Are You A Loner?
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Loner is sort of a derogatory, or negative term. Introvert is better and as someone familiar with Jung's view on introversion and extroversion to some degree can say, I'd fit the bill.
I have no problems socializing, it is just that doing so is physically exhausting for me, the social gathering I've had to spend most effort in, AKA I got a lot of attention lasted about 30 minutes to an hour or so, then I went outside to relax for a bit and ended up falling asleep for a good 10 - 30 minutes only to be found and shook out of my sleep. Being an introvert usually brands me cold, anti-social, shy, and more. But the simple fact is, being alone with my thoughts, a book or some other entertainment is usually more relaxing, fun and generally better than being with other people.
I have no problems socializing, it is just that doing so is physically exhausting for me, the social gathering I've had to spend most effort in, AKA I got a lot of attention lasted about 30 minutes to an hour or so, then I went outside to relax for a bit and ended up falling asleep for a good 10 - 30 minutes only to be found and shook out of my sleep. Being an introvert usually brands me cold, anti-social, shy, and more. But the simple fact is, being alone with my thoughts, a book or some other entertainment is usually more relaxing, fun and generally better than being with other people.
See I was going to say that since I'm in a band I can't really be a loner since I'm part of a group but when there isn't a gig I prefer to sit in the basement and play video games. I suppose the fact that I choose video games over actually interacting with people makes me a loner in some aspect.Parkway91 said:
So yes, I am a loner. Kinda.
I was a loner for most my life. I was beaten both mentally and physically in grade school so I kept away from others. I recall a time when someone tried to shake my hand and I backed away from them scared out of my mind. I thought for sure it was a trick and they were going to hurt me the second they grabbed my hand.
I also was a science fanatic my peers except for 1 couldn't even keep up with the most general of subject I knew. Even worse they couldn't even begin to comprehend it so they thought I was a stupid idiot.
Honestly it wasn't until high school that I really had any friends and understanding to go with it. Ever since then I've always held on to those friendships.
Don't understand why anyone would choose to be a loner. I hated it. I felt like an alien from another world and spent most of my childhood bedtime crying into my pillow. It sucked. No one should choose to feel that painfully alone.
Just boggles my mind how anyone could enjoy that.
I also was a science fanatic my peers except for 1 couldn't even keep up with the most general of subject I knew. Even worse they couldn't even begin to comprehend it so they thought I was a stupid idiot.
Honestly it wasn't until high school that I really had any friends and understanding to go with it. Ever since then I've always held on to those friendships.
Don't understand why anyone would choose to be a loner. I hated it. I felt like an alien from another world and spent most of my childhood bedtime crying into my pillow. It sucked. No one should choose to feel that painfully alone.
Just boggles my mind how anyone could enjoy that.
Yes, very much so. I hate being around other people. I despise social contact. Were I the last man on Earth, I'd be nothing if not content. To say I'm antisocial is putting it mildly.
And this all stems from my crippling social anxiety disorder. Being around even one stranger makes me feel ill. Actually having to interact with said stranger makes me want to commit acts of violence. Social interaction for me is pure torture.
And this all stems from my crippling social anxiety disorder. Being around even one stranger makes me feel ill. Actually having to interact with said stranger makes me want to commit acts of violence. Social interaction for me is pure torture.
I think that summarizes it for me as well. I don't actually like being alone, not at all actually. I want to share my geeky hobbies with others, makes them so much more fun. But sadly all my geeky friends live kinda far away and they have their own pre-college friend groups they still hang out with.EeveeElectro said:
I'm really happy that I actually made friends this year. Makes me wonder how I survived those two hermit-like years. But I sure would like to hang out with them more often.
I used to be, but at some point in the last year or so, something snapped in my brain and I don't want to be anymore. I've bitched about it in various threads and it's really tricky to break out of the funk this late in the game. I remember having friends and putting myself into self imposed exile because they were so utterly irritating. I don't know why it didn't occur to me to just make new friends, but they certainly weren't my path to doing so.
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I prefer sticking to myself, however I do like socializing too. I think I am a bit like George Carlin in that I like people but prefer them in short bursts. Close friends and famliy are obviously exempt from this, for the sake of practicality.
But, if I do not get a certain degree of alone time per day, my patience for people quickly runs thin.
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But, if I do not get a certain degree of alone time per day, my patience for people quickly runs thin.
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I used to be, and not always by choice. For a long time I had some pretty crappy 'friends'. Now it's pretty different, I've got an awesome circle of friends and we get out quite a bit. I still need my own time and space on a regular basis, but I've found a balance that works for me for the most part.
I am an introvert... meaning that I gather my energy and motivation from inside. I don't need people around me, and rarely feel truely lonely, but I do have to limit my hiding away, and keep it in moderation. I am quite a social person, and I get on with practically everyone I meet, and I do quite well in smaller social gatherings...
