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tomtom94 said:
PaulH said:
tomtom94 said:
Genetically speaking, yes, as big guys represent a greater chance of survival for their babies.

Don't know if with the greater emphasis placed on materialism in today's society that's still true though.
lol wut(?)

There's a direct correlation between largeness and survival? You do recognise why there is a reason why there is polymorphism represented by the vast array of human phenotypes right? Not everyone is massively built and 6' for a reason. Diet and long term Darwinism as per adaptation to local environment.

Can you honestly say that height would help you whilst spelunking in caves seeking refuge from storms, or when tracking prey through dense forest?
Ah, that would lead to a gradual evolutionary split in the species, as observed with Galapagos turtles, among others.

Generally though, size = strength, strength = more likely to survive. That was just my thought.
Well your thought is wrong. a 'Big guy' who has to cover lots of ground in a hot environment is going to be less successful than a skinny guy in the same environment.

A big guys reduced surface area to volume ratio means compared to a tall skinny guy means that the big guy will not only retain heat longer, but also store it faster. Meaning increased lethargy, higher perspiration and more time sitting down and having a breather to offset the reduced enzyme action of haemoglobin which is affected by the heightened increase of temperature in the body of which takes more time to 'cool' than the tall skinny guy.

That being said a tall skinny guy will not beable to retain the heat necessary to survive in extremely cold climates as well as a big short guy.

Early humanity occupied more diverse habitats than any other species and as such we have developed unique phenotypal differences rather than fostering evolved homogeneity of appearance and physique.

'Strength' shouldn't be measured by the physical attribute of being 'strong' ... if you measure strength by it's modern precept then it's almost a pointless exercise to compare it to survival. After all ... all the muscles in the world will not be as effective as speed, guile and agility in putting food on the fire for the tribe.

A tribal female is more likely going to be attracted to a smart, successful hunter rather than a guy with lots of useless muscle.
 

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Being 6'3", with a shoulder width almost equal a door is what initially attracted my girlfriend. So height/size can be a factor.

In terms of weight, I know a fair few porky fellas who certainly pull good looking women. Guessing it ties into the 'security' thing.

Ultimately though it's just about confidence. And being twice the size of everyone else in the room can kinda help with the confidence, heh.
 

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Must...resist...urge...to make...dick joke.
I know it's so HARD!

Urm...I do not know, but you've reminded me of what a friend quoted from a guy i've never met but is presumably "big"(no not penis-wise) and she said he said that big guys have to act nice to attract a partner because they can't rely on their looks.
 

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For women it tends to be more down to jsut personal preference. There are extremes of either wich are not attractive but in my friendship group at least the girls tend to prefer guys who have nice arms and chest and a six-pack is always a plus, they also tend to like taller guys at least just for the comfort of that protected feeling when a bigger (either taller, or muscular or both) guy gives them a hug.

I apparently give good hugs for just this reason, free hug anyone?!

Nah, but seriously it all comes down to personal preference in the end.
 

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If you're talking about height then I think that shorter guys lose out. We lose out in a lot of areas, statistically we're paid less for a start..I blame my parents, the bastards.
 

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dathwampeer said:
PaulH said:
tomtom94 said:
PaulH said:
tomtom94 said:
Genetically speaking, yes, as big guys represent a greater chance of survival for their babies.

Don't know if with the greater emphasis placed on materialism in today's society that's still true though.
lol wut(?)

There's a direct correlation between largeness and survival? You do recognise why there is a reason why there is polymorphism represented by the vast array of human phenotypes right? Not everyone is massively built and 6' for a reason. Diet and long term Darwinism as per adaptation to local environment.

Can you honestly say that height would help you whilst spelunking in caves seeking refuge from storms, or when tracking prey through dense forest?
Ah, that would lead to a gradual evolutionary split in the species, as observed with Galapagos turtles, among others.

Generally though, size = strength, strength = more likely to survive. That was just my thought.
Well your thought is wrong. a 'Big guy' who has to cover lots of ground in a hot environment is going to be less successful than a skinny guy in the same environment.

A big guys reduced surface area to volume ratio means compared to a tall skinny guy means that the big guy will not only retain heat longer, but also store it faster. Meaning increased lethargy, higher perspiration and more time sitting down and having a breather to offset the reduced enzyme action of haemoglobin which is affected by the heightened increase of temperature in the body of which takes more time to 'cool' than the tall skinny guy.

