Robert Ewing said:
I associate anime with actually very emotionally in depth stories.
Sure the stories can some times be no good, but that's the case with ALL stories, but at least anime always manages to get you emotionally involved.
In fact, there is a popular trend among anime watchers, called the 'great depression.' It is a syndrome an anime watcher gets when the series of anime they've been watching ends, and they are left with a crushing depression.
But I like anime, alot. So I don't really mind.
The emotional depth of anime (and JRPGS) is definitely what I find appealing about it. A lot of Western games feel sort of dull and superficial in comparison. But, a lot totally don't as well...
I seem to be a bit weird in that I don't actively pursue a particular medium for my consumption of fiction. I'll read graphic novels, manga, books, watch anime, western animation, any movies, and play any genre of video game. I just think, if it's good, it's good, and I'll enjoy it.
In the case of games, I've enjoyed many Japanese games, and have found others to be total crap. I'd definitely say the same about Western games. I've watched some anime I've loved, and watched some that I've hated. I have to say, I find the fanboys and anti-fanboys pretty annoying in this respect. All because something is ______, doesn't mean it's all awesome/shit.
So, I do think I get what the OP is saying. Writing something off completely without giving it a chance is pretty stupid. And, I'm quite confident that a lot of Western gamers do precisely that. "These guys look like chicks, fuck this!".
I'll admit the aesthetic can sometimes be a bit much... but so are the bull-sized lumps of twitchy testosterone in Gears of War. All because there are a few extreme examples, doesn't mean ALL Japanese games have casts of whiny girly men, and ALL Western games have casts of the aforementioned testosterone lumps.
Even if you've given it a chance and legitimately can't take it, though... why not just leave it at that? I know many do, but many also just complain about it whenever possible, expecting the entire Japanese entertainment industry to cater to their preferences. I mean, I hate country music, but I don't ask that it cease to exist and everyone who enjoys it just change their minds or something...
The impression I got from the OP, is that he really wants two things:
1) If you haven't already, approach it with an open mind.
2) If you find you still don't like it, just live and let live.