So while this relates to my earlier thread (http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.845070-Aversion-to-Sex?page=1), I felt this would probably deserve its own topic.
A couple of days ago I was talking to someone I went to college with whose wife is pregnant and it came up that I don't really like kids. Everyone in the conversation thought this was weird and wrong. And others, including family members thought it was dumb too.
"Oh, how can you not like children? You were a child once you know!"
Yes, and I apologize for that. But is it really that odd? I just don't like children - or even the idea of someone getting pregnant - at all.
I don't like crying, screaming infants. Or the messes they make. Or the sleeplessness they cause. Or how they look. Or how their default setting is "annoy" for the first part of their existence. Or how expensive they are. Or how much time they require. Or how useless they are personally to me, or anyone else for that matter. Or really anything about them in general.
And I don't like the idea of what pregnancy could do someone I cared about. The sickness, the pain, the mental issues, the body deformation, the cost and time........none of those rank on the "List of Things I'd Do To someone I Care About". They DO rank on the "List of Things I'd Do To My Enemies", but not someone I care about.
If I didn't already have issues with sex (as talked about in the previous thread) - the idea that I could ruin not only my own life but the life of two other people because I didn't say "No" to sex would be enough to keep me off of it forever. And I have thought/inquired about getting a vasectomy to make sure it wouldn't be an issue if by some accident I ever did have sex, but;
1 - They're quite expensive
2 - A good deal of medical insurance and medical payment plans don't cover "Sterilization Procedures" because they're not "medically necessary" and "elective surgeries" meaning you've got to pony up that cash up front.
And what makes it worse is I know "No kids" is a pretty big turn off for a lot of women, so I'm just kneecapping myself again in the relationship department. But is it really so strange to just not like children or want anything to do with them?
A couple of days ago I was talking to someone I went to college with whose wife is pregnant and it came up that I don't really like kids. Everyone in the conversation thought this was weird and wrong. And others, including family members thought it was dumb too.
"Oh, how can you not like children? You were a child once you know!"
Yes, and I apologize for that. But is it really that odd? I just don't like children - or even the idea of someone getting pregnant - at all.
I don't like crying, screaming infants. Or the messes they make. Or the sleeplessness they cause. Or how they look. Or how their default setting is "annoy" for the first part of their existence. Or how expensive they are. Or how much time they require. Or how useless they are personally to me, or anyone else for that matter. Or really anything about them in general.
And I don't like the idea of what pregnancy could do someone I cared about. The sickness, the pain, the mental issues, the body deformation, the cost and time........none of those rank on the "List of Things I'd Do To someone I Care About". They DO rank on the "List of Things I'd Do To My Enemies", but not someone I care about.
If I didn't already have issues with sex (as talked about in the previous thread) - the idea that I could ruin not only my own life but the life of two other people because I didn't say "No" to sex would be enough to keep me off of it forever. And I have thought/inquired about getting a vasectomy to make sure it wouldn't be an issue if by some accident I ever did have sex, but;
1 - They're quite expensive
2 - A good deal of medical insurance and medical payment plans don't cover "Sterilization Procedures" because they're not "medically necessary" and "elective surgeries" meaning you've got to pony up that cash up front.
And what makes it worse is I know "No kids" is a pretty big turn off for a lot of women, so I'm just kneecapping myself again in the relationship department. But is it really so strange to just not like children or want anything to do with them?