Break-up question

[RhombusHatesYou]

There's no 'good' way to break up with someone if they're still really into you. Still, face to face is better than voice only, voice only is better than text, text is better than just avoiding them until they get the idea. Also, never, ever break up via a 3rd person unless you've already tried f2f, voice AND text and they still won't accept it (some people are fucking dipshits).

Boy needs to grow the fuck up buuuuut... well, you also got to give him his space. Although, if he's stalking your sister it might save everyone a lot of time and trouble if you have him beaten to a pulp.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

My one break up was pretty easy, as we didn't have a choice. She was moving provinces, so we just said our farewells to each other.

Most of my break ups have been mutual 'fuck you' type deals, usually after I'd done something stupid but minor (in my mind at the time, anyway).

 

[cheeseraven]

I think that if we are to answer this question we should turn to the infinite wisdom of.... Seinfeld.

QUESTION: "...are all break-ups supposed to be bad?", "Have any of you just had a break-up where both people just went "ok" and moved on?"

ANSWER: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac2Nq33SEx4

Well apparently there is such a thing as a mutual break up. Who knew?


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Personally, nope. Break ups have never been too bad or too good either. Just gotta get over em and move on.

 

[Tiroe]

Some break ups just won't go right, it happens.

If he starts following you/her around outside of school as well, though, something does need to be done. By either his parents or a teacher, talking to him yourself isn't a good idea in that case.

You're right, trying to talk to him doesn't really help. The conversations I've had with him don't go anywhere because he just doesn't want to move on. I wish he did, though.

Also isn't there an unwritten Brother Rule that states to not date your sister's friends unless its 100% mutual.

I didn't know, but it does make sense now.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

"This isn't working."
"Alright."

And we never spoke again.
See? That wasn't so bad.

*wipes away a tear*

That was touching.

 

[Miumaru]

If both can tell the relationship is not working, then it can end mutually and dramaless. If one is still very attached to the relationship, drama will ensue.

 

[RottingAwesome]

wow, the first half of that sounded eerily similar to a break up i just went through and i got scared for a second ._.
OT: if one person isn't over the other, then yeah it can be hard =\

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

If both can tell the relationship is not working, then it can end mutually and dramaless. If one is still very attached to the relationship, drama will ensue.

And sometimes drama will ensue because one of the people feels ended relationships always require drama.

It's right fucking weird when you get shitcanned and then get screamed at and have things thrown at you for taking it on the chin.

 

[RicoADF]

My best friend?s brother asked me out. I didn?t have any romantic feelings towards him, but I accepted, since I had never been in a serious relationship before and because I figured that I should give him a chance.

Well that wasn't right to do, guys do have feelings and to let them think your interested when your not is one of the worse things you can do.
Having said that, he's a fruit loop for reacting how he is and not worth your time. He's just saying what he is to try and lul you back out of guilt &/or attention seeking.
As for me, my only break up, while it was hard for both of us, wasn't nearly that bad. Some time away from eachother helped and now we're the best of friends .

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

"This isn't working."
"Alright."

And we never spoke again.
See? That wasn't so bad.

*wipes away a tear*

That was touching.

Thank you. I'd write a poem, if only I could remember her name.

Women have names now?

When did this happen?

 

[Miumaru]

If both can tell the relationship is not working, then it can end mutually and dramaless. If one is still very attached to the relationship, drama will ensue.

And sometimes drama will ensue because one of the people feels ended relationships always require drama.

It's right fucking weird when you get shitcanned and then get screamed at and have things thrown at you for taking it on the chin.

Guessing you dealt with that. She (Im guessing ) likely did still have hope for the relationship, even if she perhaps said she wnated to break up ro something, or is full of herseld and expects you to feel like losing her should be tearing you up inside. Two sensible people who know the relationship wotn work can end things fine. I cant vouche for crazy bitches though.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

Guessing you dealt with that. She (Im guessing ) likely did still have hope for the relationship, even if she perhaps said she wnated to break up ro something, or is full of herseld and expects you to feel like losing her should be tearing you up inside.

Definitely the latter of the options. She was fucking mental, too.

I've never understood why some women end the 'break up speech' with "don't you have anything to say?"... that's a 'no correct answer' question. Say something and it gets turned against you, say nothing and it gets turned against you, point behind them then dive out the window when they turn around and it gets turned against you (especially if the window was closed)...

Seriously, why ask a question when it's just an excuse to reiterate what a **** I am? Skip the question and just reiterate. I enjoy a highlights show.

 

[zombiesinc]

"This isn't working."
"Alright."

And we never spoke again.
See? That wasn't so bad.

Annnnd, wow, that's exactly how one of my breakups went...

My worst breakup was after I moved my life to Australia for my girlfriend. Nearly ten months after moving there, and the day after her birthday she broke up with me. Hardest and loneliest breakup yet.

Breakups aren't supposed to be anything. They can go poorly, quietly, loudly, ridiculously, stupidly or any other -ly you can think of, it really boils down to the people in the relationship. I just hope that this guy mellows the fuck out, and realizes that he should be thankful you didn't stay in a relationship if you weren't feeling it. Life goes on after heartbreak, no matter how much you refuse to believe that.

 

[Slayer_2]

Well, one girl once asked me out and I turned her down (she is a *****). She's pretty bitchy to me whenever she sees me, which thankfully isn't often. However, I think the only real change is how often we see each other.

 

[Miumaru]

Guessing you dealt with that. She (Im guessing ) likely did still have hope for the relationship, even if she perhaps said she wnated to break up ro something, or is full of herseld and expects you to feel like losing her should be tearing you up inside.

Definitely the latter of the options. She was fucking mental, too.

I've never understood why some women end the 'break up speech' with "don't you have anything to say?"... that's a 'no correct answer' question. Say something and it gets turned against you, say nothing and it gets turned against you, point behind them then dive out the window when they turn around and it gets turned against you (especially if the window was closed)...

Seriously, why ask a question when it's just an excuse to reiterate what a **** I am? Skip the question and just reiterate. I enjoy a highlights show.

Women wanna be special. Thus not caring about losing them goes against that. Im guilty of it too honestly, but I try to understand that sometimes I am just being crazy. I got mad once for my bf not giving me the right compliment after he gave me a million ones. I got mad at him for a few minutes, realized I was being stupid, then apologized.

 

[Om Nom Nom]

It really is "in a book". [http://www.aolhealth.com/condition-center/mens-sexual-health/male-brain-Louann-Brizendine?ncid=webmaildl3]

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

Women wanna be special. Thus not caring about losing them goes against that.

Strangely enough, when a woman shitcans me her emotional needs cease to be a priority for me.



Okay, I did deserve the spack attack the time I was being dumped and kept finishing all her cliches for her. That was bad of me but OH THE CLICHES... I couldn't help myself.

 

[Doctor VonSexMachine]

Breakups are always easy when I'm the one doing the dumping
But I did get dumped on the phone for another girl by a guy I had been with for over a year and had sleepovers at least once a week with. Ouch.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

in order of greatest to least, face to face> phone > IM/email. I think that's how it goes, anyways.

It's face > phone > gorilla-gram > IM > Email > TV ad > smeared blood on their bedroom wall

 

[Raikov]

I've never had any really bad breakups, but its different from person to person. Last time I really did love the girl tough, so it hurt like hell. But she really did feel that she had to go, and I couldn't do anything about it anyways, so why would I get angry at her?