Coloured men don't cheat - *UPDATED* 29/10/11

[Blow_Pop]

I have a blog I can direct you to...in fact I think this was covered in one of the topics...lemme get it.....I can't think of the exact date of the post but I know it was covered...... but here's the blog link written from a black(oh I'm sorry "coloured") man. http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/blog its more geared towards women but i'll be damned if other men can't learn a thing or two from it

Basically though, all men cheat regardless of colour. I dated a guy who's family was from......oh shit i don't remember I know it was either the Saudi Arabia area or like the very North Eastern tip of Africa(Egypt, Libya etc) and he cheated on me with multiple women, I get propositioned by men of all colours with girlfriends or wives no matter what I wear and they're up front about the fact that they are in a relationship and looking to cheat. Now, I just don't date so I don't get cheated on

 

[BlueMage]

What bullshit. Males are programmed to copulate with as many receptive females as they can (and the non-receptive ones too, but the law gets appropriately heavy-handed when that happens) and while that programming can most certainly be broken and rewritten, it's not a guaranteed thing.

Actually, consider the tendency towards cheating is a direct result of levels of testosterone - y'know, the manly hormone. Factoring societal pressure in, and that black men typically have higher levels of testosterone compared to white men, but all that means is that compared to a white guy, a black guy is more likely to try to cheat.

 

[Amplify]

One thing I would like to note though guys, is that black guys are the secondary choice for her, it's all about the (uhhhh, what's the "politically correct" term for guys from countries where the primary language is Arabic and so forth? Quick before somebody else shouts at me :< ) guys for her.

...Wow. "Coloured?" Really? You couldn't think of anything better to name this topic?

It's a direct quote of her words, not mine. Hence the title.

We got that, I think so many people only called you up on it because you then used it a couple of more times at the end of your post in your own words. I guess you were trying to use it ironically but it just wasn't clear enough is all.

Yeah, I was kind of absent the day they announced it was no longer acceptable which I guess only shows how long it was since I last prodded the political correctness quagmire with the pointy end of a ten foot pole.

 

[chadachada123]

Truthfully, I have never seen a black person in an actual relationship with a girl for a period longer than mere weeks, though I have little experience to go off of.

My high school was in a town that is 99% white, and my own home town is some 99.5% white. There was, during all 4 years of high school and EVERY SINGLE year of elementary and middle school, with 1500 kids in my high school, not a single Muslim kid, nor a single (practicing) Indian or fundamentalist Jew. None. Well over half were Catholic-raised and almost all of the rest non-denominational Christian.

In any event, it'd be idiotic to think that people of other races cheat less by virtue of being a different race. In fact, I would imagine that infidelity is rather uncorrelated with the main factors that correlate with race (the top being social status). Poor or rich, doesn't matter, they're all filled with cheating pricks and whores.

 

[Amplify]

@OP
I think your efforts are commendable.

I am sorry that your sister has such an odd prejudice. (Prejudice in general is bad, but some are harder to disprove.)

I have a suggestion: Ask her why.
Ask her thoroughly and Socratically; poke her beliefs; demand answers, if not now then at some point just think about it.

Investigating peoples beliefs with the Socratic method can solve a lot of problems, and it does not hurt to have statistics ready to disprove their claims.

If you want to bring out the heavy guns, go read up on rationalistic thinking and avoiding mental pitfalls.

Probably the best post in the thread so far and more or less exactly what I intend to do as soon as I get the next chance to ask her about it.

I'm of the mind to let her live with this delusion. There's no harm in only dating those kinds of guys. And really, if/when the day comes where they DO cheat on her, well, she'll learn herself (the best way of learning) that she was wrong. No amount of stepping in to do right by her will help- star wars would give you a dark side point for all your good intentions.

Another good point and I'd probably be inclined to do just that if not for a rather complicated backstory that I wouldn't be doing justice at all to try and explain fully here. I touched upon it in my last long post but the short version is that her daughters / my two nieces were basically stuck in Algeria until fairly recently as the law there grants that control only to the father. My family in general is trying as best they can to avoid them getting into arranged marriages and effectively never seeing them again.

My mother has made the argument that if she (my sister) were to get married to an Englishman or similar and she took custody of the girls with her then they would be able to stay in England and live their lives freely as they wanted to, however my sister has never really been one to take common sense or anything similar into a debate. As the only one of the family she listens to at all I'm fairly uniquely placed and have the chance to possibly sway her into getting them to stay in the UK on a permanent basis so they're free to choose their own lives.

That's the jist of it and as much as I'd be willing to say on the matter, it's a complex situation at best. The problem with letting her learn things the hard way is that it may well be too late by then, prevention is quite often better than cure.

 

[Gatx]

It's an incredibly dumb view to have, even disregarding race issue. Caucasians are just one ethnicity in the entire world, and what is called "colored" is basically everyone who isn't white, and contrary to popular belief in the US and I guess in other Anglo-countries white isn't the default, nor the majority. So really, saying that colored men don't cheat is an incredibly bold statement to make, talk about putting all your eggs in one basket . . .

 

[Queen Michael]

Oh look, it's time to sing the Tiger Woods song!

 

[Ledan]

~SNIPPPET~

Okay.I'm white but I've spent most of my life living in Africa. I can tell you, from personal experience, that people of any color cheat.

1. Man died in Zambia, who was working for the Swedish Embassy, several women came to his funeral. Didn't know each other. Were all married to him.

2. In Kenya, it is common for people to have a "spare wheel". A extra partner, but they don't let their spares meet their partners. Both partners in a relationship know that the other has a spare wheel. Those spare wheels could have other spare wheels.....

3. Not uncommon of men in Zambia to have mistresses.

Seriously, this is why AIDS spreads so fast.

 

[goldendriger]

So a black guy will think
"Hmm yeah, i dont cheat" but a white guy will go
"Fuck this, im getting more women"?

Yeah, thats kinda racist of her =P

 

[Nieroshai]

Your sis has never hung out with inner-city black kids. That is not being racist, that's just my observation from living in a lower-class area of Phoenix. And my Puerto Rican roommate cheats all the time. If it weren't for mandatory room assignments at my university, I'd ask for a transfer to another room.

 

[Ziggy the wolf]

ok...allow me to say this as a black man but BWAHAHAHAHANHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA *takes in a sharp breath* HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA oh man no...anything with a cock can cheat as can anything with a vagina and as a black man i hear plenty of black guys cheat honestly. hell just watch day time television

 

[game-lover]

BAHAHAHAHAHA!!

My step father is a black man who has cheated on my mother through a quarter of their relationship and had the bloody gall to say he loved her and another woman and wanted to be with them both.

Colored men can cheat. Everyone can cheat.

I hope she's not so unfortunate to have the rug pulled out from under her in the form of having one of the men she dates cheat on her.

 

[Amplify]

Update 29/10/11:
I managed to ask my sister about it this morning to clarify some of the vaguer points based upon feedback from the thread and to show her what information [http://anepigone.blogspot.com/2010/03/infidelity-rates-by-ethnicity.html] I [http://anepigone.blogspot.com/2009/05/black-asian-men-most-least-likely-to_08.html] have [http://www.alternet.org/sex/81022/?page=entire] so [http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1077/is_n1_v54/ai_21270363/?tag=content;col1] far [http://www.divorce360.com/divorce-articles/news/trends/african-americans-and-marriage.aspx?artid=1176], here's what I've found out from her;

Q: What do you mean by 'half-caste' men exactly?
A: Muslims and Arabic men specifically, I don't mean black men.

Q: When you say that most white men cheat, is this based upon some previous dating experience from when you were younger that I don't know about?
A: No, it's in comparison to Muslims and you see it all the time on TV about how X cheated on Y, but you never hear about any Muslim men cheating on their wife.

Q: Tiger Woods.
A: He's just one man, there are always one or two.

I have to admit I've not heard of Muslims cheating so I couldn't just refute her there, also the [/url=http://anepigone.blogspot.com/2010/03/infidelity-rates-by-ethnicity.html]best[/url] list of statistics that has been suggested so far didn't include any devout Muslim countries on the list. This may be because those countries tend to be insular or because Muslims wouldn't want to admit to it or perhaps they truly don't cheat, I don't know.

Is she right on that at all? I'm unsure. None of the statistics suggested so far mention those countries.

(Also, if there's a term that people would prefer I use than "Muslim" please tell me.)

 

[Zenichi]

if you read my earlier post you would have noticed that muslims aren't monogamous anyways so they don't consider it cheating if a man has say 4 wives (most muslim countries agreed as 4 being the limit of wives...)

 

[klaynexas3]

here's what you do. get a friend of yours that is colored. get him to date her. you know the rest. or get her to watch jerry springer or maury or one of those bullshit shows. if she's dumb enough to believe what you said she does she should be dumb enough to actually believe those shows are real.