Anybody find sex overrated?

[Ishal]

I don't have a sex drive. I can't really think of any other way to describe the way I feel, or I guess don't feel. I don't get it. Sure I have things I'm attracted to, my types of women, but I don't care to do anything or pursue anything. That drive... that desire, it's just not there.

Nobody believes me when I say it. When I say I don't masturbate they don't believe me either. But I don't. It's just not something I care about. Whatever neurons spark that desire for intimacy and sex, they just aren't firing.

Lack of sex drive can be caused by a whole plethora of things. As far as I understand it, it's typically linked to hormonal unbalance. If it bothers you you could always get your hormone levels checked and see what's up.

Yeah, low testosterone or something. That could be it. I dunno. I've always been this way. When I think about it, it's like in that movie SuperBad. The one where the guys go on this quest to get alcohol to bring to a party, and in so doing impress the ladies so that they might get sex. That train of thought is just anathema to me. I'd never do that. I just don't care about sex.

I guess if I wanted intimacy then it'd be a problem. But I don't really want it. The whole thing is just not for me. I talk about it here, but that's only because I can't be shamed IRL for it. That's what happens whenever it get's brought up.

 

[FalloutJack]

Not really, no.

...does that mean I don't get to talk now?

 

[Evil Moo]

Having never experienced sex I can't say if it is overrated. My sex drive is unfortunately rather high at the moment though. Coupled with that, I have neither the capability nor the desire to actually find a partner, leaving me stuck yearning for something I know I won't get.

If I could turn off the sex drive I feel I would be somewhat better off.

 

[Terminal Blue]

I hate to be the one to say this, because I realize how arrogant it must sound, but if it's that unimpressive it's because you're doing it wrong.

Be more adventurous.

 

[FPLOON]

As a certified virgin[footnote]Given at birth, but will expire after the home stretch...[/footnote] and an uncertified pervert[footnote]Too much hoops to come through just to get that damn certification...[/footnote], I can honestly say that sex is both overrated and underrated because nature loves to fuck us all in the ass... and only the ass... With that said, I lack that "desire" to have sex, so I substitute it by being the "pervert" in my circle of friends... It's a nice trade-off, if I do say so myself...

Anyway, as time goes on, we will be the one's fucking nature in the ass by inventing non-hetero pregnancies... That'll show nature to finally evolve with the times! We're humans, nature!! Don't you start classifying what that means to some, but not to others, with your old-world logic, glob dammit!! ¡Viva la evolución!

Wait... What was the question again? I was too busy metaphorically biting nature's dick of a pussy... or pussy of a dick, depending on one's perspective...

 

[Bat Vader]

Being 27 and still a virgin I can't say I have ever had the pleasure of being able to find out if it's overrated or not. It's by choice though. I honestly couldn't care any less if I ever have sex or not.

 

[Johnny Impact]

Having never experienced sex I can't say if it is overrated. My sex drive is unfortunately rather high at the moment though. Coupled with that, I have neither the capability nor the desire to actually find a partner, leaving me stuck yearning for something I know I won't get.

If I could turn off the sex drive I feel I would be somewhat better off.

Pretty much this. I'm hopeless at conversation and physically unattractive. Instinct is a damn nuisance. Doesn't matter what I feel like I need or how bad I feel I need it. It only matters what I can have. What I can have is nothing. I'd replace myself with a robot double in a heartbeat. Just take away all those annoying feelings, they've gone from new and awkward, to agonizing and awkward, to a source of great shame and desperation, to a daily/hourly reminder of just how not-good-enough I am, before finally arriving at the sort of casual, tired contempt you see in joyless marriages. Nothing good has ever come from it. Stop the car, I want to get out.

 

[kenu12345]

Yeah, it most certainly is overrated. Then again I always been one more for the romance. Its weird seeing everyone talk bout how they hook up with so many people and at bars when it all seems so plain

 

[The Bucket]

To be fair, I dont think it could possibly be underrated considering society's fixation with it

 

[Shraggler]

Sex is the epitome of physical pleasure that we can naturally experience (i.e. sans drugs or some sort of artificial, neuro-scientific experiment).

Sex is 'overrated' because it's really the only thing that consistently provides pleasure, ideally both emotionally and physically. It's also so much harder to obtain and attain that sensation because it requires another, autonomous human being. Pain? Pain can happen whenever, wherever. And it can always get worse. Pleasure is fleeting, pain is infinite.

Nothing feels as good as an orgasm.

Examples: Stubbing one's toe hurts differently than a migraine, which hurts differently than cutting one's finger, which hurts differently than a kidney stone, which hurts differently than breaking a bone, ad infinitum.

An orgasm... what is even a near-equivalent experience?

In my experience that's typically only an issue for women. It's pretty much assumed that men masturbate regularly, despite it being taboo to talk about. Women on the other hand are basically shamed for it--which is really odd to me. Most women I know that have embraced masturbation are happier for it.

"Shamed for it?" I've always noticed that women masturbating is seen as sensual, sexy, erotic, and rare, whereas men masturbating is pathetic, sad and perverted. There's a pretty obvious reason for that, in my opinion, but I've never heard of ladies being shamed because they rub one out.

Having never experienced sex I can't say if it is overrated. My sex drive is unfortunately rather high at the moment though. Coupled with that, I have neither the capability nor the desire to actually find a partner, leaving me stuck yearning for something I know I won't get.

If I could turn off the sex drive I feel I would be somewhat better off.

I feel the same way, but I think the mechanisms involving sexual drive also affect other systems of our physiology. I know of a solution that I've found for myself, but it relies on other people and the downsides are extreme. If there were a way to shunt that one desire, however, I'd totally be on board.

 

[Fappy]

"Shamed for it?" I've always noticed that women masturbating is seen as sensual, sexy, erotic, and rare, whereas men masturbating is pathetic, sad and perverted. There's a pretty obvious reason for that, in my opinion, but I've never heard of ladies being shamed because they rub one out.

I suppose I should have specified that it's typically women shaming other women for masturbating. Men have no real reason to do that, of course (unless they're super religious). I am sure most guys on here would agree females flying solo is one of the best sights nature can offer!

Anyway, unless you're speaking from a religious perspective, I never see men getting shamed for spankin' it... and if they are it certainly isn't stopping them from doing it XD

 

[Spider RedNight]

Asexual speaking here so yes, I'd say it's overrated but then again, what *I* think of sex doesn't have anything to do with OTHER people liking to have sex. Go for it, if that's what you like.

I just.... -makes disgusted noises- No thanks. Just... just no thanks.

 

[jademunky]

Obviously i'm not the only one but just sort of curious what others thoughts were.

I agree........kinda.

I'm going to guess that you've been with your lady for a while, the stuff that would seem super-awesome at first gradually comes to feel routine in my experience.

 

[Shraggler]

I suppose I should have specified that it's typically women shaming other women for masturbating. Men have no real reason to do that, of course (unless they're super religious). I am sure most guys on here would agree females flying solo is one of the best sights nature can offer!

Anyway, unless you're speaking from a religious perspective, I never see men getting shamed for spankin' it... and if they are it certainly isn't stopping them from doing it XD

Yeah, and I'd imagine it'd be somewhat older women looking down on younger, more "sexually liberated" women who mention their sexual soliloquies.

I see dudes more 'shamed' for it in the way that people usually don't talk about it without it being sort of jocular, because the subtext seems to be "I masturbate because I can't get a woman", and that subtext raises the question "why?" with the assumed answers being along the lines of "there's something perversely wrong with him"/"he's a sad, lonely fuck". At least that's how it appears to me in a social environment.

But, like you said, external shame rarely stops anyone from seeking pleasure. We like to shit on each other all the time, but everyone just wants to feel good.

 

[Something Amyss]

Put it this way. Despite gender dysphoria and a spine that makes pretty much all sex super painful, I still want it.

Yeah, I don't think overrated is the word I'd use. Annoying, maybe.

I'll be honest, as a guy I never really got that impression. In sex ed we were taught that masturbation is perfectly healthy and normal, and all of my guy friends growing up did it regularly--even while in relationships. Could just be my anecdotal experience, but I think that stigma isn't all that relevant these days... not to millennials, anyway.

Really? I've seen a ton of scorn from guys in terms of masturbation.

 

[Pyrian]

I now look at sex as something boring people do when there's nothing on good on TV, your game console and PC are both broke, neither of you is hungry or tired and there are no good movies to go see.

Blizzards with accompanying power outages always result in local baby booms nine months later.

 

[Zhukov]

No, not really.

Granted, it is often, if not always, built up by the media and society in general as something greater than it really is, if that's what you mean.

However I personally still think it's damn good fun if you're doing it well.

 

[Lil devils x_v1legacy]

I actually think sex is underrated and that adults, in general, should have more of it.

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-and-health

Sex should be enjoyed every day, multiple times a day!

 

[PsychicTaco115]

Sex is like pizza

Even when it's bad, it's still pretty good

I guess the toppings would be kinks/fetishes which make it much more exciting ;D

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I couldn't tell you, I've never had it. I'll tell you one thing, society's fixation on it has made me scared shitless.