Bisexuality doesn't exist
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Alas, there is no guarantee anyone of that selection will have any interest towards us.LiquidGrape said:
Forever alone and so forth, but yeah there does generally seem to be an air of skepticsm about bisexuality, usually formulated from anecdotal evidence when encountering those more desperate for attention. To be fair, I have seen this sort of thing back when I was at school there were 2 or 3 pupils who went through periods of confusion saying they were gay/bisexaul then ending up straight by the time they reached sixth form and one particular guy calling himself bi to damn near everyone in school, apparently to impress a girl (fucking idiot -_-) then going back on it. Speaking as someone currently closeted it makes me worry about the facepalmingly obnoxious reactions I'll likely get, which I just know are going to be built on these same anecdotes about vociferous attention whores. But I suppose I shouldn't be so cynically presumptuous as them, I guess the only thing you can really do is grit your teeth, shrug, say 'haters gonna hate' and try to just continue pursuing what you want and not to let the comments faze you. Que sera sera and whatnot. That being said if I have to go through years of that like OP's situation I'll probably have punched someone in that time...I think the scale exists more to merely illustrate that there are in fact bisexuals with a preference rather than finding an arbitrary number or percentage to measure your attraction patterns or whatever. I just find the scale useful to present to those with a more binary view on sexuality, but I don't necessarily identify with it. I see people as individuals, either you find certain people attractive or you don't, I just don't really feel the need to tally percentages on it.bahumat42 said:
The singer Mika, who I have a lot of respect for, said this about his sexuality: "I've never ever labelled myself. But having said that; I've never limited my life, I've never limited who I sleep with... Call me whatever you want. Call me bisexual, if you need a term for me... I consider myself label-less because I could fall in love with anybody - literally - any type, any body. I'm not picky."
I think that there are some people that label themselves bisexual because they ARE unsure, or in denial, etc etc. But I think that the majority of mature adults who really think about their sexuality will be able to identify themselves (or chose not to) as whatever they feel describes them best, including bisexuality.
I think that there are some people that label themselves bisexual because they ARE unsure, or in denial, etc etc. But I think that the majority of mature adults who really think about their sexuality will be able to identify themselves (or chose not to) as whatever they feel describes them best, including bisexuality.
I am hetero. If someone were to walk up to me and say 'You can't be hetero, that's just a label!' I'd be insulted. Frankly, my sexual attraction to the female gender, and conversely, nonattraction to the male gender isn't a choice, it's just how I'm wired. Maybe it's how I'm raised, maybe it's biological, but outside of intellectual examination, I really don't give a fuck.holy_secret said:
I am hetero. No one has my experience or feelings, and cannot define me based on their own.
Does that sound familiar, OP? You're attracted to some guys, and you're attracted to some girls. You're bisexual! How dare anyone tell you what it is or is not! They don't have your hormonee! They don't have your genitals! They don't know what thrills you go through when you meet that person you like! They don't know shit.
Don't ask ME if bisexuality is bullshit! I should be asking YOU! Is bisexuality bullshit? Your response is probably going to be no. And, well, you're more of an expert on the subject than I (or anyone) can be!
Any gay who says something like that needs to shut up, because they don't even have the ignorance excuse.
To be honest, I don't think we should consider sexuality. Either you're attracted to someone or you aren't.
To be honest, I don't think we should consider sexuality. Either you're attracted to someone or you aren't.
Some people just are overly sexual. Heres a thought, your a guy and your into the finer pleasures in life. Well, a woman can do all sorts of things that are wonderful and certainly memorable. However, she will never know how it FEELS to be a guy. Never know how this feels compared to that, etc. Now all guys know what feels good where. So one could say a woman can never pleasure a guy like another guy can.
The same also works visa versa, with woman/woman.
The same also works visa versa, with woman/woman.
Cuz this totally doesn't harken back to the days when gay people were treated as mentally ill. Seriously humanity never ceases to amaze me, by how utterly retarded, ignorant and hate filled it really is.Steel_viper said:
Pansexuality would be loving all people regardless of geneder. This could be with people who don't identify themselves as either a man or a woman strictly. While Bi-sexuality is usually with people identifying with a single gender of either male or female.DYin01 said:
I understand how you're feeling completely. It's the hetero's of the past's fault, mainly. If society wasn't so rigidly heteronormative, which is what forced the homo's to have to define the culture in the way they did when they started gaining acceptance as a group, maybe people wouldn't be over-exposed to both groups and made to see things so in such dichotomous terms. There's two more letters in LGBT than the L and G, people. Just because the bi's and trans' aren't always so fucking noisy about it doesn't mean they aren't here.holy_secret said:
Someone else asked the same thing earlier, so i'll just quote what i said before:DYin01 said:
Ilikemilkshake said:
Yes, bisexuality exists.
http://healthland.time.com/2011/08/23/scientific-study-finds-that-bisexuality-really-exists/
I don't think it's all that common, but that's not a good reason for hetero- or homo- sexual people to try to lump bisexuals into another category.
