Frankly I don't think this is a good solution, I mean it's like trying to do violence more tastefully, whether you shot someone's brains being splattered over the wall or do a camera cut with some fancy shadow work to allude to brains being splattered on the wall you're still going to offend the same people.
Basically they need to do an all-or-nothing approach. Some people didn't like the romance subplots but fortunately they are always optional, and the "sex" scenes while yes approaching softcore porn... what's the problem? Really I mean I don't get how people will bang their war drums in staunch defense of violence in video games but lord forbid we show sexuality. Violence in video games has always been gratuitous, unrealistic, and over the top, to suddenly complain that a game that has all that in it isn't realistically depicting relationships? Give me a break please.
Doing anything realistically in a video game, especially when it deals with social interaction is going to be very difficult to pull off, at least we can applaud that Bioware is TRYING, I mean Mass Effect and Dragon Age's courting system are far from perfect but at least they're not Harvest Moon level of gifts = love, you actually have to talk to them and somewhat conform to their expectations.
I rather enjoyed the love scenes in ME and DA and yes I'm a male who has no shame in being explicitly upfront about sexuality, I don't see it as shameful and needing to be hidden, but that's besides the point. If you invest in a relationship in a game, a game that's all about rewarding player investment, then shouldn't it make sense to have a pay-off? I mean what else would you expect them to do? Have an innocent G-rated kiss on the cheek and sing the Barney & Friends theme song? It's already a mature rated game for adults, what's the harm in showing a little *gasp* sensuality? I mean realistic or not, you expect some level of intimacy to form, and what higher form of intimacy is there?