Wow, this thread is really bringing out some fascinating beliefs here. I don't know if it's a bit creepy taking pride in such a thing but, eh.RAKtheUndead said:
Cheating in relationships: your views?
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I always thought a relationship should be committed, as you should have thought of the problems and consequences of starting one beforehand.
If the unexpected happens and you find you don't love the person you have a romantic relationship with, you should just call it off instead of fucking someone behind your loved one's back. It kinda ruins credibility if you get caught, you see.
If the unexpected happens and you find you don't love the person you have a romantic relationship with, you should just call it off instead of fucking someone behind your loved one's back. It kinda ruins credibility if you get caught, you see.
I thought that only happens when you get divorced? I'm only 13, but I could've sworn married couples get tax benefits, at least in the US.RAKtheUndead said:
As far as monogamous relationships go, I don't see myself enjoying being cheated on, nor would I go about cheating.
Though if polygamy were socially accepted, I wouldn't mind having two girlfriends (three or more would be overkill, I imagine). Conversely, it would bother me if one or both of said girlfriends had multiple partners. But that could potentially cause some kind of tension and/or disagreement, and I'm not one for confrontation...
I think I'll just stick to one girl.
Though if polygamy were socially accepted, I wouldn't mind having two girlfriends (three or more would be overkill, I imagine). Conversely, it would bother me if one or both of said girlfriends had multiple partners. But that could potentially cause some kind of tension and/or disagreement, and I'm not one for confrontation...
I think I'll just stick to one girl.
It's wrong, very wrong to me. If it was to happen to me then I'd walk right away. I know that my brother has done a few things and, well I have no problem labelling him as a bad person. He's been bother the boyfriend who cheated and the erm.. the one being cheated with I guess? Don't know how to phrase that.
Agreed, definitely.Mr. Strange said:
I've cheated, and been cheated on. I have no defense for the former other than 'we were getting divorced', and I still haven't forgiven the ass who did the latter.
Coming into the relationship I'm currently in, my boyfriend and I discussed things. Both of us have been cheated on, and we made it quite clear to each other that any act of cheating is a deal-breaker. Our expectations for each other are very simple: I'm yours, you're mine. You cheat, I will destroy you and the skank/asshole you cheated on me with.
Territorial, yes? But it does the job, and frankly I'm happy he's possessive of me.
From a purely scientific standpoint males are going to want to have sex with as many girls as possible, to increase their chances of reproducing. That's just the way it is.
In my own personal opinion it is fundamentally wrong. Agreeing to enter into a relationship is agreeing to give yourself over the other person, breaking that by cheating is the worst thing you could do.
In my own personal opinion it is fundamentally wrong. Agreeing to enter into a relationship is agreeing to give yourself over the other person, breaking that by cheating is the worst thing you could do.
Ima gonna go with 'Each to his own' here. As long as you're not actively lying/concealing it from your significant other, surely it's their decision whether it's a problem for them?
I wouldn't ever cheat, and my other knows that I'd expect the same (and feels the same).
I wouldn't ever cheat, and my other knows that I'd expect the same (and feels the same).
I've cheated once before, and whilst I don't think it was particularly honest or nice of me, I don't regret it anymore. I felt the relationship was going nowhere, my partner would spend a tiny portion of their time actually talking to me (it was long distance, talk was all we had) and when I tried to voice my dissatisfaction they blanked me entirely - when my year long crush walked into my life, I went for the chance and told them the first chance I got.
A year later, I became openly polyamorous with my new partners blessing. In december it'll be our 4 year anniversary. As far as cheating goes, well, I've been quite open with every partner I've had that I don't mind if they form relationships with others as well as me. I'm not the jealous type, and I trust them to keep the number of attachments they form to a number they're comfortable with. That all said, I think that to lie and betray someones trust is a pretty big deal, and relationships do come with assumed monoamory. I don't like cheating - but I'm fine with people being open.
A year later, I became openly polyamorous with my new partners blessing. In december it'll be our 4 year anniversary. As far as cheating goes, well, I've been quite open with every partner I've had that I don't mind if they form relationships with others as well as me. I'm not the jealous type, and I trust them to keep the number of attachments they form to a number they're comfortable with. That all said, I think that to lie and betray someones trust is a pretty big deal, and relationships do come with assumed monoamory. I don't like cheating - but I'm fine with people being open.