I'm the same way.
There is a calmness that I feel when I am alone, there are no human voices to bother me. For instance if I was outside the world would seem deep to me, mysterious with wonders that I cannot comprehend and I am the main observer. When another person is present the moment feels "contaminated" to me. When I am home alone there is nothing to bother my thoughts, I feel calmer when I am alone and feel like myself. There is also nothing i'd rather do than to sit in my chair in front of my core i7 computer which I spent three years to build and just do stuff I like (no not porn, seriously for whatever reason it's never watching that stuff that I do) it is where I feel like I have truly found my center and I feel at peace and full of calmness. Sometimes I wonder if I am wasting my life away in front of my computer, if I am wasting time I could have spent with loved ones while they are still alive and will regret it once they are gone, if there are better things I could be spending my time on but when I look back and ask myself "am I happy?" I answer yes, I am.
I really enjoy being alone and the idea of going dancing to a club to meet new people sounds extremely unfun. Whenever someone says that they'v got a girlfriend I cringe inside, the thought of having to spend time with another instead of being alone to yourself....How do you get any pleasure from that? Is it about sex? I also disapprove of any act done for the sake of getting a euphoric reaction, we are all in a way slaves to our own bodies. It rewards us with "feel good" chemicals when we do what it wants and "feel bad" chemicals when we do not. Doing drugs, having sex, smoking and drinking are habits that make me think less of a person and all for the same reason you'd think less of a junky. It's not healthy and you are giving in to a will that is not your own. You aren't really doing what you want to do, you are either doing what your peers want to or what your body wants to and not doing what I want to do sounds horrid.
There is a calmness that I feel when I am alone, there are no human voices to bother me. For instance if I was outside the world would seem deep to me, mysterious with wonders that I cannot comprehend and I am the main observer. When another person is present the moment feels "contaminated" to me. When I am home alone there is nothing to bother my thoughts, I feel calmer when I am alone and feel like myself. There is also nothing i'd rather do than to sit in my chair in front of my core i7 computer which I spent three years to build and just do stuff I like (no not porn, seriously for whatever reason it's never watching that stuff that I do) it is where I feel like I have truly found my center and I feel at peace and full of calmness. Sometimes I wonder if I am wasting my life away in front of my computer, if I am wasting time I could have spent with loved ones while they are still alive and will regret it once they are gone, if there are better things I could be spending my time on but when I look back and ask myself "am I happy?" I answer yes, I am.
I really enjoy being alone and the idea of going dancing to a club to meet new people sounds extremely unfun. Whenever someone says that they'v got a girlfriend I cringe inside, the thought of having to spend time with another instead of being alone to yourself....How do you get any pleasure from that? Is it about sex? I also disapprove of any act done for the sake of getting a euphoric reaction, we are all in a way slaves to our own bodies. It rewards us with "feel good" chemicals when we do what it wants and "feel bad" chemicals when we do not. Doing drugs, having sex, smoking and drinking are habits that make me think less of a person and all for the same reason you'd think less of a junky. It's not healthy and you are giving in to a will that is not your own. You aren't really doing what you want to do, you are either doing what your peers want to or what your body wants to and not doing what I want to do sounds horrid.
That sounds a tad harsh.Kevlar Eater said:
My "situation" is not identical to the poster you quoted, but I am too almost always the one who seeks his friends out or makes the contact first. Does that make my friends "strangers with names", as you put it? I'd argue "no". It is a far stronger likelihood that my friends simply see this as the way things are, and are content with that.
If I broke off with them, they would very much care. To the extent that they would actually seek me out and make the contact first.
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OT: Yes, i do prefer solitude - and ive no mental condition (That im aware of!)
But yeah, it's alright. I do like the peace and quiet
I'm a bit of a loner, but no where near as much as I used to be. Now, I'd rather hang out with friends than be alone, but I'm still perfectly comfortable being alone.
Consider that I lived in the middle of nowhere and have no friend over here, I can't help to be a loner. Well ok I can still try to make friend over here so I am a loner out of my choice.
You're not the only one OP as I do prefer solitude and my family whink I'm weird for not socializing enough.
Granted I am not truely alone as I do got close friends who I met from University who I had kept in touch to this day. I make alot of effort to meet up with my best friend (he lived far away so I take a train ride which last for two hours but it had always been worth it just to see and talked to my mate. Yes we talked vis msn but face to face is better).
You're not the only one OP as I do prefer solitude and my family whink I'm weird for not socializing enough.
Granted I am not truely alone as I do got close friends who I met from University who I had kept in touch to this day. I make alot of effort to meet up with my best friend (he lived far away so I take a train ride which last for two hours but it had always been worth it just to see and talked to my mate. Yes we talked vis msn but face to face is better).
I'm an introvert. I find too much social interaction exhausting, and I need time to myself to recharge my batteries.