretty ignorant.
A description of homelessness in Britain:
http://www.theguardian.com/housing-network/2013/oct/29/homeless-sleep-out-charity
sure if you want , waste some time and energy on being pissed off at a guy whose opinion you shouldnt give a fuck about over an issue of zero import. its your life use it the best way you can.Elfgore said:Am I justified in being angry about this? Or am I taking things too personally?
Yes and no.CruxisCalling said:Ok Escapists of the world, am I being petty about this?
As a bit of background, my step father and I do not get along. At all. He is just a generally unkind man toward me and I typically try to keep my distance, as does he. It is well established that he and my mother have drastically different experiences in child raising. He has two children who are high-school dropouts, one of whom just had a baby with a teenage ex girlfriend. My step-father does not have a high view of teenagers and the choices they make, which makes sense given his experiences.
So today I'm at his and my mother's home to use their laundry room. I was also watching an Extra Life stream for my favorite Lets Player, who had a facecam on. As I walk away from the computer to get a drink, my stepfather walks by and looks at the screen. He then turns to me and says "what are you doing?" I told him I was watching a videogame commentator. He then asks if the LPer could see his viewers through their webcams too. I said no, the facecam is just for us to see him. He then physically blocked me from the computer and told me "Good. I would have had a serious problem otherwise. You don't want to know what your punishment will be if I find out you're letting guys on the internet see your face. You will not turn on our webcam for any reason" and walks away.
I admit, this comment and the authoritative tone it was spoken in really pissed me off.
Like I said, I understand that he has had issues with teens making stupid decisions, but that's not me. I'm 22. I'm a straight A student and am graduating college this year. I am a pre-law student and am preparing to study abroad in Japan before I go to law school. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination and have more faults than not, but I like to believe that I have a good head on my shoulders. My mother has also always made it clear to my stepfather that she trusts my judgment and wants me to make my own decisions.
So this reaction to me possibly talking to a man on the internet pisses me off. The facecam could be of a friend or a classmate for all my stepfather knows. And even if it's not, I am a grown woman and I have the sense of judgment to be able to make reasonably good decisions. To speak to me like a child and threaten to punish me without any clue of what is going on doesn't seem reasonable to me.
Am I justified in being angry about this? Or am I taking things too personally?
Basically this, I was hoping someone would say it.krazykidd said:Why are people so afraid to speak their mind? You are 22, you look him straight in the eye , and tell him he has no say in what you do . You are an adult, and worst you are not his child. Yes you have the right to be pissed off, you also have the right to tell him you are pissed off. Although i have a feeling you are afraid of him , in which case if he so much as touches a hair on you head , i would call the authorities.
If you are an adult, act like an adult .
That's not exactly the adult thing to do. It sounds like you are telling him to try and get a rise out of the stepfather, then when he gets mad and acts on it, he should call the police. If two people, especially adults, can't settle their differences reasonably then they should know not to talk to each other. And if it comes to blows, hit harder and more accurately than the other guy. Just my two cents.krazykidd said:Although i have a feeling you are afraid of him , in which case if he so much as touches a hair on you head , i would call the authorities.
If you are an adult, act like an adult .
Who punishes a 22 year old? Seriously?CruxisCalling said:So today I'm at his and my mother's home to use their laundry room. I was also watching an Extra Life stream for my favorite Lets Player, who had a facecam on. As I walk away from the computer to get a drink, my stepfather walks by and looks at the screen. He then turns to me and says "what are you doing?" I told him I was watching a videogame commentator. He then asks if the LPer could see his viewers through their webcams too. I said no, the facecam is just for us to see him. He then physically blocked me from the computer and told me "Good. I would have had a serious problem otherwise. You don't want to know what your punishment will be if I find out you're letting guys on the internet see your face. You will not turn on our webcam for any reason" and walks away.
I admit, this comment and the authoritative tone it was spoken in really pissed me off.
Am I justified in being angry about this? Or am I taking things too personally?
Oooh, good theory, LadyLightning. Old step-pop might be weirdly territorial about the PC for a reason.LadyLightning said:it sounds like he shoved you away from his porn.
You're justified but you're also likely taking it a little too personally too.CruxisCalling said:Ok Escapists of the world, am I being petty about this?
As a bit of background, my step father and I do not get along. At all. He is just a generally unkind man toward me and I typically try to keep my distance, as does he. It is well established that he and my mother have drastically different experiences in child raising. He has two children who are high-school dropouts, one of whom just had a baby with a teenage ex girlfriend. My step-father does not have a high view of teenagers and the choices they make, which makes sense given his experiences.
So today I'm at his and my mother's home to use their laundry room. I was also watching an Extra Life stream for my favorite Lets Player, who had a facecam on. As I walk away from the computer to get a drink, my stepfather walks by and looks at the screen. He then turns to me and says "what are you doing?" I told him I was watching a videogame commentator. He then asks if the LPer could see his viewers through their webcams too. I said no, the facecam is just for us to see him. He then physically blocked me from the computer and told me "Good. I would have had a serious problem otherwise. You don't want to know what your punishment will be if I find out you're letting guys on the internet see your face. You will not turn on our webcam for any reason" and walks away.
I admit, this comment and the authoritative tone it was spoken in really pissed me off.
Like I said, I understand that he has had issues with teens making stupid decisions, but that's not me. I'm 22. I'm a straight A student and am graduating college this year. I am a pre-law student and am preparing to study abroad in Japan before I go to law school. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination and have more faults than not, but I like to believe that I have a good head on my shoulders. My mother has also always made it clear to my stepfather that she trusts my judgment and wants me to make my own decisions.
So this reaction to me possibly talking to a man on the internet pisses me off. The facecam could be of a friend or a classmate for all my stepfather knows. And even if it's not, I am a grown woman and I have the sense of judgment to be able to make reasonably good decisions. To speak to me like a child and threaten to punish me without any clue of what is going on doesn't seem reasonable to me.
Am I justified in being angry about this? Or am I taking things too personally?
The reason I hesitate to discuss it with my mother is that this is not the first time I've had issues with him trying to assert authority over me in this manner. The first few times I did discuss it with her because I think she has a right to know what goes on in her house between her husband and her daughter, at least to an extent. But that always seems to bring up conflict between the two of them, and they end up arguing over child raising and the differences between his children and myself. She tries to stay neutral, but she has her own views on how children and adults should be treated and is an extremely vocal woman, so she does feel the need to get involved. But I don't want their relationship to be stressful just because my relationship with my stepfather is stressful. They're happy together.Lyri said:You should talk to your mother about the incident and ask about her views on it, he really shouldn't have any control over what you are doing in your own free time.
Even if it is sexting over the interwebz with the camera, you're old enough to do as you please.