Dating Tips

[Hey Joe]

Being gamers, we are of course adept at pushing the buttons of the opposite sex. We're not anti-social lonely weirdo nerds, no, we just have higher standards than everybody else! Let's face it, with our superior intellect and wit, we can drive any member of the opposite sex wild with desire for you and an insatiable craving to play D&D until 3AM in the morning.

So, what better place to pool all the dating advice tips our collective romantic wisdom brings than right here in this very thread?

So, do you have any smooth moves your years of dating success have brought? Do you have a pick-up line that is so perfect it arouses you just by speaking it aloud? Do you have a favourite musk or article of clothing that gets your desired target hot under the collar (I have a jacket)?

DISCUSS

 

[Mariena]

"Hey. You, me, sex?"

I haven't actually *tried* this, but I reckon I would not get much objection from the male-type-persons. With my supermodel looks and all that *cough* *hack* *wheeze*.

Nor have I attempted this at the females of the species, though I wonder how that would turn out. I'd either get a slap in my face along with "I don't roll that way, pervert!" or get asked "When?".

This is just theory, though.

Edit: You guys think I'm stereotyping you too much?

 

[L.B. Jeffries]

Always remember, they are more scared of you than you are of them. Act like you know what you're doing, think of a few things to talk about that might pertain to her, and let her win at Wii Sports when she comes up to your place.

 

[rossatdi]

Always remember, they are more scared of you than you are of them.

Dude, that's spiders.

Confidence and honesty. Paradoxically you can fake the confidence as long as you do it honestly. Everyone's nervous at dating (unless you're an arrogant c*nt) so make yourself be brave then apologise for it, works wonders.

 

[latenightapplepie]

Always remember, they are more scared of you than you are of them. Act like you know what you're doing.

Hilarious.

Strange, I never know what I'm doing and yet I seem to get a respectable amount of attention. Not to mention, I'm certain that I'm more scared of them. A couple of friends won't let down the time I shrieked in terror "AH VAGINAS!". They may have only been the vaginas of my mind's eye, but they were terrifying nonetheless.

I was of course a little bit drunk.

 

[xitel]

Just don't be afraid to talk about something. In my experience, the best way to break the ice is to find something about them, like something they're wearing, a button, etc... and just start talking about it. I started an hour long conversation with a girl one time because her bag had a d20 on it. Not a dating relationship, but we're still friends now.

 

[DuncanRR]

And once the ice is broken, be chivalrous. Offer her a ride, open the doors for her, pay for the first date. Treat her like a person, but don't shower on the affection too much too quickly.

And above all else, don't force a woman to do anything she doesn't want to do. If that includes getting involved in a romantic relationship with you, stay "just friends" and wait for someone else.

 

[Hithel]

Despite my own (self-alleged) proficency on the subject I would never advice anyone to take dating tips from this kind of forum. So I will just lay down the entire game as bare as possible from my point of view for you to make what you will out of it.

Self-confidence is 90% of being succesful with women if you are male. Not obnoxious, pretentious, boisterous or plain hip-hop style trashtalking. But a belief in yourself that comes from within that is communicated just as much from undertones and body-lanuage as it is directly. Getting that level of self-confidence is not easy however, there's alot of good mental training out there for it (and 10x the amount of complete s**t on the subject). So until you get there of your own accord I would tell anyone to fake it until they make it.

 

[dalek sec]

When all else fails... use cheat codes. Honestly, I got nothing.

 

[jdnoth]

Girls love constructive criticism.
Start off the conversation with how they could improve their clothing, hair, physique and general attitude. They will have sex with you.

 

[lumenadducere]

Girls love constructive criticism.
Start off the conversation with how they could improve their clothing, hair, physique and general attitude. They will have sex with you.

Isn't that from a poster or book or something?

 

[Stasisesque]

Be cocky, arrogant, egotistical and dear god, do not walk: Swagger.

Girls will start out hating you, but eventually they will want to fix you - to find the cute, cuddly kitten underneath that gruff exterior. As soon as you hear the line, "You're just a frightened little boy underneath all that, aren't you?" you've scored.

