Hi guys.
This is the only time I've ever felt compelled to respond to a thread here, mostly because a lot of the people who are on my side seem to be confusing the matter.
So hi. I'm Bi. I've been in relationships with both men and women. Men and Women are different. There are certain emotional aspects of dating women that I really enjoy, and certain emotional aspects of dating men that I really enjoy. Rather like a straight girl might enjoy the way a guy from North Carolina would treat her, and the way a guy from New York, or London would treat her (it's not a perfect analogy but it's really the closest I can get to describing this phenomena), some girls will hate the way New York boy acts or what he has to talk about, so even if he's incredibly attractive, she probably wouldn't pursue a relationship with him. That's fine.
Sex itself is neither here, nor there, and no one's business anyway, so suffice it to say that I wouldn't be open to both if I wasn't attracted to both.
As for "everyone being a little bi," I think the kinsey scale is more about what people have *done* rather than their actual sexuality. I know lots of straight people who have hooked up with people of the same sex, decided it wasn't for them but really are straight. they'd still technically be a "1" or a "2," but bi, they are not. I also know some gays that tried to pass as straight in high school, or or college, but then just came out. still based on "experience" they fall in the middle of the scale. But bi, they are not.
It's not a choice. Because if it was I wouldn't and lah di dah you've heard it before. But seriously, say you're bi to a straight guy, he thinks you're trying to impress him. Say you're bi to a Lesbian, she's wary OR thinks you're kidding yourself. It's a bit annoying.
I can't really get angry at the people who judge me. After all, we can only form opinions based on our own experiences - it's easier for a straight person to understand a gay person ("it's like me except instead of guys they're attracted to girls"), than a bisexual, ("it's like me... except... um. Both?"), because it's difficult to wrap your head around something so different from your own experience. This is also probably why a lot of bisexuals like to think that everyone is bi. Because it's just as difficult to imagine someone only enjoying the emotional and physical company of one gender when you can enjoy both. But I do think that people are straight and gay more than they are bi.
Also there aren't really many media role models for people familiarize themselves with. We have Torchwood, and. um. 13 from House :/
I wish I could single-handedly stop the bias. I can't, but I hope some of you can read this post, and feel a little more enlightened on the subject.
If you have any questions, I'd be more than happy to answer them (nothing rude, please) thank you for taking the time to read this.
