Darth Mobius said:
mshcherbatskaya said:
Darth Mobius said:
That is what I did when my wife left me for a 30 year old man... Money grubbing whore...
Oh yeah, and I became misogynistic... But my new girlfriend has done quite a bit to help me re-establish an intimate level of trust in her... Not 100%, but enough that I don't think she is just going to hurt me like she did last time... But I do still find some women to be disgusting whores, and probably always will...
I hope not, if only because that's a lot of processor cycles being spent on something with almost no real payoff in the end. I realize that marriage is different, especially when you have a kid and can't just shake the dust off your feet and walk away, but dwelling on something like that...I don't know. It takes a lot of emotional energy and I'm not sure you get anything worthwhile in return. Hate and distrust for 51% of the human race can't be easy to sustain.
Wouldn't be saying this if I didn't care. You know that, right?
Mshcherbatskaya, I want to thank you. I was being a little gloomy that day, and I needed to lighten up... I don't hate or mistrust 51% of the population. I just, well, on most days, I find more examples of women who are slutty whores... I was at work and this one girl was talking about how she had to choose between two guys, one of whom was great in bed but sucked at everything else in life, and another guy who she had a lot in common with and got along well with, but she had never slept with him... I just got disgusted because she was SERIOUSLY having a problem choosing between a douche bag with no ambition and a Kind, Sweet, Caring, and Supportive guy with a job and a future... Plus my supervisor is a stuck-up ***** who goes out of her way to make my day worse... So women have been the cause of most of my problems in life for the last week.... Luckily my supervisor is transferring tomorrow, and I have had a few great days when I didn't work with her, so I know it is all my problem with her...
This is just an observation, not a criticism: you seem to spend a lot of time paying attention to women, you seem to be very woman-focused. I think that if you'd had good experiences with women rather than bad ones, you'd still be woman-focused, you'd just be one of those guys who has tons of female friends. Here's my hypothesis: if you are looking through a lens of bitter experience and you are a person who focuses on women, you are going to see a lot more to hate in women than in men, just like if you'd had good experiences with women, you'd find more to admire in them than in men. I wonder if broadening your vision to encompassed bastards as well as bitches might not give you more balance, if not more happiness. I mean, there's Jallil's ex-husband (do I have that right?) who sounds like a total abusive asshole, and then there's the thirty year-old shitbag who sleeps with girls who are barely legal and screws other men's wives. There's plenty to hate about guys, if you have a mind to.
Or you could do the opposite, and just decided that people, not men, not women, just people, are fucked up and hurt each other and get hurt and are stupid and malicious and gullible, and that people lie and people are selfish and people on the whole are a sorry lot.
I don't know why, but it seems to be easier to forgive the entire human race than just part of it. Maybe you could just decide to forgive everyone for being human, including yourself, since you seem just as pissed at yourself, really. Then you could set down this burden of anger and resentment and get back to being happy, or as happy as any person, male or female, can be in this world.
It may surprise you, but I know lesbians who basically have the same attitudes you do, and for the same reason. Being a woman does not make a person immune to misogyny. There are women who sleep with women who do not trust women. Ditto gay guys. Sad. And very human.