Maybe, this is why it's so difficult.LawlessSquirrel said:I'm clearly the minority here, but sounds like it might be a bit drastic to break up because of that to me. If that's the only reason for the problem, remember that it happened quite a long time ago in your relationship and might have just been a regrettable mistake. It's a big mistake, but I honestly believe that people deserve a chance to learn from their mistakes and not be condemned outright.
It would be a shame to throw away an otherwise good relationship purely because of one distant problem in the past.
Out of curiosity, how did you find out she cheated on you?
I have to admit Woodsey, I love your bluntness <3Woodsey said:You live too far away, you shouldn't be with each other in the first place.
I'm with you. For me, no amount of alcohol excuses cheating, because it's just too easy to induce, in terms of circumstances...if that makes sense.Legion said:There are two major factors in this:
She is capable of cheating.
You are going to be away for three years, so minimal contact.
Why try and spend that time with someone who is capable of sleeping around within 24 hours of a relationship (when most people are in the hormonal "crazy in love" stage) when you will have three years around (hopefully) intelligent women whom you can see on a regular basis and create a closer relationship with? They are much less likely to cheat due to the distance between you being closer, and you have a much better chance of gauging their integrity.
I personally don't think cheating is (normally) forgiveable, and in this circumstance you are putting a lot at risk really if you do.
She may do it again.
You may be tempted to when you are at Uni surrounded by other women.
The relationship may just fall apart because of distance and lack of contact anyway.
I aim toVanguard_Ex said:I have to admit Woodsey, I love your bluntness <3Woodsey said:You live too far away, you shouldn't be with each other in the first place.
Hell no. It's both of us or neither of us. Sorry, I do take everyone's posts here into account and reflect on them, but I could never, ever be in an open relationship.Chrono212 said:Although I personally havn't had a long distance relationship, I do know of a few people who have.
The thing is, ask her.
Ha, Mr. 'Simple-in-theory' answer guy. But it's true.
If she can continue with it, then do. If this 'one slip' becomes a regular thing then...cut that cord my friend.
Plus at Uni it might be nicer if you can be more...open with relationships.