Anger

[Kordie]

As well, talking to people about what makes me angry and realising its not their fault.

Except in my case it really is their fault.

I get angry when someone cuts me off in traffic. Is that my fault for not riding the bumper of the car in front of me so they can't get in, or their fault for being an inconsiderate tool?

I get angry when this kid at my work flat-out refuses to do any task he doesn't feel like doing. Is that my fault for expecting everyone (myself more than anyone else) to do a few jobs they don't feel like doing, or is it his fault for being a mouthy, entitled little jerkoff?

Someone mentioned counseling. My view is "fuck counseling." Don't tell me it's okay for someone to refuse to do his job just because he doesn't feel like it. IT'S NOT OKAY. Don't tell me I shouldn't be upset at having to watch someone else get a free ride while I do my own work and his, too. That kind of permissive idiocy is what allowed this kid to undeservedly keep his job for three years.

How do I cope? Mostly I eat lots of sugary food, and I rant on the Escapist. I don't really recommend either.

I paint miniatures. Tiny, detailed work gives me something else to focus on.

I also run a Pathfinder game, so one day a week I can give my players problems more serious than any we have in real life.

Keep in mind why I was angry at those people when I say it's not their fault. I was genuinly angry with people for just being alive, hard to blame them for that. Also it sounds like you have some healthy ways to cope so I wouldn't suggest counseling to you, unless you are spending more time angry than not or are still angry about a minor incident the next day (like being cut off in traffic).

One other random note on coping, studies show the largest factor in coping with anger is time, any healthy normal activity that fills that time is a good way to cope. Many popular venting methods that include a violent activity may make you feel better, mainly due to the passage of time, but can unhealthily associate violence and anger. It can also associate anger to other activites (why some gamers who play violent games as an anger outlet can get more violent while playing games at other times).

 

[yourbeliefs]

Do you suffer much from it? How do you cope?

I'm angry at something most of the time. Always some idiot trying to screw things up. Then there's times when I'm really angry like right fucking now. Doesn't take much to get me started. Sometimes just the knowledge that there's people who deserve to suffer who are fine gets to me, and I just want someone, something to pay. I just get this urge to murder and rip things apart.

Violent games are my best coping mechanism. I can just kill things. I know they don't suffer, but it just helps. Sometimes I bite myself. It just feels better to bite something. I don't usually get to the point of bleeding. If I had less morals, I'd probably find someone else to bite.

I like how these fuckers in authority keep saying violent videogames make people violent. They don't seem to realise they're the only thing that stops me trying to kill 'em all. Little fuckers don't think. Nobody FUCKING THINKS. THey want brainless, mindless? I could give it to em. Them not thinking makes it nhard for me to think. FUCK EM.

Fuck, I need to mplay something. Screw this. I know a load of morons are gonna insult me on this. I don't care. Either this or I let my friends know that I could snap at any time, sounds like a nice little idea? Might just stay away from here for a day or so. Too many People not thinking.

I can relate somewhat to you, which I'm not exactly proud of. I constantly find myself getting pissed off at stuff. Part of it I think is from psychological stuff I went through as a kid that I'm not going to get into, but yes I'll openly admit that not a day goes by where a few things won't piss me off. For years I had issues with loneliness and depression, but then after I got married and had kids I found that for some reason anger became my primary vice. I don't often lose my cool, but I probably lose it more often than most. I know my family hates it and I don't like the idea that they may be feeling like they have to walk on eggshells, but it's a constant battle.

Seriously though, you may need to seek some professional help. Feeling the need to bite constantly (including other people) isn't what I would call normal or healthy behavior. It's better that you get yourself some treatment before you really lose your temper one day and end up hurting yourself and/or others around you.

 

[Moderated]

Might I suggest therapy? I used to have anger problems when I was in elementary school. I was throwing chairs at teachers and shit, but I got better.

 

[Aerosteam]

I remember getting angry all the time when I used my desktop (which is now burning in Hell).

What I did to combat that was smashing that pile of shyte after I got the laptop I'm using right now.

May I suggest watching hilarious youtube videos?

Spoiler: Hilarity

and drives a **** car

I must ask. What is a "**** car"?

The means of travel to getting yourself suspended.

I'm so sorry, Amy. I had to...

 

[Emilox The Great]

Well, i am emotionally detached so im a pretty relaxed guy, but there are a few things that can really piss me of, probably due to the autism.
But i am very good at hiding my emotions under a blank mask of humor, probably not very healthy, but i dont know any other alternatives.

Im afraid i dont really have any specific ways of coping with anger, i usually just go confront(peacefully of course) whatever/whoever is pressing all the wrong buttons ( after a week or two of gathering the courage).

so that up there is my advice, if you cant confront it seek some professional help, and try not to let your anger hurt any innocent people, if they are sensitive enough they can be traumatized!

 

[TheLizardKing]

I'm always angry. I'm just good at suppressing it.