I think that is how everything is portrayed, actually.Irony said:I don't believe bisexuality is a bunch of bullshit. Apparently some people have this idea that sexuality is some black and white thing. That's there's no in between, you're either in one category or the other. Which is rather silly, because we're talking about something related to the human mind. Do they really think people can all be perfectly put into two categories which relate to 'what you like'?
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I find that image to be a great example of sexuality. While there probably are people out there who are totally straight and totally gay, and I wouldn't be surprised if most people mainly one or the other, pretty much everyone is somewhere in between the two extremes. And there are probably some that are some totally different option, like asexuality.
That's why I tell people I'm not just straight, I'm super-linear.TheMinz said:A circle is made of a line... Just sayingFloppertje said:how the hell would I know? I'm straight as a line, I don't know what other people are feeling. but for what it's worth: if someone says they're bisexual and they're not a 15 year old schoolgirl who thinks it's cool to be bi, I believe them. why wouldn't I? After all, I find the idea of having sex with a dude rather repulsive and I'm sure gay guys would find the idea of sex with a woman yucky. So why would someone who genuinely dislikes having sex with women date them if they're already 'out'?
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You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.
But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.
I do not take it personally. It is just annoying to have to hear the same thing all the time and has to give an explanation.Char-Nobyl said:That gets you points right off the bat, and explains a lot. When a guy is a practicing bi, it has a lot more weight behind it than when a girl does the same. It's a gender double-standard, but it's kinda true. You don't usually get straight guys making out with their fraternity brothers through college because of booze alone.holy_secret said:In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.
Actually, gender/sexuality does matter for one simple reason: you're speaking with people who aren't bisexual. For a heterosexual, it's easy to acknowledged a person as homosexual, and vise versa, simply because there's a clear divide in sexual preference. For either group to acknowledged that someone essentially occupies both groups is rather confusing, because it requires that they accept that you like who they like (gender-wise), but also the other side of the equation.holy_secret said:I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.
Meh. I'd just be reiterating what I said above. Again, most people are either straight or gay, and being genuinely bi is something of an anomaly. A fair deal of the time, people are just referencing prior experimentation or the aforementioned booze-induced makeouts.holy_secret said:The same works the other way around. Except this time, the heterosexuals say that "maybe you were just experimenting with homosexuality" and the homosexuals say that "you are in denial bladibibla".
Even the last guy I was dating was like this. He was convinced I was homosexual because I was in love with him (and him being a guy).
Wait...I'm actually not sure what you're getting at. What does it mean when you take it personally?holy_secret said:This was okay in the beginning. I didn't really mind this. I know what I am and I don't care what anyone thinks of it.
However. This has been going on for several years. It's not really about the years. It's about the fact that this has been going on for as long as I have been open about my sexuality.
Now, this is pissing me off incredibly. Of course, this makes these people say "oooooh why are you getting so upset huh? :3 You know what it means when you take it personal riiiiight?"
There is a very simple solution to your problem: fuck everyone who doubts you. Then, not only will they believe you, but other people won't question your sexuality because word will have gotten around about how you dealt with the previous doubters.holy_secret said:I'm not taking it personally, I am just tired of hearing how I am and what I am is a lie and to be told I am something else. I know what I am and nothing is going to change that.
Point is, people are hell bent on telling me bisexuality is bullshit.
That's my rant.
I'm sure you didn't mean it like this, but your comment highlights a very common female stereotype of bisexuality. People frequently treat female bisexuality as anything from a phase to desperation because of the misconception that all females can just- I dunno- flip a gay switch and suddenly make out. It trivialises an innate part of many women's lives; something which they cannot change about themselves becomes views as a 'phase' or an inability to choose (NB- I'm well aware that bi guys have the same problem about being accused of being 'on the fence' too, I was mentioning that specifically in relation to- but not exclusively to- the female stereotype).Char-Nobyl said:That gets you points right off the bat, and explains a lot. When a guy is a practicing bi, it has a lot more weight behind it than when a girl does the same. It's a gender double-standard, but it's kinda true. You don't usually get straight guys making out with their fraternity brothers through college because of booze alone.
I suppose that's true. I was stating my opinion on the matter, as well as making an observation on the definition of sexuality, whether it be homosexual or heterosexual. The Merriam Webster dictionary gives 2 definitions "homosexual 2 ENTRIES FOUND:orangeban said:Alright, I've seen this one before, the only way to beat it is to play the same game.BrionJames said:I don't know if I really buy bisexuality. Someone who gets romantically involved with someone of the same sex is a homosexual, so vis a vie technically anyone who considers themselves bisexual - is also a homosexual, sometimes they just like to have relationships with members of the opposite sex. Again technically speaking, bisexuals are homosexuals.
Someone who gets romantically involved with someone of the other sex is a heterosexual, so vis a vie technically anyone who considers themselves bisexual - is also a heterosexual, sometimes they just like to have relationships with members of the same sex. Again technically speaking, bisexuals are heterosexuals.
See, that was literally just a Ctrl-V of what you said, but with the sexualities swapped round. Do you realise how if you say one, the other must be true, and therefore they cancel each other out? The mistake you've made here is assuming that homosexual means, "Has sex with people of the same sex." No, that's wrong. Homosexuality is actually an exclusive attraction to members of the same sex.