Are you attractive?

[scar_47]

I think I'm average looking but horribly out of shape I think I'd look decent if I lost the weight besides the wicked bad acme scars on my back.

 

[trollnystan]

Thanks, I probably do need to smile more. I always thought my Simpsons avatar looks more like me than I do. You call yourself average, but I'm sure you would get stared at by my coworkers.

Smiling always helps! And thanks for the compliment, although I must repeat the condition of my skin doesn't really show. I don't use make-up so I walk around with pizza-face most of the time (or almost).

I know I'm incredibly plain. When I dye my hair, or cut it, or wear something bold, I get tons of compliments. Because then I look less plain. Otherwise, I'm the low end of average. My charm is in my abrasive personality instead of my plain-Jane face.

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Plain? Where? You look almost exactly like a girl I knew from Japanese class years ago - she had curly black hair, that's basically the only difference - that I probably would have agreed to have a sapphic experiment with if asked. Just sayin'... >.> (Yes, I'm straight!)

 

[Yamiki]

Just a side note... what is considered attractive.. and why is that important in this day and age.

I know this is probably not the best place to ask.
But the idea of a thread like this raises that among other questions.

It's something that confuses me because I have seen so many kids, teens and even young adults who believe that attractiveness (Why is that even a word?) should take place over their own sense of self worth. As if being attractive in the eyes of others somehow increases your worth as one of these gosh darn imperfect humans that we happen to be.

I lived with a girl about 20 years old who whenever she went down the street, even if it was just to grab groceries would spend a minimum of 30 minutes getting ready...

Is this the social norm? Is this just a small case? Am I just making mountains out of molehills?

Personally I don't know that I can define someone, nay anyone male or female as universally attractive or unattractive because how do you express a universal variable as a generalisation, What is attractive to me might be repulsive to the next guy. What I find less then pleasing to the eye might be someones ideal of a god/ess.

It comes down to more than the eye of the beholder but the mind of the one being viewed. Deep down is the dream/wish of attractiveness merely just a grasp at what we see as normality, or what we want to be normality.

So as to contribute something positive instead of pissing on people's parades

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That's me. As pure and simple as it can be. I can't pose worth of poop nor do I like photos but that's what I am.

Just think about it people.
There is more to the man than his face or his clothes and a photo doesn't capture the essence of a man, it can not capture his loves, his hates, his passion or his personality. A photo captures time, a split second. No sooner in passing than the moment before it.

Authors Note. By man I do infact mean all people but I will not alter my speech for fear of offence. If you do take offence I apologise.

Have faith in yourselves, no matter what you look like, what smaells you make, what noises you create or sounds you find enjoyable you belong to the greatest group on Earth. People.

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Yamiki the Pirate

I personally think about how I look a lot, and I know I shouldn't, but I WANT to be attractive, for both my future boyfriend (just sneaked outta a relationship, /sigh) and for my own sense of ego. I know it's not right, but I at least can admit it.

For a while I was taking dieting pills and focusing all of my energy on what I was eatting. Now Ive relaxed, but I still wanna look pretty.

You're beautiful as long as you feel comfortable with yourself. :3

If your happy then my parade piddle shouldn't worry you.
I am just confused with the emphasis people put on specific attributes (looks, money, etc..).
It confuses me. Maybe I'm just not meant to understand I dunno but no matter how many times people explain it I still don't get it.

 

[Death Carr]

ive been called cute by the 3 girlfriends ive had my entire life but i dont really think im atttractive

 

[Whateveralot]

Well, let's put it this way:
Every girl that ever got with me thought I've had loads of girlfriends / sex / etc. before meeting them. When I tell them the truth, they love me even more.

Does this mean they think I'm attractive? I think "sexy" is the right word. Girls' impressions of me are that of a sex-bomb. Guys sometimes do too. I've had friends come up to me with advice on dancing, chatting up to girls, etc.

I'm actually really much not. Admittedly, the past half a year has been good for me when it comes to girls, but the two girls I've actually dated with properly admitted believing I ate girls for breakfast.

