Asexuality

[vanwaros]

Asexuality, for many of us, is the same concept. The TV is off, and there's no real inclination to turn it on

Interesting. How does that work for you, personally? You're being very vague, though I can understand, since it's a delicate topic.

Still, I'd be curious: Are you referring to sexual activity specifically, or do you just generally not get "turned on"? Are you by extension also not interested in romance?

I'd rather just like go to the aquarium or something. Or read a book. Just pick any arbitrary, mundane thing and fill in the blanks.

Friendships? Have plenty. Close ones? I'd consider asking a few people for the favor to help move furniture. I mean that in the literal sense.

I suppose as a side bonus to it all I genuinely don't care what gender anyone is or identifies with. People are people.

 

[vanwaros]

ah, well thank you for bringing your tumblerisms here to share you vary special snowflake

And thank you for your valuable contribution.

 

[Mezahmay]

I think you misunderstood what I was trying to say. A lot of people I regularly see posting pro-gamergate stuff are posting in this thread criticizing asexuals for wanting to have a label for their lack of interest in sex and a flag like they're some sort of community or something. In light of how pissed off people became about the label "Gamer" being tarnished by various publications, it seems a teensy bit hypocritical.

Ah. I saw that point but didn't realize that was the central point of the post. When you put it that way it certainly does seem hypocritical.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

I just have a couple questions.

First of all, a few of you mentioned the term "genderfluid". I know I've heard it before, but what exactly does it mean?

Second, is it homophobic/transphobic/acephobic/etc. to simply not care what someone's sexuality is? I don't expect people to care about mine, since it's my business and not really anyone else's. Is it wrong to not care if someone make theirs known?

Third...

It's a pride thing, straight people also have flags, several different versions.

Really? There are flags for heterosexuality? What are they, and why do they exist? It's not like anyone needs to raise awareness of heterosexuality, I think everyone knows pretty damn well that it's a thing.

I don't know much about gender identity myself and I don't feel comfortable talking about it if I don't know much about it. I can point you to Taco's gender guide [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.842541-Tacos-Unofficial-Guide-to-All-Things-Gender-Sex-Sexuality], but that's the best I can do.

It's not phobic to feel "meh" about something, it's not phobic to question it's validity or the concepts within and demand more research be done, refinement, ext


You are not phobic.

As for the flags, I'll get back to you on that, I have to dig them up.

 

[Kathinka]

It is phobic to say these people have something "wrong with them" that they're "mentally ill" that they're "physically ill"[footnote]even though plenty of asexual people have evidence from doctors to contradict this[/footnote], that they're "going to hell" that they're "repressed" that they're "traumatized and should seek help" that they're "special snowflakes"[footnote]Even though the sheer amount of people in this thread alone who identify with the term is contradictory to the word "special snowflake"[/footnote]. To feel the need to inject yourself into their lives and dictate how they should live, think and feel according to your perceived norm. That's phobia. [footnote]This entire statement applies to all orientations, not asexuality in particular.[/footnote]

i agree with most of your post, but i'd argue with this particular part.

mental illnes is a mental or behavioral pattern or anomaly that causes either suffering or an impaired ability to function in ordinary life.
that is pretty spot on for certain orientations. now that isn't an insult and it doesn't make them bad people. it just means that they can profit from professional help to have happier and healthier lives.
there is this stigma attached to being called "sick", but it's not an insult per se (even though some narrow minded asshats use it as one). not all, but certain asexuals have an underlying condition, and that's worth remembering.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

i agree with most of your post, but i'd argue with this particular part.

mental illnes is a mental or behavioral pattern or anomaly that causes either suffering or an impaired ability to function in ordinary life.
that is pretty spot on for certain orientations. now that isn't an insult and it doesn't make them bad people. it just means that they can profit from professional help to have happier and healthier lives.
there is this stigma attached to being called "sick", but it's not an insult per se (even though some narrow minded asshats use it as one). not all, but certain asexuals have an underlying condition, and that's worth remembering.

Fair enough