I find I always have to be friends with a girl before I can become a boyfriend, does that mean I'm doomed?
Seriously though, guys need to understand that banging chicks shouldn't be a reason to start a relationship and they certainly shouldn't expect a girl to let them just because you're friends. This is why girls friendzone guys, they think guys think relationship means sex and they don't want that from you. Sometimes it's because you're unattractive but sometimes because they actually believe it would ruin your friendship. Some girls will automatically friendzone all guys and that you can't help, but if you want to take a friendship to the next level, it can't be for sex. Girls have a sense for these things, they're like bears...
they can smell your fear...
Finally, the whole "nice guys finish last" thing is just something guys tell themselves so they don't have to be nice. The thing is, a relationship does not hinge on whether you're nice or a complete tool, and being nice until you have sex isn't going to make her love you. She'll realise you were just being nice to get into her pants and she'll hate you. This is another reason girls will often friendzone guys, because they know (or sometimes just assume) when you just want to get in their pants, and they don't want you to stop being nice.
Seriously though, guys need to understand that banging chicks shouldn't be a reason to start a relationship and they certainly shouldn't expect a girl to let them just because you're friends. This is why girls friendzone guys, they think guys think relationship means sex and they don't want that from you. Sometimes it's because you're unattractive but sometimes because they actually believe it would ruin your friendship. Some girls will automatically friendzone all guys and that you can't help, but if you want to take a friendship to the next level, it can't be for sex. Girls have a sense for these things, they're like bears...
they can smell your fear...
Finally, the whole "nice guys finish last" thing is just something guys tell themselves so they don't have to be nice. The thing is, a relationship does not hinge on whether you're nice or a complete tool, and being nice until you have sex isn't going to make her love you. She'll realise you were just being nice to get into her pants and she'll hate you. This is another reason girls will often friendzone guys, because they know (or sometimes just assume) when you just want to get in their pants, and they don't want you to stop being nice.