Cheating in relationships.

[Blue Musician]

Not sure, I never had any relationship with anyone, so I cannot really tell.
I would be probably very pissed, not because she would be bisexual, but because she wasn't really loyal to me.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Inexcusable no matter what the circumstances. Same sex, different sex, it doesn't matter, it's inexcusable regardless.

 

[daftalchemist]

Heh, I've noticed from people talking about this at work that a girl would be very upset about their boyfriend cheating with a guy, but a guy would not really be upset with their girlfriend cheating with a girl. It figures too.

I'd be upset if my boyfriend cheated on me in general, no matter what sex the person he cheated with was. It's all the worst because it's all a complete violation of trust.

 

[Akalistos]

Hello there, and welcome to another late night / early morning thread.

Background story;

So, i was with this girl for a few months when, she tells me she cheated on me. At first i was really pissed off, but she told me it was with a girl and she was just "experimenting". After hearing that I calmed down and figured I didn't really mind.

My question; Do you think cheating with the same sex is better / worse then with the opposite sex?

Thanks.

EDIT; This happened when i was 16 and I'm not with said girl anymore. =[

No, i don't mind cheating with another girl. Hell, i would propose to bring her home and see where it goes.

 

[likalaruku]

I'm bisexual & don't belive that monogamy is natural for our spedies, so if my guy or girl was cheating on me with another person of any gender, I'd say "whatever, bring them over for dinner some time."

Actually, the thought of having a boyfriend cheating on me with another guy is a turn-on. Someone get me the maple syrup, candcuffs, & a whip. Now if my girlfrind was cheating on me with another girl, my first though would be "I hope she's a redhead."

 

[InnerRebellion]

Hot....
Sorry. Girl on girl is awesome to me, cuz there no lesbians/bi girls here in my town...
But cheating is cheating.

 

[InfernoJesus]

If your girlfriend is interested in girls, I would take advantage of that. Try and get a three-some going if you're up for it.

 

[CCountZero]

As has been said before, cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend is, unless the relationship is what you may call "open", a morally despicable act and a severe breach of trust, that could very well end said relationship right then and there.

That said though, I think a lot of guys would be very much inclined to disregard any such act if the cheating was girl/girl.

The same is not true if it was girl/boy or boy/boy.


Lets not kid ourselves, a lot of guys have fantasies about their girlfriends in a Tricycle* with them, or in a girl/girl scenario. Even if we weren't there when the cheat happened, the fact that it did happen leaves the opportunity open for us to observe, or jump on the bike with them, at a later event.

It should be noted, however, that no guy would ever want a Devil's Threeway** with their girlfriends.
Best friend at Vegas, no eye contact... if he paid for / reeled in the girl... but that's as far as it goes, if at all.


If she cheated with a guy, however, it would be a completely different story. "Don't I satisfy her?", "Was he better than me?", so on so forth... Guys just can't have that. Our egos can't handle it.



From the girl's perspective, a boyfriend cheating is never gonna fly. Ever. It's a surefire relationship-stopper.




*Girl/Boy/Girl
**Boy/Girl/Boy

 

[Freshman]

Well, I certainly would feel less angry to find out it was with another girl (mainly because of the first place my terribly guttered mind took that). not sure how a girl would feel about a guy... but lesbians have always been more socially acceptable than gays. bottom line, if it was a serious relationship more about talking and stuff than sex, i would proly be royally pissed, but otherwise I would be like, "its ok baby"

 

[Lionsfan]

It's still cheating. It doesn't matter if it was just experimenting, that's just a weak excuse. Otherwise guys would be using it all the time. "Baby I love you! I was just experimenting to be 100% sure you were the one, so I slept with all those girls to make sure I only wanted you!"

 

[Hardcore31]

Cheating is the worse thing you can do in a relationship with another person (that or murder). And what your girlfriend did was cheating.BUT if she is telling the truth and it was just an experiment for her, i wouldnt mind her. You know why? cuz that means, she would have done it no matter who she is with. Chances are she might have been wanting to do that long before she met you, and therefore is not a personal thing like "i dont love as much as you love me" or "you cant satisfy me" or "i cant do this or that with you, cuz you dont want to or dont let me" etc. Its like a wife who finds her husband looking at porn, she may feel weird, but they can resume their relationship afterwards.

 

[Serioli]

I believe all cheating is wrong but my logical mind sees cheating with the same sex as 'less wrong'.
To clarify, if my wife goes with a woman she is justifiably getting something I cannot provide as I am not a woman. However, if she cheats with a guy it is saying 'this is a guy like you but better/preferable'.
That is my logical mind though, having not experienced it I don't know what would happen once my emotions kicked in...

 

[Biosophilogical]

Worse; that means she very well may be gay, thus ruining the idea of a long-term relationship. Cheating period is wrong, for whatever reason.

Though consentual polygamy can be quite functional. Sort of like the relationship equivalent of communism (in both the literal way and the idea that it really only works in small scale communities/groups).

OT: I've never been in a relationship but I'd imagine I'm not the jealous type, so it'd be more "I'm hurt you didn't trust me enough, but apart from that as long as you trust me enough to tell me I'm okay with you having sex with other people", unless of course it was one of those "Our entire relationship is all about me getting sex and you just aren't enough for me" in which case I'd be more upset that the relationship had been so deceptively shallow. Though I probably should restate tha lack of past relationships and therefore my inability to say these things on any proven basis.

 

[RagnorakTres]

Nope.

Of course, I don't think it's possible to cheat period. As long as I am aware of who my partner is sleeping with, I don't care. I just have to know.

I'm weird, I know. I've read far, far too much Heinlein.

 

[delet]

Worse; that means she very well may be gay, thus ruining the idea of a long-term relationship. Cheating period is wrong, for whatever reason.

Though consentual polygamy can be quite functional. Sort of like the relationship equivalent of communism (in both the literal way and the idea that it really only works in small scale communities/groups).

Well yes, but if it's consensual polygamy then it isn't quite cheating, is it?

 

[HeySeansOnline]

She none the less broke the trust of your relationship. Whether it's with a girl or a man. As other said she came out to you about it, so it's up to you to forgive her.

 

[Biosophilogical]

Worse; that means she very well may be gay, thus ruining the idea of a long-term relationship. Cheating period is wrong, for whatever reason.

Though consentual polygamy can be quite functional. Sort of like the relationship equivalent of communism (in both the literal way and the idea that it really only works in small scale communities/groups).

Well yes, but if it's consensual polygamy then it isn't quite cheating, is it?

I'm aware, it is why I didn't say 'if they are okay with it, cheating is fine' and instead chose to avoid the 'c' word altogether. Though it is my fault, I understood what I meant in my own head and didn't properly express it.

 

[saxist01]

It's not cheating, and she should invited you along. She should of at least video taped it.

 

[koops]

Wow, you guys... just wow. If my girlfriend told me she "experimented" with anoter girl, I would give her a high five and ask for a threesome because that's just hot.

 

[wolf92]

Cheating is cheating, no matter what gender you cheat with