Kinsey speculated that most people are somewhere on a spectrum; that wouldn't surprise me, though I would appear to be all the way on one side of that spectrum.
http://healthland.time.com/2011/08/23/scientific-study-finds-that-bisexuality-really-exists/
I don't think it's all that common, but that's not a good reason for hetero- or homo- sexual people to try to lump bisexuals into another category.
Kinsey speculated that most people are somewhere on a spectrum; that wouldn't surprise me, though I would appear to be all the way on one side of that spectrum.
In the end, you'd eventually have to settle or find people that consider an everything goes relationship enthralling and have no issues with jealousy.holy_secret said:
From my own experience, I think we live in times were experimentation and freedom are absolutely legitimate concepts, but most folks that openly declare themselves to be bisexual are - very - basically just unable or unwilling to settle, and they'll sometimes go to exceptionally great lengths to satisfy their lust.
Humanity is a self-service meat market for them, and as long as they are young, good-looking and free of any nasty viral souvenir, the world really seems to be theirs to take, everyone and everything seemingly to be up for grabs. If depression or other psychological anomalies don't happen, life tends to take a turn at around age forty for males and age thirty for females, where females mostly settle with the next best inseminator and males either settle with a woman, trying to go for the family picture or, if they are for some reason opposed to having children, they settle with a male partner, where most seem to prefer an openly and exclusively gay character, never a bisexual.
In the end, I think the phenomenon of bisexuality is still not properly made sense of. In a way, it's all sex'n'giggles up to a certain point, where life gets more real and mortality comes a-knocking at your door or the doctor gives you a little scare. The moment people have a brush with the news of no-one living forever some seem to go all-out with their shag-all lifestyle whereas others go complete Marcus Bachmann. Sometimes, life is easy. Sometimes, it isn't. Most of the time, you don't really have to bother caring about what others say about you, sometimes it will come round in the most unpleasant and most unexpected ways. Good luck.
I never got that. In Sweden, the LGBT movement thingy or whatever the hell you want to call it is called HBT (Homo-Bi-Transexual).8bitlove2a03 said:
Y lesbians and gays have to be distinguished?
I call them hipsters.Wedlock49 said:
Oh god. Explaining to my girlfriend I'm Bi was a pain for this very reason. What was I supposed to say to her? That I read Yaoi and find more men in the school attractive than women?
She still hasn't fully accepted it. Pisses me off no end.
Calumon: Why can't people do what they want and not be mean?
She still hasn't fully accepted it. Pisses me off no end.
Calumon: Why can't people do what they want and not be mean?
That about sums things up.Kathinka said:
It's not like being heterosexual is a guarantee you'll be attracted to someone of the opposite gender nor being bisexual a guarantee you'll be attracted to just about everyone period.
Either you're attracted to someone, in which case go for it if there's no rational reason why you shouldn't.
Or you're not attracted to someone, in which case just continue as you always do.
There's not much more to it, at least there shouldn't be. Though bigotry and sheer idiocy manage to screw it up often enough.
Well, pardon my feeling an urge to respond to this, even though it was not a question to begin with:Shiny Koi said:
What exactly do you expect from a community that is defined by a common interest, whereas that common interest is not Robert Veggie Vampire Pattinson, collecting stamps or horticulturalism, but how they get off, the juices flowing and the erections subdued?
I believe a lot of the *sexual demographic is artificially lumped together, and even the most homosexual community consists of a heterogenous mix of individuals from poof to bear to pig to state attorney.
To be honest, I wouldn't want to invite a good 90% of my gay acquaintances when any single one (or steady-relationship pair) of them was present, because it would either qualify as a potentially volatile social experiment drama, or because there would be a chance they'd pretty much spontaneously pee on each other and have sex in the bathroom.
While I do believe it is important gay folks are not shunned and discriminated, a lot of times sexuality just isn't the issue at hand and when goals have to be met, when paperwork needs to be done - being whatever-sexual is simply not part of the problem, the equation or the solution. I know gay men from scruffy bastard to Secretary of Education, and the most vocal defender of gay rights is usually the one who really hasn't got much to lose to begin with. The more you've achieved, the more refined you become as a human being, the more you realize that sexuality might very well be a common interest you share with others, but there's still a million ways to handle it.
If gay folks feel constantly discriminated, your being bisexual can suffice to make you the enemy. How silly is that? Very silly. But that's how we humans roll. Quite a silly bunch we are.
Transhomobiheterosekshually yours,
-screw.