 

[The_Deleted]

"Hey baby, what got two thumbs an enormous...wallet and speaks french?"


"Moi"

That or the Hot Coffee cheat

 

[ace_of_something]

Show them your gun.

(not a euphemism)

 

[Andraste]

Practice. Talk to everyone, even if you aren't interested. That way, when there is someone you're interested in, you aren't trying to make small talk for the first time on top of being nervous because of attraction.

 

[jdnoth]

Girls love constructive criticism.
Start off the conversation with how they could improve their clothing, hair, physique and general attitude. They will have sex with you.

Isn't that from a poster or book or something?

Don't remember. Might have been from XKCD

 

[Erana]

According to one of the guys at work, i actually did one of the smoothest moves he's heard of in ages. Which to be honest, i think is lies.

Was buying a few T-Shirts, and speaking to the girl serving. Got on well, but she was saying how cold it was in her shop amongst a few other things. Seeing i'm normally rubbish, at this point i left. Wandered about for half an hour or so, grabbed a few more bits and pieces.

Anyway, i decided i could do with a drink, then remembered the girl in the shop. Grabbed a second hot drink (hot chocolate is the safe bet, incidentally). Popped back in the shop, went over and said 'Hey, i thought you could do with a hot drink, it being so cold'. The usual, aw, that's so sweet thanks. Then asked her if she'd like to go for one next week, and asked for her number.

Said, yep.

Went nowhere eventually... but still.

See? Chicks do dig sensitive men. I'd at least keep a good relationship with someone who did that for me. (I don't do dating. =P)
Us women don't want to hear about how you like our breasts. Its only minorly flattering, and mostly creepy. What we like to see is the chivalrus knight, who falls for our grace and inner, true beauty and with the grace of a jaguar, could sweep us off our feet.

At least, most chicks with any self-respect want that. Just think, graceful.

Be cocky, arrogant, egotistical and dear god, do not walk: Swagger.

Girls will start out hating you, but eventually they will want to fix you - to find the cute, cuddly kitten underneath that gruff exterior. As soon as you hear the line, "You're just a frightened little boy underneath all that, aren't you?" you've scored.

Frankly, I find that repulsive. To attempt to take advantage of that sort of weakness not only is a lowly way to exploit a sensitive, caring girl, it also kills the chance at a working relationship. That, or the offending man will eventually turn her agianst her own friends and family.
I've seen it happen all too many times, and there's no way for me to stop it.

 

[PedroSteckecilo]

The best dating tip I have for men is...

Get in good with a group of geeky women, eventually one of them will fall for you, just remember that once you find out which one that is you make sure to reciprocate.

EDIT: Oh yeah, being a nice guy will really help with that.

 

[TheBluesader]

Begin by comparing them to the game / anime character they most look like. Then list how they could change themselves to look even more like them.

Relate everything they talk about to something you've experienced in a video or tabletop game, or something you've read in a comic book. It will make you seem worldly wise.

Show them where you buy games and comic books as soon as possible, and be sure to show them where the stuff you really want is located, and how much it is. That way any surprise gifts won't be stuff you don't need.

Spend at least one date making them watch you play a game for a few hours. It will make them appreciate your interests and talents.

Write them love notes in Star Trek languages, and when they point out that they can't read them, but them the language dictionary. Then quiz them on their progress weekly. It will bring you closer together.

Make them post to the Escapist forums, then go in under a user name they don't recognize and harass them for being a n00b. This will slowly encourage them to familiarize them with our world, with none of the relationship turmoil.

Advice shared. You're welcome, Internet.

 

[Gxas]

If you do end up with a girl, don't be the "perfect boyfriend" the first couple of months. Let the girl know you have flaws. That happened with my ex, she thought I was this perfect guy and it turns out that I am flawed beyond belief... and she didn't like that apparently...

Best pick-up line? Has to be: "Wow, that shirt is very becoming on you... of course, if I were on you I'd be coming too."