That being said a tall skinny guy will not beable to retain the heat necessary to survive in extremely cold climates as well as a big short guy.

Early humanity occupied more diverse habitats than any other species and as such we have developed unique phenotypal differences rather than fostering evolved homogeneity of appearance and physique.
You've got to remember attraction is cultural. And that most certainly humans have not always been monogamous. you're talking about is certain tribe like qualities. Say like Kenya. Where a lean physique would have been prized. Because as you described the heat and their method of hunting would have required it. Making them more appealing to a woman wanting security.

Whereas let's say in Europe. For presumably, the last thousands years. A large physique (not ridiculously so) would indicate prowess on the battle field. i.e. strength, toughness. Which is also something that was important to that culture.

What we perceive as attraction follows some very common traits throughout all of humanity. But the vast differences some of us prize, can be traced back to culture or heritage.
more importantly, in a cold environment where food is scarce, the ability to build large body mass can be indicative of good genes in that environment. That same kenyan put into Norway would be a sad sad creature.

what we see as beautiful is almost entirely cultural. If a civilization prizes wealth over everything else, their idea of beauty could be quite grotesque compared to those who value hard work and self-sufficiency (although the hard worker would look quite grotesque to the other culture as well).. Think of practices like footbinding.. To men in that culture, the idea that that woman is completely incapable of doing ANYTHING for herself, and is basically helpless to her personal assistants (and the fact that she HAS personal assistants) is very very sexy. A guy on the frontier would look at that same practice and just think "wow, that woman wouldn't be able to help me at all" ergo, ugly, disgusting.

We psyche ourselves up about beauty, but it truly is in the eye of the beholder, and every beholder even within the same culture, is different. Noone is really so universally ugly that they could NEVER find anyone to love them.
 

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As a big strong man myself, I can safely say...

It's still personal preference. Sure, women are generally less shallow and can still like guys with extra padding (so to speak), but from what I've seen it's rare that ladies actively pursue fat guys. They're out there though; every fetish imaginable surely is.

Also:

Baldry said:
SimuLord said:
Must...resist...urge...to make...dick joke.
I know it's so HARD!
http://picdump.darph.net/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/sisko-facepalm.jpg
 

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dathwampeer said:
PaulH said:
tomtom94 said:
PaulH said:
tomtom94 said:
Genetically speaking, yes, as big guys represent a greater chance of survival for their babies.

Don't know if with the greater emphasis placed on materialism in today's society that's still true though.
lol wut(?)

There's a direct correlation between largeness and survival? You do recognise why there is a reason why there is polymorphism represented by the vast array of human phenotypes right? Not everyone is massively built and 6' for a reason. Diet and long term Darwinism as per adaptation to local environment.

Can you honestly say that height would help you whilst spelunking in caves seeking refuge from storms, or when tracking prey through dense forest?
Ah, that would lead to a gradual evolutionary split in the species, as observed with Galapagos turtles, among others.

Generally though, size = strength, strength = more likely to survive. That was just my thought.
Well your thought is wrong. a 'Big guy' who has to cover lots of ground in a hot environment is going to be less successful than a skinny guy in the same environment.

A big guys reduced surface area to volume ratio means compared to a tall skinny guy means that the big guy will not only retain heat longer, but also store it faster. Meaning increased lethargy, higher perspiration and more time sitting down and having a breather to offset the reduced enzyme action of haemoglobin which is affected by the heightened increase of temperature in the body of which takes more time to 'cool' than the tall skinny guy.

That being said a tall skinny guy will not beable to retain the heat necessary to survive in extremely cold climates as well as a big short guy.

Early humanity occupied more diverse habitats than any other species and as such we have developed unique phenotypal differences rather than fostering evolved homogeneity of appearance and physique.
You've got to remember attraction is cultural. And that most certainly humans have not always been monogamous. you're talking about is certain tribe like qualities. Say like Kenya. Where a lean physique would have been prized. Because as you described the heat and their method of hunting would have required it. Making them more appealing to a woman wanting security.

Whereas let's say in Europe. For presumably, the last thousands years. A large physique (not ridiculously so) would indicate prowess on the battle field. i.e. strength, toughness. Which is also something that was important to that culture.

