Gregory McMillan said:
The irony is that you say we coddle too much, but you're also thankful that you had friends and family that supported you. You are lucky by comparison to the ones who don't have that support.
Yea but I sure as hell wasn't coddled. No one was beating on my tormentors. Hell there was hardly an intervention because it was pointless. No I was taken aside and TAUGHT how to deal with it. To take insults with flinching, and to move when fists started flying. I was taught, in fact had my ass whooped, learning how to actually fight. And man did I get my ass whooped a few times, by people that loved me but I became stronger for it. I learn better techniques, how to keep my head up, yet protected. In fact I was pretty decent boxer when it was through. Believe me, that took a lot of pain, a lot of effort, and it built a shit load of character.
There is very big difference but I can see that a lot "hurt feelings" here linger and many haven't learn to deal with it.
Maybe its my libertarian side coming out, but I hate relying on authority to solve my problems. I'd sooner kill a thief in my home to protect my family then run and lock the bed room and call 911.
First cops don't really respond fast in my neighbourhood Second, I'd rather make one less thief in the world then let the penal system turn out another more well equip criminal.
Sometimes Parents, teachers, and the media aren't going to be there in time. Or they only care after it's too late.
Again no one coddled me, I got a shit load of tough love. I got told what I did wrong, and why hurting myself was wrong. And I couldn't blame bullies for the rest of my life. I was responsible for myself, and I was responsible for letting petty shit get to me. I wasn't responsible for what Bullies did, and they were wrong, but what I did to myself, and thus really did to my loved ones, wasn't the fault of a bully, even it was part of the cause.
For some reason, everyone that is against original poster, equates everything said as some type of macho do it yourself bullshit... which isn't true. But I guess in the perfect world, we make all play grounds out of nerf, and make sure the kids only play on the black top cause grass as germs.
Its why we have some many supposed "men" who complain about walking a mile, or that the weather is a little chilly so they can't to work. Whatever, I work my ass off, I've walked all across my city, in places that most people would be "afraid" of in the winter. I'm tough now, I've worked 15 hour days in kitchens unbelievably hot, just for a mere 8 bucks an hour. I've done some dirty, hard, nasty shit to provide for my family. I got those values, those abilities not by being coddled, but being encouraged, supported, and taught to survive when others. Well others just give up and die.
Do I think it's right? No, but I sure as hell believe for the most part in America, most of these kids need to MAN up because that was the very thing that turned my life around.
But you know, first world problems. Seriously, I hate to be dick, but I see a bunch of wusses arguing that their First World problems are o so hard and we all need to learn to play nice. Guess what, the world ain't nice, and it isn't getting nicer.
Understand I can be a super liberal guy. I would stand up for some one being bullied, but after it's said and done. Me and the victim, of that bully, well I'm going to show them, what I was shown. A whole lot of Love of a very tough nature. Like me, I will imbue and temper them into something stronger. I explain to them, if you ever want your independence, you will have to learn to stand, when even the wind is trying to knock you down.