Argued with a Sexist Today...

[TheDrunkNinja]

I know this isn't going to be popular here, but calling someone a pussy is inherently sexist language. It's not particularly surprising that a lot of the most offensive language is related to women. Women are considered inferior; weak, not as smart, less desirable (except, of course, sexually), etc.

I know everyone's so caught up in hating the PC bogeyman that they get caught up in their right to be as offensive as possible, but maybe you should actually take responsibility for the things that come out of your mouth. Maybe he wasn't right to call you out on a woman being present, but we've got to a point where people are being offended by being called out on offensive language and that's a little ridiculous.

It's not hard to take a little responsibility for the things you do say in public. I know it's awful, but you have the power. Instead of crying foul, maybe consider that your words may impact other people. You know, not try and shift the blame to others.

I'm inherently a very responsible person, as well as one that is not confrontational (my friends poke fun at me by calling me a "saint" for this). Like I said in my first post, if he or the girl or anybody had come up to me and asked me to be more careful with my language as not to offend people, I would apologize and oblige them, regardless of whether or not I would disagree as to my "right" to be offensive. The manner in which he did this was uncalled for. He yelled at me and my friends across a room. He segregated a bystander that didn't need to be dragged into his business with me. Also, it was just the way he said "women" that truly perturbed me. It made "sexist" come to my mind first. Perhaps I misdiagnosed the problem--a lot of people don't think he was a sexist, others do. It doesn't matter because he chose to be uncivil with me, as if he thought I couldn't be civil with him.

 

[Blunderman]

I know this isn't going to be popular here, but calling someone a pussy is inherently sexist language. It's not particularly surprising that a lot of the most offensive language is related to women. Women are considered inferior; weak, not as smart, less desirable (except, of course, sexually), etc.

I know everyone's so caught up in hating the PC bogeyman that they get caught up in their right to be as offensive as possible, but maybe you should actually take responsibility for the things that come out of your mouth. Maybe he wasn't right to call you out on a woman being present, but we've got to a point where people are being offended by being called out on offensive language and that's a little ridiculous.

It's not hard to take a little responsibility for the things you do say in public. I know it's awful, but you have the power. Instead of crying foul, maybe consider that your words may impact other people. You know, not try and shift the blame to others.

Bullshit. Every person is solely responsible for what they do and how they react to circumstances. You'll never be forced to "feel offended", or get angry, and you'll certainly never be forced to act on such emotions.

The argument that it's the speaking person who should take responsibility is not a tenable position since it basically absolves the other person of responsibility for what they do in response.

Much better for the global population to collectively grow a sack and stop feeling so sensitive about trivialities. Everyone has a right to their opinion and they have a right to express it. You don't have to listen and you most definitely don't have to care.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Why was he listening into your conversation in the first place? Ugh, people at my school used to do that all the time ;__;
I know some people get offended by the word '****' but he has no right to assume girls are going to be offended by one little word. If I were that girl, I probably would have broken his arm. Just to, you know, teach him how gentle and womanly I am.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

Hey man, I can sympathise with that. I just wouldn't say such an old and widespread part of our culture has to be demolished in the name of equity. I don't think that women are weaker mentally then men, and I know there are plenty of women who can stand up for themselves. Does that make him a sexist? I wouldn't say so, I guess what I take pains with is that it would make more sense to say "what you just said was sexist" I wasn't there, so obviously our opinions are likely as subjective as eachothers towards this topic. I can't assume it would have helped stop the issue but I'd say it would make me support you a little more.

It seems to me that although he was bombastic, he was making a request, and to me you insulted his character. Everyone's wrong, as usual.

Yeah, it's pretty much whatever you make of it. Maybe if you had been there, you would think differently, or it would just support your original perception. Really, I understand where people are coming from when they say they don't think he was a sexist. I mean, as far as I could tell, he really did have good intentions. It's too bad it went down the way it did, and everyone had to walk away pissed off.

 

[TelHybrid]

I get fed up of the way it's socially acceptable to say "men are pricks" and "ugh men" and such, yet badmouthing women is sexist.

Double standard much?

 

[sqweesboo]

One thing that irritates me about some guys is that they think that women are a special kind of stupid when it comes to computers. I'm averagely competent when it comes to technology, not good, not bad, but because I have breasts and no penis aparently I enter moron levels when it comes to anything with bottons and an on switch, aparently.

I found this out when I went into a Game store, picked up the Sims 2. A MAN in front of me was able to buy this no problem whatsoever, he hands over the game, then the money, he gets his shiny new game in a bag, with very little interaction with the store clerk.

I hand my shiny new game over to him, he looks at the case, then me, and asks "have you checked if your computer will handle this?" .... yes, because I as a woman need to be reminded to check system requirements.

 

[Goldeneye1989]

so that's it? Never saw him again?

and thats just the way things go.
in aaaaaaalbuquerque

 

[tigermilk]

I think the term is misogynistic as it affiliates female genitalia with weakness. Ironically the bloke who shouted at you perpetuated the same attitude.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

I think the term is misogynistic as it affiliates female genitalia with weakness. Ironically the bloke who shouted at you perpetuated the same attitude.

Originally, I thought he was telling me that I shouldn't swear when women are present, which was why I called him sexist to begin with. It wasn't until a moment later that I understood that he was equating my slang term for being offensive to women. Either way, my mind didn't associate the two because to me it was just a curse word, not a knock against women. It was him that made the initial link of a swear that meant wimpy to woman. My bad for my initial ignorance, but his bad for his lack of any consideration or even civil manner.

 

[Tanner The Monotone]

That word is kinda offensive, but that guy had no right to act the way he did. You handled it the way your supposed to and I'm proud of you for that. (hands award cookie)

 

[newfoundsky]

:/ I dated a girl who was sexist towards her own kind.

 

[Hammonwrye]

I hold/open doors for women all the time. Then again, I do the same for men too.