What we perceive as attraction follows some very common traits throughout all of humanity. But the vast differences some of us prize, can be traced back to culture or heritage.
Well actually, to be truthful, a large physique meant you 'ate quite well' ... as per the saying 'To grow fat and complacent' of which is inextricably tied to the concept of gaining large amounts of capital ... because your girth was an advertisement of your prosperity (and your lack of days without food as well as the reduced need to display agency to produce coin) in many parts of Western Europe.

Culturally speaking a lean figure in medieval Europe meant a lowly station.

Whilst obesity has been mostly stigmatized throughout history, obesity in the medieval world meant something different than it does today. Obesity was a sign of prosperity ... or at the very least old money.

Part of the reason why you have the depiction in Western Europe of jolly fat people in the old tales even up till Early Modern Era. Jolly because they could be slothful. Fat ... well.... because they were rich and never had to do anything.

As cultural attitudes changed from feudal to early nationalism, as well as the rise of the industrialists and the perception of the non-noble elite (such as the Esquires in Britain), the display of agency was seen as the means to success .. so the image of obesity changed, whilst the figure of a lean(ish) industrialist/Explorer who displayed hardship, dedication and intrepidation became a slowly evolving romantic figure of what it meant to be all you can be for the masses.

Well that's part of the reason anyways <.<

Whilst I agree that attraction may play a part in the matter, I think it is only in the very modern world whereby your assertions are correct.

Fat or thin, tall or short. From Tribal society to Early nationalist metropolitan population clusters. Women and men want someone of benefit to themselves in a social setting.

Only in the very modern era, plagued by decadence, has attraction to abstract qualities such as lots of muscle mass been relevant as a means to determine a mate and partner.

A tribal female would prefer a fast, smart and stealthy hunter over a walking wall of muscle.

Similarly in an early nationalist economy a husband or wife would be looking at social connections that would benefit both families.

We still do it today ... but I think we've grown much more decadent and as such abstract qualities are now also taken into account wqhen picking a mate. But the qualities of which you refer to have only slowly emerged in the last 800 years, whereby higher Humanity has had about 100 k years of pre feudal society by which your qualities of finding a mate wouldn't apply.
 

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Da Chi said:
the lapalminator said:
Da Chi said:
Yes, but not all of them.

This question is pretty open ended though, what kind of "BIG" guy are you talking about?
overweight. not totally obese
Ah, then you're fine. Get a tan and go for asian girls. I don't know why why but I seem to see hot asians with big guys every time I go into a sushi bar.
I don't know why though. Find out how that works and get back to me.
Don't even really need the tan from my experiences. I've found they like guys that can make them laugh and be goofy with in private. Especially the nerdy ones. Nerdy Asian girls are the best.
 

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Yea I was actually going to add the obesity as a stature through medieval thing in but I decided it would be just bombarding.

When I say big I don't mean fat though. I mean large build muscular. Large skeleton. i.e. broad shoulders and the like. The traits associated with strength in the western world. That's ran as far more of a constant through our history than obesity has.

And the point about a tribal woman prizing leanness was also what I was getting at. It's entirely cultural. As someone else quoted me on. In places like Norway. A large build and even slightly chubby would have been prized because it is a quality someone in a much colder climate would want.

I think what has contributed to our, frankly bizarre idea of generic beauty has been a mix of multi culturalisation. With people from all backgrounds forming large communities near each other. And their idealisations of beauty being broadcast via media. Films, Music ect. It's created some sort of hybrid of many cultural preferences. Most of which these days can be attributed to wealth. Advertising is one of the best forms of brainwashing out there. Easily.

In the 20-21'st century. I'd say celebrities and stars can be blamed for influencing our current ideals. Much more than cultural background in some cases. Especially seeing as in the western world. Survival is practically a given. There's no need to fish for genetic traits that allude to it any-more.
Whilst you make a good point, I would counter saying that that leanness in, say, central Plains Africa would be prized not for cultural reasons .... but merely because it's simply better to be lean, agile and cunning.

Its basic survival ... the guy whose huge and bulging with muscle is much more likely to be detected, and strength is meaningless because it only takes 28 lbs of pressure per square inch to throw and penetrate a rather sharp spear half a foot into the side of a fleshy herbivore.

A lean, well toned hunter occupying half the space of a muscular behemoth like a modern bodybuilder will beable to get closer to his prey, therefore strike more accurately, therefore hunt more efficiently and successfully. In the end feeding his tribe better and therefore being seen as a favourable mate because he can provide.

