Casual sex

[The Virgo]

Depending on the woman, yeah, a little casual sex is good, but only if she's not someone I would want to spend my life with.

However, if the woman is one that I think is THE one, then no "casual" sex. Lots of dating, she moves in with me and then later, "real" sex!

 

[cdstephens]

I think it'd be great, even though I've never managed to do it without someone getting emotionally involved. Sex is great, and we all have needs to fulfil. Why not?

See, that's where it starts, right there by saying "Why not?". Eventually you'll start justifying EVERY act of depravity or excess with "Why not?".

People, that's what we are. We are human beings, not animals, we shouldn't be giving in to our base desires so easily.

And eventually you'll start objecting to everything with a "why"? Soon, we won't be able to have casual sex, monogamous sex, and before you know it we'll require artificial insemination because any sex at all becomes wholly immoral.

Protip: Slippery slope arguments are easily reversed.

 

[Slayer_2]

My view on it is do what you will. I honestly don't care what other people do, as long as it doesn't harm me or other people. As long as you're both single and looking for some fun, why not. Personally, I've only ever tried it once, and it ended up with my rocket... um lets say failing to launch... It was rather embarrassing, and made things awkward, as you can imagine. Maybe I'm all talk, as I think of myself as logical, to the point of being cold, yet when the time came to step up to the plate, I was swinging a rope instead of a bat... Ugh.

 

[zelda2fanboy]

They SEEM really low. But the risks are never, EVER zero. No form of birth control or protection is 100% effective, even when using more than one at the same time. Plenty of women get pregnant and plenty of diseases get spread every day even when both of them do everything "right."

But that's why casual sex with friends seems so much more practical and safe. I mean the odds of pregnancy and disease is even lower than that if you factor in stuff like regular STD screening, knowledge of a partner's history, and good old fashioned abortion. Granted, I'm a virgin and I know almost nothing about sex. Just asking out of curiosity like an alien visitor inquiring about local mating rituals.

It has always felt like there's so little I can trust about what anyone says about sex since everything is so drastically biased from religion, "morals," and personal experience. Is having sex really all that more risky than driving a car?

 

[synobal]

All I got to say is beware the drama.

 

[Evidencebased]

Personally, I probably wouldn't be able to pull off having sex with a friend and then not being awkward with them later or initially being serious. I equate sex with romance and feelings and stuff, so I probably couldn't get away with it. It wouldn't feel right to me.

But, I don't see anyone who CAN do it as anything bad, they just look at it differently than I do. No big deal. I'd also be fine with dating someone with that view, so long as they didn't mess around with anyone.

This is basically my answer. I'm fairly introverted and not particularly touchy-feely, so for me casual sex would probably be awkward and uncomfortable or I'd end up way overthinking it. I'm much more the type who would want to at least know the person very well beforehand, and have a chance at a long term relationship. (I've tried casual sex once or twice after a few drinks and it wasn't horrible but it wasn't the kind of thing I would do sober -- a pretty good indication that something is not your personal style, yeah? ;p)

But for people who can have casual sex, I say more power to them (male or female!) It's fun, stress-relieving, good exercise... if you're playing safe (condoms!) and no one is getting their feelings hurt there is zero downside. And I wouldn't have a problem dating someone who liked casual sex either, as long as we agreed what kind of relationship we would have -- would he/she sleep around while we were together, is he/she currently looking for something long term like me, etc etc.

 

[penguindude42]

Prudishness is a sign of a weak mind. I say bad sex, coupled with redundant conservative "moral" values, is ultimately responsible for a massive amount of the evil in the world. So clearly I am pro casual sex. Moreover, I am anti-marriage. It's an obsolete sacrament now, we should move on, rather than attempt to hold the people you apparently love hostage via a legal document. If you choose to be monogamous, that's your choice, you don't need a state sanctioned contract to do so. To me, that's the least romantic thing in the world.

This. Just...this

Here's 10 cookies and an internet, knock yourself out.

Not literally, of course. -_-'

~TOM<3

 

[cdstephens]

I'll just leave this here.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4I42-ucH1SE

 

[KingsGambit_v1legacy]

I've actually wondered about this sorta thing. Does "society" put too much importance/pressure/guilt on sex?

I mean there's so much thrown at people...no sex before marriage, birth control, the pill specifically, STDs, pregnancy, value of virginity, it has to be right, "the one", "first time to be special", better with someone you love, 1000 ways to be a better lover, one night stand, etc.