 

[Krinku]

I like to think I'm average...but people call me cute(I'm a dude btw so this is uh...not what I want)

 

[onewheeled]

I think I'm kinda "meh". I have a kinda baby-like face and features, and am really slim with nary a hint of muscles, but my hair is AMAZING, especially since I just got it cut.

But I've been told that I'm really cute, and my girlfriend yells at me every time I'm modest about the way I look, so I guess my opinion is moot.

If you want to see a few pictures of me, look up Eric Bollinger on Facebook. My picture is a black and white photo of me and my sister, with us wearing fake mustaches. I have an afro, if that makes it easier to find.

 

[Gladiateher]

I've always wondered. I really have no idea. I'm a dude and I can't tell when a dude's attractive.

 

[ediblemitten]

Someone mentioned already...

some days: "Damn son, damn, you are a fiiiiiiine motherf*cker."

other days: "...jesus..." :[

 

[dcdude171]

I would say that , I am attravtive , i would post a pic ..... but i dont know how , But yah people tell me I have a " Classic Handsome look " like more similar to like a Frank sinatra like generation of what was considered the most attractive im 16 btw

 

[B1i nd Luck]

i'm am an incarnation of a bridge troll

 

[CaptainKoala]

Hmm... probably?

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You're glasses are amazing.

 

[Mavinchious Maximus]

Since more people are doing it might as well, I don't think I'm attractive but hey

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You look EPIC eating the cake.

I consider myself having quite modest looks, their is always room for improvement. Most people find me funny so that is a plus.

 

[James Joseph Emerald]

God these threads are always so lame. I mean, the Escapist has a lot of stupid, pointless threads that come up every other day, but these "hey guys am i pretty? let's all post pix and have a collective ego wank-off" ones are the worst.

The irony is that the very act of validating this thread with a response actually causes you to drop about 3 points on the attractiveness scale just for sheer lameness. That's not me talking, that's just science...


Anyway, to answer the original question: I'm hot enough to compensate for my dickish personality. So... that's saying something.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

*snip*

You said it perfectly.

I think in any case, it's not healthy for people's identity to be dependent on one specific trait, be it an interest, a physical characteristic, a job, a possession, a personality trait, anything.

People are not just one thing, they are a diverse collection of things. Embrace everything that you are. Be open, fluid and dynamic, not closed, static and standardized. You are who you were, are and will be. You are beautiful.

I'll admit, I'm not always comfortable with who I am, looks included. I'm constantly having to readjust to myself, and over the last year, I've started being more open and expressive about other aspects of myself, and so I'm exploring things I'm not exactly comfortable with. Sometimes I feel out of place because of that, or I'm stuck in a new identity or look, and I'm afraid of going back to how I used to be. But no matter how insecure I get about how I look, I remember I'm not a static person. Some days I'll look like this, and other days I'll look like that, and that's fine.

And on a side note, your pictures look good. You have a friendly, warm look.

 

[badpun]

Buggered if i know you be the judge:

 

[TheLaofKazi]

There Escapist. Tell me if I'm sexy or not. NAO!!!!!
Other wise I'll get upset >.>

You look like a girl version of Yoni Wolf. That's awesome.

 

[CaptVickHartnell]

I never used to think of myself as attractive. I'm sure a lot of us here can empathise with being the skinny, weedy geek at school, but nowadays I actually have many people telling me I'm very good looking, so I guess I'll go with the popular opinion then .
I'm 6'4", skinny, bespectacled with pillarox-red hair, you tell me.

 

[SckizoBoy]

It's strange, because despite having been in three relationships, I've never been told that I've been cute/handsome/good looking etc.

Frankly, on the outside, I rather dislike how I look, being average height, slim and rather gaunt. And on the inside, I dislike how I am. Regardless of how others view me, I perceive myself as being wholly inadequate (with all the self-loathing that comes with it) and get a kick out of emotionally abusing myself.

Yay...

 

[Nexoram]

Well I only just recently had a girl tell me I'm hot. And it was the first time ever, but it's okay because I'm only 14. (That's good right?) Anyway, all I will say is that I'm average. But if I was a bit more truthful I'd say slightly above average. (I'msorryformyarrogance xD)