Nathaniel Grey said:
3. I could care less about the slurs. I call people fag and gay all the time. What bothered me was that my friend had no defensive mechanism on how to handle this type of situation so I decided to handle it for him.
*5. What the heck would be wrong with laying a middle schooler out?
First up, how much less could you care? 99%, 1%, 0.000001^2%? 2% less than the amount you currently care but not enough for you to not care?
(Escapist I don't like your percentage sign. It's on the piss!)
Well, do you not see calling things "faggy" and "gay" as being massively hypocritical? Standing up for your friend is fine, who judging from the way you told it, was clearly bullied on a daily basis. Or he could actually be gay, which was the vibe I got from his response, but that's incidental, because I've obviously never met him and I wasn't there. Now, I know you intended to say you didn't care, but I don't think that's entirely sure, I have my own anger issues, but I don't think you would've gotten as worked up as you did. These insults are very personal and specific, they're very different from just calling someone a dick or whatever. Also...you're in college. I never used those insults when I was 14 to begin with, people certainly stopped using them by the time they were grown ass men.
Now, I am a subscriber of the notion of "if you're old enough to give shit, you're old enough to take it." and yeah, in the real world, being abusive can and will get your head kicked in. However! I don't think laying a 14 year old out when you're an adult is a very good idea either; the law tends to get involved. A cuff round the ear would be fine if you want to resort to violence, as it teaches him not to talk crap, but it doesn't come off as assault. Also, you're a grown man, would you really feel good about knocking a 14 year old out? Really? The fact is, you didn't, which is good, it's perhaps best to start with words, then move on to a cuff. I think he got the point without you needing to throttle him. The sheer fact that you're an adult making the point who isnt his parents is enough to give him some fear anyway.
I'd be pissed off in the same situation, but I still wouldn't actually /assault/ a 14 year old kid. In a situation like that, there are ways to assert your point rather than knocking him out. I mean...this seriously reads like you're bragging about how you could've beaten the snot out of him like it would be some kind of achievement. Fear may well stop him from doing it, but it doesn't actually change him like cutting him down for all to see would.
But then again, being in college, you should be able to outsmart, and cut down a 14 year old with superior wit without needing to resort to violence in the first place. You don't even need to be witty, just get really detailed about how you're both gay and what you get up to.
EDIT: paragraph before last.
Baffle said:
Blood Brain Barrier said:
I'd probably stop saying "yo" so much.
Oh god, now I'm reading all the OP's posts in Aaron Paul's dialect.
That...does make this quite awkward thread more entertaining. YO SCIENCE, *****!