Why bother with a commitment to someone else if you can't actually commit? If you feel cheating is right, stay single and save yourself the drama.
Also, if you make a commitment to someone and break that, you've essentially made giving your word on anything null and void, thereby making yourself a piece of shit.
But then, thats my view and I know some people think honor and integrity are overrated.
Also, if you make a commitment to someone and break that, you've essentially made giving your word on anything null and void, thereby making yourself a piece of shit.
But then, thats my view and I know some people think honor and integrity are overrated.
Couldn't have said it better myself.clipse15 said:
On the other hand I am single at the moment and generally I base these things around who I am with, what she is comfortable with. Open relationships are nice, closed ones are nice too, I am happy with either and I wouldn't do anything she didn't want.
Of course that isn't really classed as cheating. Cheating is breaking trust, and if a partner does trust me to be with only her, if I broke that promise it would be very wrong and I'd never do that because I respect my girlfriends.
To be honest, monogamy isn't something that has to be important for anyone who is open-minded enough to realize it is an archaic concept
Cheating is bad, no point in being in a relationship if your going to cheat, thats why you make the relationship, so that you can bond with that significant person, so why cheat?
And I thought they were only cheats on Video Games, but I digress as this is a real issue among couples nowadays.
OT: Cheating is bad and well, a huge blow to both sides, the one cheating loses the trust of the partner and the other has to deal with the impact of the choices their partner has made. And this usually ends in separation, ie. Break up or Divorce.
This can be avoided if one ie. Friend, would take the time to talk that particular person and discuss whats wrong in the marriage or relationship, because all you might find out from the other person might be that they need to lay it off their chest and sometimes that friend might have a solution that might help them stay together.
Either that or just pay a counselor to figure things out.
OT: Cheating is bad and well, a huge blow to both sides, the one cheating loses the trust of the partner and the other has to deal with the impact of the choices their partner has made. And this usually ends in separation, ie. Break up or Divorce.
This can be avoided if one ie. Friend, would take the time to talk that particular person and discuss whats wrong in the marriage or relationship, because all you might find out from the other person might be that they need to lay it off their chest and sometimes that friend might have a solution that might help them stay together.
Either that or just pay a counselor to figure things out.
Too me anyone who cheats is a complete asshole.
Also, having sex with someone else while in an open realtionship does not count as cheating.
Also, having sex with someone else while in an open realtionship does not count as cheating.
Can get a separation in that case, if they cheat on you after that, you can get a divorce. Otherwise separation might give the guy time to think on how he acts. But thats just the bibles rules, and in that case the guy should know better anyways.ProfessorLayton said:
I've written and re-written a reply to this thread multiple times but I find it impossible to explain what a relationship truly is suffice to say it's about trust, when you cheat on someone you betray that trust they put in you and in my opinion is a terrible, unforgivable act.
I don't know if it's the same for others but when I get into a relationship I give that person my heart and my trust to keep it safe, if they betray that trust by sleeping with someone else or juggling me with someone else they shatter that trust and it can be so hard for you to build yourself up enough to either trust that person again or trust another person.
I've been cheated on before, both of them wanted me but also wanted more than just me, it shatters your confidence and leaves you unable to trust another that much again for a very long time. I'd never cheat on another person, I know how painful it is.
I don't know if it's the same for others but when I get into a relationship I give that person my heart and my trust to keep it safe, if they betray that trust by sleeping with someone else or juggling me with someone else they shatter that trust and it can be so hard for you to build yourself up enough to either trust that person again or trust another person.
I've been cheated on before, both of them wanted me but also wanted more than just me, it shatters your confidence and leaves you unable to trust another that much again for a very long time. I'd never cheat on another person, I know how painful it is.
I've never been in a relationship, but I find that I'm a very open person. As long as they told me and it wasn't done in a spiteful way I imagine I'd be fine with it. For me, if I ever get into a relationship it will be about the emotional aspect, after all, anyone can fuck someone, but not everyone can form a deep emotional attachment with that person, so the thing that separates satisfying biological urges and an actual relationship is the psychological side (in case you haven't guessed, despite being a virgin, I don't place much value in sex).