Seems quite a few don't have girlfriends either, go figure.
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Personally, guys, if she is is respectful of her own parents, I think you should be too. I never required a guy to ask my father anything. However, things were always a lot more pleasant when I dated guys that got along with my parents and she knows them a lot better than you do.
no. wierd. who the hell asks for permission to DATE someone. marry someone, sure, but frankly, if they didnt give me permission i would say "f%#$ you" and do it anyway.
If we were still minors then yes of course I would see her parents about it. If we were both adults and she was still going to them for permission then no I would find someone else.
Meh... guys, its just a cool old-school thing to do. Like shaking the hand of a guy that just worked his ass off for you, its respectful and speaks to your class and character. It ALSO speaks to your class and character if you don't because you "think its stupid".
The reason she wants you to do this is to show you have the courage to look after her, and she's looking for someone that can protect her and asking her father's permission proves this to her, would you do this?
The only thing I'd be asking is how in the hell she figures asking her dad if I can date her proves any of that stuff she just said, because it doesn't.
Plus, chances are if I'm just trying to go out with her, I don't really know her yet. But now she's asking me to go meet her dad before we she'll go out with me? That actually sounds creepy in addition to not really showing any of the things mentioned above. I'd probably just forget about her and go find some girl who doesn't make me wonder if she's crazy. Or twelve years old.
Now if it was to ask his permission to marry her, then that would be different. Of course, I'm never planning on getting married because I think it's just a pointless waste of time and only makes things worse if the relationship fails later, but if it was something I wanted to do, asking her father would be something I'd consider. But just go to out? Again, no. Not a chance.
Lovelocke said:
It ALSO speaks to your class and character if you don't because you "think its stupid".
*shrug* Some person on the internet thinks I'm scum because I won't do something I think is totally creepy considering the circumstances. This will keep me awake at nights.
As far as outdated traditions go, the idea of asking a girl's father for permission, when the girl herself is perfectly capable of making her own decisions, can gladly go fuck itself.
If this was a condition of entry, so to speak, I'd pass. It sets a precedent on the weakest of terms.
lol this is ridiculous. You are just asking her out. That could be a simple conversation over coffee or a dinner but its not like its marriage. This girl must either have daddy issues or she is looking for you to be able to face her father, which is all well and good but somewhat of an overstep on her part. It shows her inability to deal with her own social life which is a little weak willed, in my opinion. Nonetheless, don't show any hesitation. It is just another acquaintance in this trip called life. A dad is just another face in the crowd in the end.
If she is over 15 years old (just a vague reference point) You really shouldnt be asking her parents. Yeah ok if you're a kid and you want your parents to drop you at the movies together because you are still 12 years old, different story.
In teh adult dating world she is her own person and can make her own decisions. Asking her father if you can ask date his daughter is really not required. If she has asked you to ask her father on the other hand that is a different issue. If that happens then you just man the fuck up and go tell him that you want to date his daughter. Shes doing this as a test of you character, most guys will see this task as intimidating and wont want to do it. By maning up, facing it and owning the situation you show her that you are a real man that is lucky to be in the presence of and not just some scared little boy.
I'm not into the type of girl that would ask me to ask their father for permission. Nor the type that wants to be protected. Headstrong with a fair measure of independence is the way to my heart. To be honest, if I was asked to do that I would probably lose a little interest in her because it shows a set of values that don't match mine very well.
...heck, I think being beyond the age of, say, 18 alleviates much of this. I'm under the assumption that the OP is younger, because I have never heard of someone saying such after they've moved out of their parents' place.
well i'm 17 and from the look of most of these post it's closer to applying to me than the rest of you, but just out of curiosity what country are you from? because i'm from Australia and if a girl told me i had to ask her dads permission before dating her i would be really suprised it's dating you aren't getting married and today even asking their fathers permission before marriage is an outdated tradition and i don't think i would as a matter of principal.
well if she asked for this and i realy do love her ill do it without thinking twice well if i realy love her ill do anything for the relationship surely something that small...
So, if you loved a girl and she loved you, but the one condition for you two to go out would be asking her father's permission, would you do it? The reason she wants you to do this is to show you have the courage to look after her, and she's looking for someone that can protect her and asking her father's permission proves this to her, would you do this?
I ask this 'cause when I asked my girlfriend out, I had to ask her father's permission and I did it cause she's worth it, but I was wondering how everyone else would come at this 'problem'. And what do you think about this 'ritual' or thing that some girl's want you to do?
I put 'problem' in quotations because that's not how I view it at all, not as a problem. As I stated above, I asked her dad's permission, I don't view it as a problem, I just think that some people might, so I don't want to appear biased towards one side of the argument.
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