Break-up question

[blalien]

This guy sounds like a freak. Seriously, get some help. Ask your parents to talk to his parents and make sure they reign him in. Let your teachers know what's going on. Do not let him get away with this.

Even if you had broken up with him in person, it wouldn't have helped things. And no, teenage hormones are no excuse for his behavior.

And to answer your questions...face and phone are the only proper ways to break up, and most breakups either end in tension or never speaking again. The post-breakup friendship is a myth. Avoid dating people who you're going to have to deal with if or when you break up.

 

[ethaninja]

Only if you break up with whiney teenagers. However, breaking up with him via chat has to be one of the most douchey things a person could do. No, not all breakups are bad, it depends how emotionaly needy they are. Me, I'm practically emotionally dead inside. If my girlfriend was to break up with me, I would just ask her why at most, take it as my loss, and move on.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

in order of greatest to least, face to face> phone > IM/email. I think that's how it goes, anyways.

It's face > phone > gorilla-gram > IM > Email > TV ad > smeared blood on their bedroom wall

Ahh. Ok, thanks for clearing that up. Though the last one is probably cause for concern, means they're a bit batty.

You think? Even worse when it's your blood.

 

[Shru1kan]

"This isn't working."
"Alright."

And we never spoke again.
See? That wasn't so bad.

*wipes away a tear*

That was touching.

Thank you. I'd write a poem, if only I could remember her name.

Women have names now?

When did this happen?

This is why I love these threads.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

"This isn't working."
"Alright."

And we never spoke again.
See? That wasn't so bad.

*wipes away a tear*

That was touching.

Thank you. I'd write a poem, if only I could remember her name.

Women have names now?

When did this happen?

This is why I love these threads.

Well it's one thing to name cars, computers or guitars, they all have their own individual personalities.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

in order of greatest to least, face to face> phone > IM/email. I think that's how it goes, anyways.

It's face > phone > gorilla-gram > IM > Email > TV ad > smeared blood on their bedroom wall

Ahh. Ok, thanks for clearing that up. Though the last one is probably cause for concern, means they're a bit batty.

You think? Even worse when it's your blood.

What if you guys just had some weird bed confrontation and that's how she broke up with you afterwords? ;P

You'll have to contact my lawyer for any comment on that.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

in order of greatest to least, face to face> phone > IM/email. I think that's how it goes, anyways.

It's face > phone > gorilla-gram > IM > Email > TV ad > smeared blood on their bedroom wall

Ahh. Ok, thanks for clearing that up. Though the last one is probably cause for concern, means they're a bit batty.

You think? Even worse when it's your blood.

What if you guys just had some weird bed confrontation and that's how she broke up with you afterwords? ;P

You'll have to contact my lawyer for any comment on that.

Well played. I hope she was at least good.

Who cares? I was fantastic!

 

[Penguinness]

So this is a bit of back-story, for those who are interested or bored enough, but feel free to skip to the questions at the end.

My best friend?s brother asked me out. I didn?t have any romantic feelings towards him, but I accepted, since I had never been in a serious relationship before and because I figured that I should give him a chance. So, about four months passed and I had slowly realized that I was never going to fall in love with him (our dates were absolutely boring, the ?making out? sessions were shallow and mechanical and we had very different tastes where it counted). On the other hand (I don?t know how), he somehow felt that we were meant to get married and live together for eternity or something like that. As a result, I broke up with him?via chat. I admit, that was cold of me and I felt kind of bad for him. But how he reacted made that feeling of guilt transform into the certainty that breaking up was the best decision I had made in my whole life.

I?ll explain: I wanted to apologize for the way I gave him ?the news?, but he acted like a jerk, which made me feel worse. And then, through chat, he outright told me that he couldn?t stop thinking about me, that he was crying and that he would kill himself. I felt kind of angry, but tried to cheer him up. This didn?t work, so I told his parents about his suicide threat and he reacted in a weird way. He has started stalking my sister at school and now, he has told me to stay away from his house, which, I remind you, is where my best friend lives. I don?t know whether he needs help or just needs to grow up, and I?m annoyed that I agreed to go out with this guy in the first place.

Now that I got that out of my system, I would like to ask, are all break-ups supposed to be bad? Have any of you just had a break-up where both people just went ?ok? and moved on?

That kinda sucks for you. My first one was a case of "ok" and moving on. It was only a month though and it wasn't going anywhere and although I basically said it, I was getting enough signals to know she felt the same. We did it over msn though. I'd probably prefer that than frontal confrontation, that would suck.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Nope, they do not.

Im best friends with an x-girl friend, the only problem its wierd being with other girls around her.

 

[yoyo13rom]

Now that I got that out of my system, I would like to ask, are all break-ups supposed to be bad? Have any of you just had a break-up where both people just went ?ok? and moved on?

From my point of view, break-ups don't have to be bad.
Although I have had only 2 serious relationships in my life, my last break-up was perfect. Things weren't going well, she was probably cheating on me, I was to restrictive with her, she usually prefered to hang out with her friends rather than go out with me, she had exams and was in a local political/charity-like group that consumed most of her time, I was way to jealous(nah, I had every reason to be suspicious!), and in a paradox way we both decided that we should break up. And be both kind "agreed that we disagree", sort to speak.