Is it all just a load of bollox? Can't two people simply have fun and sate need and lust without guilt? The STD thing I'll except because that's just common sense.

 

[Nimcha]

I think it'd be great, even though I've never managed to do it without someone getting emotionally involved. Sex is great, and we all have needs to fulfil. Why not?

See, that's where it starts, right there by saying "Why not?". Eventually you'll start justifying EVERY act of depravity or excess with "Why not?".

People, that's what we are. We are human beings, not animals, we shouldn't be giving in to our base desires so easily.

Why not?

Allow me to specify why yes: Because it feels good! And by the way, we are animals. We have base desires and there's nothing wrong with giving in to them. As long as they don't go against any actual societal laws, of course. But that's intrisic to society, and not even exclusively human society.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

I'm very tired right now, so I laughed my ass off at this. What the fuck is that from?

Scott Pilgrim. That's one of the few funny parts in the comics that they didn't have in the film. I wouldn't really recommend reading them. The film was really good though if you haven't seen it.

OT: I've been operating pretty much exclusively in casual sex and friends with benefits relationships for like, 5 years. I definitely prefer it over committed relationships. Shit stops being fun when you have to get intimate and I'm not looking for a soul mate. That's just me though. Generally when I say shit like this some love expert feels obligated to chew me out and tell me about how much I don't understand the matter, and if you're reading this right now I'd like to tell you preemptively to shove it.

 

[Blow_Pop]

Sleeping around is considered by some, and partially me, to be a sign of moral weakness.

Isn't that just a little critical?

Humans can barely afford to be moral creatures nowadays; we need to bend with the wind to keep ahead of all the shit that we put in our own way in life.

OT; Well...sure. If you want sex and your partner and you consent, go nuts.

Me personally, relationships are pretty damn far from my mind, but...*shrug*

but but but kitty....i thought we had something between us.......why else would you read to me in bed? you and your sexy sexy accent. Fuck!

 

[Phantomess]

What do you people think of casual sex or being friends with benefits? What do you think of women/men who sleep around a bit? Would you consider going steady with someone like that? Any experiences on the matter?

I myself am female and quite open for sex with friends (supposing that all parties are single etc). Consequently, I've had some sweet sexy times with a few of my friends. I have enjoyed these encounters a great deal. However, I know this is met with some scorn and would like to hear what others think of the subject.

Done the FWB thing and yeah, it worked out pretty well. Very well, in fact. I didn't get into a relationship with him, but it was definitely worth it. It took away any regrets that I had with him.

So yeah, I'm all for it. I think it's a great idea and it is a great way to test how mature the two of you can be about it.

 

[pirateninj4]

Wrap their shit up...don't have kids, because if you do...

 

[foolish snails]

Personally, I have nothing against casual sex, as long as that is what it is and that is what it stays.
If it's not perfectly clear to both parties what is happening, it can be awkward and painful (no pun intended)
Of course, the question of STD's does arise, but I don't know how to answer that one.

 

[Zac Kookoo-kachu]

nobodies ever rubbed me the wrong way......pun intendeed XD lol
but no i have no issue personally. i mean sex is sex, its not a relationship

 

[kidd25]

sex is something that isn't really frowned on in today society except by those in religion. you most likely get two answer, its alright its normal or save it for marriage. some are bit more extreme some a bit more subtle mostly this is what it comes down too. I yeah think its wrong, but its not like i am going to be mad at you or anything.

 

[DarkRyter]

It's ... difficult to pull off.

There's nothing objectively wrong with it. People have sex with strangers all the time? Why not do it with someone you actually know?

It's just that there's the feeling that sex goes hand in hand with romance, because that's where most sex happens.

 

[CorinthianRed]

I hold no contempt for this.
And yeah, going steady with a girl like that feels weird...but sexually neither of us are exclusive...

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

It's all I want now-a-days. Almost 21 and every relationship I got into has sucked and the woman would always bash around the bash and avoid sex. Everytime I told them, "If your not prepared for it, dont date me". Some of you might think its selfish, well whatever. I'm a 21(almost) year old Aussie male who's never been sexually satisfied. I'm over women who cant put out.

EDIT: Obviously that doesn't mean I'm not going to go sleeping around with anything with a pair of tits.