Breaking Up

[PrimoThePro]

Hey guys.
Jeez. It's a longish story, I'm not gonna bore you with details, but I've been dating my girlfriend for about 8 months now. She's still in love with me, but I just don't feel it any more. Which sucks, cause she is awesome. She listens, shes smart, funny, pretty. Pretty much a perfect girlfriend. I just don't think I can connect with her anymore.
I refuse to break up over the phone or IM, I will only do it in person. She deserves that much. But I'm at a loss of what to say. She still really likes me and I have no idea what to do. If you guys have any advice, that would be greatly appreciated.
EDIT: Thanks for all the suggestions. My new problem is where do I do this? should i... take her out? make this a private affair? any suggestions?
EDIT2:Let me fill in the "Longish Story" part, alot of people dont understand, which is... understandable. Shes fun. Fun as in, nothing is reality. this was amazing before, because we had alot of fun times together, but when conversations got serious, I dont know, I guess she couldnt deal, and made jokes. thats why its hard to tell her feelings sometimes. the one time she was serious was when she spoke about marriage, just once. this lack of seriousness in some of my troubled times (my Grandpa dieing) is something that I cant understand. Her cat died, and I was there for her, but she was never there for me when my grandpa died. I have thought about this. In fact, I've been thinking this for a month now. How will i know when she is serious?
FINALEDIT: I did it. it's done. I feel... lighter. itll take some time however...

 

[Pimppeter2]

If what your profile says is correct, you're about 20 or 21.

Just tell her that you want to live your life, and not get tied down at such a young age.

 

[FlyAwayAutumn]

Tell her exactly how you feel, there's no point in lying to her.

Edit: and another thing I'm sure BonsaiK would be a great help to you, in giving advice.

 

[hazabaza1]

Make incriminating pictures of her on photoshop, and claim you don't want to be with someone who does those things.

If what your profile says is correct, you're about 20 or 21.

Just tell her that you want to live your life, and not get tied down at such a young age.

Yeah, this guy. I really don't know, I'm younger than you, so my advice would probably suck. Maybe just be honest about it?

 

[Darktau]

If what your profile says is correct, you're about 20 or 21.

Just tell her that you want to live your life, and not get tied down at such a young age.

If your profile isn't correct and your 84 say your getting too old for this.

OT: Im with furburt honesty is the best policy. (Just remember she will probably think over the event a few times, so don't expect an awesome first reaction.)

 

[Plurralbles]

dont' spend the whole fucking day iwth her at a wedding reception before you do it. Please. For hte love of god don't fucking do that to her.

 

[Soren91]

Well it's good of you not to take the coward's way out by texting her or something. Like what other people said, just be honest with her. Don't sugarcoat it, don't say stuff just to make her feel better if you don't mean it, it will just make it worse. She'll get over it eventually and breaking up is better than staying together if you really don't feel that way anymore.

 

[PrimoThePro]

If what your profile says is correct, you're about 20 or 21.

Just tell her that you want to live your life, and not get tied down at such a young age.

but thats the thing, she wants to make our relationship pretty much permanent until marriage.

Just be totally honest. Not mean, just honest. Lies will always show through in a situation like that.

Don't use cliches, don't try to make her rationalize, and be prepared for her breaking down.

well shes in love with me, but i cant reflect those feelings. I feel as if honesty would just wreck her. And I dont want that for her...

 

[PrimoThePro]

dont' spend the whole fucking day iwth her at a wedding reception before you do it. Please. For hte love of god don't fucking do that to her.

i would never!

 

[Insanum]

Err....Consider if you break up with her you will lose what you have with her.

Im not talking you out of it, But dont come here in 3 months and say you've made a massive mistake breaking up with her.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Punch her in the face then walk away.

If she doesn't break up with you, try PimpPeter2's idea instead.

 

[Weaver]

I'd say lead with a joke. Something like "I'm sorry, I can't hear you! You're breaking up!" Throw in some fake radio static noise and you got yourself a class act!

 

[Rednog]

Hire a barbershop quartet to sing it to her? It is a pretty classy way to break up a relationship...at least in my book.

 

[Rednog]

I'd say lead with a joke. Something like "I'm sorry, I can't hear you! You're breaking up!"

Do you mean "I'm sorry, I can't hear you! We're breaking up!" ?

 

[Weaver]

I'd say lead with a joke. Something like "I'm sorry, I can't hear you! You're breaking up!"

Do you mean "I'm sorry, I can't hear you! We're breaking up!" ?

Sure, either one is good.

 

[Xpwn3ntial]

don't spend the whole fucking day with her at a wedding reception before you do it. Please. For the love of god don't fucking do that to her.

Do you speak from experience?

 

[Plurralbles]

don't spend the whole fucking day with her at a wedding reception before you do it. Please. For the love of god don't fucking do that to her.

Do you speak from experience?

yep. Woke up early in the morning, spent the whole day with her, got back, cuddled for an hour and a half, then when I go in for the good bye kiss... BAM.

I simply said, "WTF" and left her house. fuck that *****.

 

[Julianking93]

If what your profile says is correct, you're about 20 or 21.

Just tell her that you want to live your life, and not get tied down at such a young age.

but thats the thing, she wants to make our relationship pretty much permanent until marriage.

Use that then. If she's that young and wants a permanent relationship, I'd recommend getting the fuck out.

 

[BlindMessiah94]

Be honest.
Think about it - if the roles were reversed wouldn't you want the truth?
I also agree with the BonsaiK advice.

 

[PrimoThePro]

but thats the thing, she wants to make our relationship pretty much permanent until marriage.

Use that then. If she's that young and wants a permanent relationship, I'd recommend getting the fuck out.

I know. its partly the reason I want to leave. (not all of it) I just dont want to hurt her too bad.

Err....Consider if you break up with her you will lose what you have with her.

Im not talking you out of it, But dont come here in 3 months and say you've made a massive mistake breaking up with her.

believe me man, I've thought about this long and hard. I just dont feel it. I dont think I'll ever feel it.