runtheplacered said:
Pride serves no purpose but to get in the way of things you enjoy doing. Do what you want, without fear of others harmless thoughts (including friends and family), and you'll live a much happier life.
my issues stem from long term social phobias. when i enter a mall i project an artificial perception for everyone. it's like i'm reading everyone's mind at once, but i'm not. i'm just imagining what everyone is thinking. and it's not something i can easily control... i just get overwhelmed.
usually the anxiety expresses itself as moodiness, exhaustion, tunnel vision, and just general irritability. i find shopping experiences to be exhaustive.
thankfully, i've gotten a lot better about it. oddly enough my friends don't think of me as a socially concerned conformist who appeals to the sensibilities of others to "fit in". they actually see me as an almost intentional non-conformist when in reality i just do or wear weird things just to instantly bottom out my ego in order to alleviate the stress.
the fear of having everyone look at you oddly disappears when they are actually looking at you.