Girl I've had feelings for for years has just started going out with one of my best friends. So I guess I can relate.runningtable said:
Could use some encouraging words
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Considering you said "my entire life" and assuming you weren't greatly exaggerating, you're even a)reaaaallllllly creepy/un-confident or b)still in middle/high school. I'm going to assume the latter. In that case, don't worry about it, like, at all. You're still just a kid and you have a lot of years of love and heartbreak that will show you how wholly insignificant this situation is. Just do something to take your mind off the pain for awhile, which should really only last 2-3 weeks. I prescribe some Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann to make it feel all better. It's still streaming on Hulu.
I told the only guy i've ever truly loved so far how I felt recently and he didn't return my feelings & now we're in the friend zone, I felt better by: first of all cry all you like, it doesn't mean you're weak or anything like that so just cry until you don't want to anymore, secondly talk to friends about it, someone supportive who would believe you and who wouldn't judge or make fun of you, thirdly I wrote this really crazy angry poem about it, it sounds silly but it did make me feel better although it's probably not what most people want to do, I hope I helped even if just a little bit.
Well, there are, as others have pointed out, plenty of others out there.
Once you've sampled a few of them, that girl you've been in love with all your life won't seem so damn special.
Even if you're really picky (say, you only like one in 100 girls) and most girls don't like you (say, only one in 100) that still means one in every 10,000 is right for you. With roughly 3 billion on the planet, your odds no longer look so bad.
So go out and start meeting new girls! if you screw up, work out why and pick yourself up to start over.
If you lack the confidence or opportunity to do this right now, there's always porno, lifting weights and writing shitty poetry.
Once you've sampled a few of them, that girl you've been in love with all your life won't seem so damn special.
Even if you're really picky (say, you only like one in 100 girls) and most girls don't like you (say, only one in 100) that still means one in every 10,000 is right for you. With roughly 3 billion on the planet, your odds no longer look so bad.
So go out and start meeting new girls! if you screw up, work out why and pick yourself up to start over.
If you lack the confidence or opportunity to do this right now, there's always porno, lifting weights and writing shitty poetry.
It will probably happen several times in your life, making this one instance seem somewhat "common". So don't worry too much.
Tell me, did you get caught in the "friendzone"?
Tell me, did you get caught in the "friendzone"?
Well I'd say it depends. It's not really healthy to go directly to another relationship from another without some "alonetime" in between.Assassin Xaero said:
After all, how do you know that you are even capable of being on your own if you go from one love interest to the next all the time? (not saying that you are, but some people do and it is true that these people have some serious issues in their confidence department because they just can't handle being on their own)
well don't worry you'll find the someone out there love is all about digging down and getting your hands dirty you meet heartbreak till you find the special someone
That makes sense, but from what the OP said it sounded more like he had a crush then found out she didn't like him in that way... Which is what I've been going through for the past two years... nothing I try is helping me get over her...Housebroken Lunatic said:
I'll also get behind this.Jedoro said:
The universe has a funny logic when it comes to finding compatible romantic interests. It's when you're NOT looking for anyone that you'll stumble across someone. But when you are searching, you never find anyone.
It's bizzaro world in the real world. :S
I had a similar situation happen to me not terribly long ago. I gave up on relationships for a while and was generally pretty down on myself. Then I met my current gf, who's so much better than the other girl that it's not even funny. I'm much happier now, and while I'm still friends with the other girl, my feelings towards her are just like I would feel towards any of my other female friends.
You'll find someone who you care for. Just try to be open minded about it. I met my gf when I had decided to put a hold on the whole relationship thing for a while. She changed my mind about it. Still with her almost 9 months in and still happy. Just try to keep a positive attitude. Things will work out for you.
You'll find someone who you care for. Just try to be open minded about it. I met my gf when I had decided to put a hold on the whole relationship thing for a while. She changed my mind about it. Still with her almost 9 months in and still happy. Just try to keep a positive attitude. Things will work out for you.
I just found out the girl I care about more than anyone in the world is a transsexual (i've known her for two years) and I just spent this morning stopping her from killing herself.runningtable said:
You want to complain about your "woe is me" crap?
Try listening to your friend go numb and become incoherent as you frantically try to get medical details out of her.
Argggh!
I still don't know if she's alive...
-Tabs
-Trust me friendo, because I know how you feel. Nothing's going to ever feel the same, everything is ruined, life isn't fair. But believe me, there's going to be other women. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but there are. If you know where to look and how to behave, you'll never be without company. Just give it some time, sit back and swear off the dames for awhile until someone new sweeps you off your feet.runningtable said:
Get back up on your feet, champ
I have a few words of advice: don't have nobody to turn to other than a bunch of anonymous forum lurkers on an e-zine to comfort yourself in tough times. You'll get a lot of people projecting their own world views on you but little actual emotional comfort.