Could You Date A Transexual?

[Tanis]

Could You Date A Transexual?
Not cross dressing, because that's fun no matter who you are, but an physically/medically changed person.

But rather a full 'the person went under the knife and had a bridge built or a hole dug' (I'm sure there's a better way at putting it, but I'm not that smart) type of person?
-This question brought to you by me reading the current "Questionable Content" story arc.-

I, personally, am not sure.
While I have transsexual friends, one of whom I'm a godparent to her kid, I'm just not sure if I could do so.

It's one of those weird middle grounds for me where I support the community, but am unsure if I'd be comfortable joining said community in any way outside of friendship or a march.

 

[wintercoat]

I am about 80% sure that I would be okay with dating a MtoF trans. I mean, as long as I find them attractive, both mentally and physically, the fuck do I care what they were born as? Be a bit weird at first if our relationship is physical, me not being much of a fan of penis and all, and post-op vag is a bit...off...but hey, what's a relationship without obstacles to overcome? If I care enough about them, I'll get over myself eventually. And if I really care about them, then I doubt it will be a problem in the first place.

 

[Queen Michael]

As long as she looks female, then sure. Also, I was in love with a FtM transsexual for a while.

 

[WolfThomas]

I couldn't...because I have a partner already. Can't really imagine a life without her.

 

[OniaPL]

I wouldn't. If I knew someone was a transsexual, I can't imagine being in a relationship with that person.

 

[lechat]

pretty sure no. i'm about as straight as you can get and even if i could be initially fooled into being in a relationship i just don't think i could do it.

weird kinda double standard i have is that even though i support peoples decisions to be what they want i just can't bring myself to be attracted to anyone who is not happy how they are born, on a basic level that means breast enlargement and plastic surgery but i'm pretty sure transexuality follows the same rules

 

[Spinozaad]

Nope. I couldn't.

 

[bananafishtoday]

Yeah. Wouldn't make a difference to me if I'm attracted to the person.

'the person went under the knife and had a bridge built or a hole dug' (I'm sure there's a better way at putting it, but I'm not that smart)

Generally, "transsexual" is the term for people who wish to take all steps necessary to be accepted by society as their chosen gender, while "transgender" is an umbrella term encompassing anyone who feels their gender identity/expression conflicts with what they were assigned at birth (eg transsexualism, crossdressing, drag, genderqueer, genderfuck, etc.) Pre- and post-op can refer to whether someone's gone through sex reassignment surgery, but some see the designation as problematic (placing undue emphasis on one medical procedure over a host of other changes, also possibly implying that SRS is a necessary and sufficient condition to be "complete.")

But yeah, terminology can vary a lot based on the individual (what some find to be appropriate, others may find inappropriate or even offensive) so it's a thorny issue.

 

[BathorysGraveland]

Well, this is a little weird for me. Thanks in no small part to certain porn I've seen over the years, I've developed a mild attraction to pre-op male to female transsexuals. That is, men who have undergone all the stuff save for the change in genitals. Basically, "chicks with dicks" as they're sometimes called. (Forgive me, I'm terrible at explaining shit).

But that, for me, seems to be soley sexual. So as to whether I would date one? I don't think so. Can't say for sure though.

 

[SlaveNumber23]

Nope, body modification is a pretty big turn off for me and someone who has had a sex change is a pretty extreme example of that.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Nope, a sex change would be an absolute deal breaker for me.

 

[Zhukov]

Nope.

Because, well... basically because I have a philosophical objection to sticking bits of my anatomy in dudes, regardless of how many medical operations they've undergone.

 

[Lilani]

Add in pol pls
Also I couldn't as I don't date chicks with a

Spoiler

mental illness :3

Anyway, I guess if there's really that connection there I don't see why not. I've asked myself this question sometimes, just because if nothing else I'd love to see my family's reaction. I think my parents could deal with it once they got to know them, and I doubt the rest of the family on my dad's side would say anything to my face, but just seeing them sort it out in their heads and figure out how to react would be a fascinating experience. I think my grandparents on my dad's side would behave well enough on the outside, but until they got used to it be very concerned on the inside.

I think the most dissent would come from my mom's side of the family. They are mostly Baptists, specifically the kind who a while back were all up in arms about keeping kids from reading Harry Potter or the Golden Compass because they didn't want the plagues of witchcraft or atheism to spread to their children. I'm not sure if they'd actively try to confront us directly or keep us away, but I don't doubt there would be a thick cloud of awkwardness hanging about us.

 

[Silly Hats]

Maybe if I really liked them as a person I could change my mind. Though I couldn't ever date a genetic female that I couldn't personally relate to.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Eh, don't see why not.

...

I could imagine a man who would only date a transwoman if he knew that, if she had a penis, it was smaller than his, though.

 

[Rascarin]

My fiance is trans identified. I don't get why people find stuff like this such a big deal.

 

[Casual Shinji]

No way in hell.

I'm sorry for everyone who feels trapped in the wong gender's physique, but to me if you're a guy then you're a guy. And I'm attracted to girls.

And there's more to it. I find people who have undergone heavy duty plastic surgery horribly unappealing. I wouldn't want to date a man who (surgically) became a woman anymore than I would want to date a woman who (surgically) became a man.

 

[s0p0g]

i don't know

perhaps if i knew it AFTER i got to know the person better/good enough to want to be together with her; if i knew about it beforehand i can very well become friends with her, but more than that... no, i guess i am just to conservative/obstinate/whatever regarding that

yes, i am a terrible person, i know.