It's simple pre-coin economics. The lean, agile guy is 'richer' than the bulging He-Man.

And I would still debate your qualities of muscular being seen as better in Europe. Afterall you have the rise of 'the Gentleman' (which is why I referencesd the esquires of Britain). If they were young they were characterized as lean.

During the early modern era you had a lot of nobles who wore archaic armour such as breastplates under (or over) their corselets.

For Example, King Carlos I of Espania (Charles the Fifth of Holy Roman Empire) at the birth of the Enlightenment (albeit of which had yet to truly progress past the bouyndaries of the northern citystates of what would eventually be known as Italy).

http://www.google.com.au/imgres?imgurl=http://www.s9.com/images/portraits/5506_Charles-V15000000-15580000.png&imgrefurl=http://www.s9.com/Biography/Charles-V15000000-15580000&h=459&w=354&sz=360&tbnid=sJvqFl77U4xW-M:&tbnh=128&tbnw=99&prev=/images%3Fq%3DPortrait%2Bof%2BCharles%2BV&zoom=1&q=Portrait+of+Charles+V&usg=__35zMLMIsMiy6X8OK-Ifg7P5jOzA=&sa=X&ei=uUaVTNCNC8ikcZbaraQF&ved=0CCoQ9QEwCA

As we can see his enflamed jaw (of which is exagerated as to give him even greater credibility as a inheriter-King of the Habsburg states)

He is possibility the finest examplar of power at the Birth of European dominance and colonialism.

But as we can see ... his armour archaic (as was a popular look in portraiture ... as many nobles associated themselves with the romance of the 'militarized noble' trying to recapture elements of chivalry and honour from tradition) ... but he isn't exactly a domineering figure. Despite sporting the red plume of war (gotta remember this was a particularly brutal period in European history that he lived within) his stature is refined and graceful.

http://www.wga.hu/art/t/tiziano/10/21/12charle.jpg

He's not exactly an imposing figure. To give you an idea of how eligible Charles V was ... he was the man who controlled the world's first true Superpower ... an Army in excess of 340'000 troops, at the time Europe's greatest naval force, and an empire that stretched across the world thanks to Spain's early conquests in the New World.

So I would debate your assertion that everybody in Europe tried to look tough. I don't think thats an attituide that has ever changed in some extent in the majority of males... I just don't see it as important as proving nobility. I mean Charles V could have ordered Titian to make him look better built and more fearsome, but the only thing he asked of titian was to exagerate his jaw and chin a little more in order to solidify his inherited claims in central Europe.
 

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I actually prefer it, to some degree. Rail thin men aren't for me. But they have to be tall enough to wear it well :p.
I concur. I prefer a guy with some padding. Muscles are great on a guy, but for snuggling...not so much.
 

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newfiegirl 110 said:
hurfdurp said:
I actually prefer it, to some degree. Rail thin men aren't for me. But they have to be tall enough to wear it well :p.
I concur. I prefer a guy with some padding. Muscles are great on a guy, but for snuggling...not so much.
:D I was waiting for that post.

My greatest advantage. I'm told I'm more comfortable to hug than all the teddy bears in the world combined, with a dash of fuzzy puppies.
 

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As long as they're not obese (for health reasons) I don't really care about size. As long as they're a good person.
 

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Da Chi said:
the lapalminator said:
Da Chi said:
Yes, but not all of them.

This question is pretty open ended though, what kind of "BIG" guy are you talking about?
overweight. not totally obese
Ah, then you're fine. Get a tan and go for asian girls. I don't know why why but I seem to see hot asians with big guys every time I go into a sushi bar.
I don't know why though. Find out how that works and get back to me.
O.O

*Calls tanning salon*

Breeeep... "Hello, this is..."

"APPOINTMENT! FUCKING NOW!"

OT: In my case, no. Women in Colorado seem to like scrawny, squeaky guys.
 

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the lapalminator said:
hello escapists, so just a simple question and you people seem to be the most reasonable ive encountered

awnser plz
Women certainly prefer taller men [http://bps-research-digest.blogspot.com/2005/08/when-women-prefer-taller-men.html].

I read something in the BPS digest that mentioned facial structure too, but it was too long ago to remember accurately.