Casual sex
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Only way to stop STD's is, indeed, Not fucking around... and no sharing needles, but as this isn't a drug use topic no point in opening THAT can of worms up.
Now, I myself am no virgin, but I'm well aware I roll dice every time I get it stuck in, no matter who it is. 'Safe' sex isn't, but so long as you know the risks, why should I give a damn?
I just dislike the view that people think condom+contraceptive=no more problems ever, as it is incorrect.
Now, I myself am no virgin, but I'm well aware I roll dice every time I get it stuck in, no matter who it is. 'Safe' sex isn't, but so long as you know the risks, why should I give a damn?
I just dislike the view that people think condom+contraceptive=no more problems ever, as it is incorrect.
I think it's wrong, and a self-destructive, self-deluding mistake. I think casual sex is an oxymoron.RaisonD said:
Mostly, I feel bad for them. They've been duped and lied to by a world and a culture that cares not one whit for their well-being, happiness, or anything about them really. (Besides their consumer habits, perhaps.) They're only doing what is the most natural thing for mankind: seeking happiness and the good. Since sex is probably one of the most awesome, transcendent good you can get in this world, and since no one tells them differently, sure it makes perfect sense to get as much as you reasonably can. They're wrong, and they're likely to end up worse for the wear, but that's not different from many other mistakes we can make, with a few rather obvious exceptions.
Well, assuming that you mean hypothetically if I were single...that depends. If going steady means she's not having casual sex still with other people, then possibly. Of course, the reverse, would someone want to get into a monogamous relationship with me when we would not be having sex, and that has been the norm for her, might pose some problems.
Overall, probably not.
On not being interested in a relationship involving casual sex? Sure. It's broken my interest in several women, and the reverse has happened once as well. On having casual sex? No.
And then of course, releasing the vultures. I know my views are not popular, but I have never courted popularity.
If you want to do it, go ahead. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise unless you're a danger to others.RaisonD said:
I wouldn't do it unless I broke up with my girlfriend first(which I don't want to), but even then it would feel rather empty. ]For me, it also wouldn't just feel empty afterwards, but I would feel really emotional for the person. If I was to sleep with them, I would obviously have feelings for them in the first place. I've become too much of a Romantic for casual sex to appeal to me. However, I would probably still high-five a friend who just slept with his/her fuck buddy.
I'm very tired right now, so I laughed my ass off at this. What the fuck is that from?neonsword13-ops said:
Sex in a casual context takes something that could be special and meaningful, as well as pleasurable, and takes away all value but the pleasure. I say sex is immeasurably better if it's only used in the context that makes it so; casual sex simply devalues the entire thing.
I've got no problem with it. There shouldn't be a problem with some people wanting to have a one night stand thing or just add sexual intimacy to their friendship without romance factoring in. I'm sure it can get messy if some of the people involved don't understand the reality of the situation (they think it means more than it does). Not to say that casual sex is the only kind of sex though. I'm sure that having sex with a dedicated partner can be alot better than a one time thing with a random guy/girl or friend. But hey, so long as everybody's okay with it, I don't really have a problem.
For me it's pretty simple.
I disprove of sex that's either unsafe or while drunk with strangers. Unsafe sex is never fine. Drunk and with strangers also isn't fine in my opinion, too much risk for crap going down later.
Sex with strangers while sober or sex while drunk with friends is okay, just not my thing at all. I won't do it but I honestly don't care if anyone I knows does.
Sober sex with friends I might do, but it would depend on the friend. I'd be afraid of too much emotional attachment and one party wanting more where the other does not.
Sex in a romantic relationship is freaking awesome. Really not much more to be said.
I disprove of sex that's either unsafe or while drunk with strangers. Unsafe sex is never fine. Drunk and with strangers also isn't fine in my opinion, too much risk for crap going down later.
Sex with strangers while sober or sex while drunk with friends is okay, just not my thing at all. I won't do it but I honestly don't care if anyone I knows does.
