Are friends forever?
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Friends come and go...and sometimes come back again.
The friendship I had with my closest friend ended in a sh*tstorm after almost 20 years of friendship. On the other hand, I've reconnected with a friend I haven't spoken to in 10 years and we are getting along well. Nothing is permanent.
EDIT: It's nice to say "stick together and it will be okay!" but that is naive. People change and/or grow apart, bad circumstances happen, and sometimes you just can't/won't fix it. That's just life.
The friendship I had with my closest friend ended in a sh*tstorm after almost 20 years of friendship. On the other hand, I've reconnected with a friend I haven't spoken to in 10 years and we are getting along well. Nothing is permanent.
EDIT: It's nice to say "stick together and it will be okay!" but that is naive. People change and/or grow apart, bad circumstances happen, and sometimes you just can't/won't fix it. That's just life.
MoganFreeman said:
A brick in a courtyard at my college, which I'm praying is true...it has been so far. When I got sad while leaving after graduation, my mom almost literally told me to get over the friends that I made there and make new ones...after all, SHE rarely keeps in touch with people she knew in college.
Yes, well, she also went to a very large public university, whereas I went to a fairly small, private, Christian college, and I deal in more intimate and personal terms than her.
So yes, I do believe that friends can be forever, if you make the effort to stay in touch.
Nope, friends aren't forever. I have witnessed how people aren't what they seem to be. This was in my school. It's kinda like an event from a movie. I have this lady friend who has been best friends with another friend of hers for as long as they were in college. Then one day her best friend decided to pull a fast one on her and their group (this was for a project, basically she took their money).
Now my friend is no longer friends with her best friends with her so-called friend. And I haven't seen so-called best friend in the school grounds since.
Now my friend is no longer friends with her best friends with her so-called friend. And I haven't seen so-called best friend in the school grounds since.
Of course friendship in the physical sense ("Let's come over to my house and play Rock Band") isn't everlasting. So then, the argument becomes "What is friendship?" Is it something that you can do with another person or does it have deeper, psychological implications?
I believe that friendship doesn't last forever in both the physical and metaphysical realms, but that it leaves an impression that is forever-lasting. Thinking about the good times and bad times you spent with someone, your happiness and tribulations, everything that came between you and another person(s) that pulled you together or pulled you apart will always remind you of those times, and if the other person feels the same way I guess it is possible that friendship is truly everlasting.
But that's purely my take on this matter. Friends will never not leave you for one reason or another, so I believe this discussion is a matter of one's disposition. Your experiences with others will largely determine how and whom you perceive someone as a friend. If someone befriend you for the purpose of self gain, then they you'll obviously bear animosity and resentment toward them. If they perform acts of selflessness or generosity, then your outlook will be more positive.
I believe that friendship doesn't last forever in both the physical and metaphysical realms, but that it leaves an impression that is forever-lasting. Thinking about the good times and bad times you spent with someone, your happiness and tribulations, everything that came between you and another person(s) that pulled you together or pulled you apart will always remind you of those times, and if the other person feels the same way I guess it is possible that friendship is truly everlasting.
But that's purely my take on this matter. Friends will never not leave you for one reason or another, so I believe this discussion is a matter of one's disposition. Your experiences with others will largely determine how and whom you perceive someone as a friend. If someone befriend you for the purpose of self gain, then they you'll obviously bear animosity and resentment toward them. If they perform acts of selflessness or generosity, then your outlook will be more positive.
You misunderstand what I said. Friendships can indeed last a lifetime, but nothing lasts forever.willard3 said:
Talking from experience here, no they are not. After I left year 12, I lost contact with almost three quarters of the people I knew, and as time went on I lost more and more.
Once you enter the job industry, you will form relationships with workmates and if you are lucky, a select few from your schooling.
Personally? I am in regular contact with 3 people from school. And over 10 people from work.
Life sucks, move along...
Once you enter the job industry, you will form relationships with workmates and if you are lucky, a select few from your schooling.
Personally? I am in regular contact with 3 people from school. And over 10 people from work.
Life sucks, move along...
Depends on the friends. I hardly stay in contact with half my friends from high school but I only left last year. Whereas a girl I know from Scotland, so at least 200 miles away, I'm still great friends with and we keep trying to meet up. She's my ex, but that's besides the point, we've stayed brilliant friends and yet hardly seen each other in 2 years. However, I can still see us being friends into our 20's and maybe beyond. I could well be proven wrong, but here's hoping that we do stay friends. But I suppose really, all friendships will end at some point as people take different paths in life. As I say, it all depends on the friends, and on you.
I tend to TRY keep it in mind of the impertinence of all things, and never take anything for granted
I've been friends with someone since primary school; when we were five, six years old. I'm twenty now, and we're STILL best friends. I've moved over 200 miles away, and it hasn't changed a thing. I couldn't imagine anything that would stop us being friends. It's not like we haven't argued and fought bitterly at times; this is someone I've known practically all my life.
So, perhaps not all friendships are forever, but some of them sure are built to last.
So, perhaps not all friendships are forever, but some of them sure are built to last.