Sober sex with friends I might do, but it would depend on the friend. I'd be afraid of too much emotional attachment and one party wanting more where the other does not.
Sex in a romantic relationship is freaking awesome. Really not much more to be said.
well, guys who do it are cool, but when a girl does it she is obviously a slut. I'm surprised that you would even have to ask.
I look down on it, and people who practice it. I find it extremely objectionable.
And no, I would never date a girl that was okay with casual sex.
The majority of people I have met who are "inclusive" are just uninhibited hedonists who scrape the floor for instant gratification like an oblivious animal. See? Both sides can play the dehumanizing game.
Of course people would seem "high-and-mighty" about something that some consider to be a moral issue. That's the nature of the conversation.
And no, I would never date a girl that was okay with casual sex.
Good to know you're open to discussion. Promiscuity reveals more of a person's personality than just "what they like." It could either show that they are weak-willed, that they don't take anything seriously, or they're irresponsible.binnsyboy said:
The majority of people I have met who are "inclusive" are just uninhibited hedonists who scrape the floor for instant gratification like an oblivious animal. See? Both sides can play the dehumanizing game.
Of course people would seem "high-and-mighty" about something that some consider to be a moral issue. That's the nature of the conversation.
frankly , i spent a year sleeping around, and looking back im so angry at myself, i dont really care how people feel about it(everyones entitled to their own thoughts) but somthing about sleeping around pisses me off
In quite a few cases, I don't really like it. It's not the casual sex itself that bothers me, it's how people go about doing it. So many people out there go about it in the most reckless and disrespectful way, and from looking at what some people have posted, people looking down on casual sex is usually based on association. People who have lots of casual sex don't tend to be the kind of people you want to be around.
But there exceptions to that rule. Casual sex can be approach with ethics, honesty, responsibility and respect. I think society has repressed more open attitudes towards sex, and as a result, often can't approach it maturely, which is a shame.
But there exceptions to that rule. Casual sex can be approach with ethics, honesty, responsibility and respect. I think society has repressed more open attitudes towards sex, and as a result, often can't approach it maturely, which is a shame.
It's just hard to have sex with someone you know well without getting attached or emotional. This is because you actually know them, and sex is a personal action. I'm pretty sure this is an evolutionary feature since it would be pretty damn hard to raise children when the parents are busy getting naughty with other people, which back then would cause even *more* babies to be born, which would cause more trouble, etc.
Then of course there's the moral argument, but since everyone knows it I won't get into that, and morality can be relative anyways.
This reminds me of that one Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Elaine try to have casual sex.
Then of course there's the moral argument, but since everyone knows it I won't get into that, and morality can be relative anyways.
This reminds me of that one Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Elaine try to have casual sex.
What problems could arise if you are using a condom and contraceptive? The probability of pregnancy and/or infection seem really low in that situation.Ironsouled said:
See, that's where it starts, right there by saying "Why not?". Eventually you'll start justifying EVERY act of depravity or excess with "Why not?".GeorgW said:
People, that's what we are. We are human beings, not animals, we shouldn't be giving in to our base desires so easily.
Would I do it? The only girl I have had sex with is the girl that I lost my V-card to, so I don't know. Technically, we are broken up and are eachother's booty call, but it still feels strange to have sex without a relationship. My views on sex are skewed due to my lack of sexual partners, so I don't know what I will think once I start sleeping with others. Maybe it will become common sleep with someone and still be friends; maybe I will date before even considering it.
Is it morally wrong? Not at all.
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Why not?
Is it morally wrong? Not at all.
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We shouldn't give into our desires?Syzygy23 said:
Why not?
They SEEM really low. But the risks are never, EVER zero. No form of birth control or protection is 100% effective, even when using more than one at the same time. Plenty of women get pregnant and plenty of diseases get spread every day even when both of them do everything "right."zelda2fanboy said:
