Do You Hate People Who Disagrees With You?

[Innegativeion]

Become frustrated with them? At times.

Shake my head in bemusement? Occasionally.

Grow angry with their audacity? Depends on the argument.

But hate? No no no no no, never hate them. They're not trying to do me harm or to crush my worldview. They merely have a different perspective than me. By challenging my beliefs, they can only bring us further to the truth, provided there isn't some mass-manipulation going on (unlikely on a random web forum).

In fact, for this reason, I should be grateful to dissenters, no matter how much they aggravate me at times. Truth is a product grown in a crucible. You can't have it without disagreement and challenge.

To hate someone for having a different locus of perception than you is counter-intuitive.

I think the biggest problem you might have,
this the notion hatred is inherently a bad thing.

We go to movies to hate characters,
we watch tv for the same reason,
books, more of the same.

You shouldn't close yourself up to one opinion. What if you simply put like having a rival? I can hate and respect someone.
those are my favorite kind.

I think you're confusing hatred for competition.

The same confusion several corporate executives and outspoken consumers often have.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

It would really depend on what the disagreement was- if they were a massive racist or something then I suppose I might hate them for that, or at least dislike them a considerable amount more. Usually though... not really. If you hated everyone that you disagreed with then you'd have no friends, you have to learn to accept that people have a different worldview and that's that.

Besides, I struggle to give enough of a shit about things enough to hate people a lot of the time.

 

[DkLnBr]

Depends on what we're disagreeing about, but for the most part I'm fine with it. I think that everyone can believe what they want, kumbaya and all that shit. Actually seeing a different perspective on things has evolved my own opinions in the past, so I'd even encourage disagreement! It keeps me open-minded, well-balanced and grounded. I still find myself getting caught off guard though when someone says they don't agree with something that I considered "universally liked or accepted" but I don't hate them for it.
Pretty easy for me though, I'm a really easy going guy and generally act like a dog when it comes to people, I lick like everyone! Its hard to get under my skin.

 

[Grach]

I don't think hating someone for simply disagreeing with you is a healthy attitude to take when arguing for your opinion.

That said, if the aforementioned disagreement is REALLY stupid over something that should be a non-issue, I might find it in myself to dislike that person. Maybe hate is a bit too strong of a feeling.

This. Many people use the word "hate" way too liberally. At least to me, to hate someone goes beyond simply disliking. It goes beyond even the coldest indifference. To hate someone or something is to actually watch it either die slowly and horribly (say from cancer or ALS) or simply see wiped it from existence entirely.

Sure, for example, I dislked a lot of people that posted on the "Brothers/Papers, Please ZP" incident but I don't actully hate them. Sure they pissed me off, but I don't hate them for voicing their opinions.

So no. I don't hate them. Not really.

 

[Kittyhawk]

I get a lot of what you might call 'hate', when some disagree with me. However, I do my best to rise above it with a good sense of humour. Even if I disagree with a person here or elsewhere, I don't know anyone enough to love or hate them.

Hate is also perhaps too strong a word. It'd be a strange world if we all had the same point of view anyway.

 

[sumanoskae]

Well that sort of depends on the opinion, doesn't it. I mean, I see no reason to dislike somebody because they don't eat bacon, (Even though they are completely mad for not doing so) but I'd say that if somebody harbored the opinion that it was ethically acceptable to molest goats that would be a pretty good reason to dislike them.

 

[conmag9]

To be honest, it depends on their presentation. If they're polite, reasonable, and accepting of the idea that someone else has a differing opinion on something, I'll return the favor with glee. Heck, I disagree with lots of people I like on one thing or another, but as long as we keep it civil, it makes for interesting intellectual debate.

If the other individual is rude, dismissive and/or condescending, that tends to get under my skin. If your point is superior to my own, you shouldn't have to rely on such tactics.

 

[Da Orky Man]

The way I see it is that there is always a significant chance that I'm wrong about something. Yes, a few things cannot be wrong by their very nature, like 2+2=4 (Except in Oceania), but when it comes to whether cannabis legalisation is a good idea, or how piracy may or may not harm the industry, those are cases where the answer is not straightforward. There are some things I'm better versed in than others, but someone out there is going to be more well-equipped to handle them than I am.

 

[mitchell271]

Hating people because they have a different opinion is in itself a very dumb viewpoint. However, when that person has an opinion based entirely on ignorance (e.g. creationism, bigotry, sexism), it's appropriate.

 

[Pink Gregory]

It's not the opinion, usually, it's the manner in which they express it. Hammering home their opinion repeatedly rather than exploring their opinion and their reasons for having it - and thus facilitating discussion - refusing to consider that someone could feel any other way; and using that as boilerplate discussion technique, is likely to lead to some disdain.

 

[nvzboy]

To give a practical example of what I think of this: I was at an airsoft match last weekend and we sat at our table prepping our gear and next to us were two other groups of people. One of those groups had this guy and me and this person had a discussion on wether 9/11 was fake or not. I thought he was completely wrong for believing conspiracy theories but I certainly did not hate him for it, he was a rather nice person besides that. At the other end of the table was a group that had another person and I overheard him saying this: "Look at those two guys there (me and my brother) they got a fancy flight case to put their rifles in but they don't even have propper shoes, you really need boots. Anything else is a no-no." As I heard him finish his sentence I dropped in explaining that I had the case lying around before I got into the sport and it was by no means expensive or fancy and that while good footwear is a must, an old sneaker that you don't bother with is just as good. We ended up agreeing but I hated that person for stabbing me in the back and spouting his assumptions about me and my brother in front of his friends like that.

Bottom line: I don't hate people that have different opinions than me. I rather hate those who make arguments to hurt others or belittle them. I have friends that have completely different ideas than me and we get along just fine.

 

[DelphiSantano]

I don't hate people for disagreeing with me.
What I do hate is when I supply a legitimate argument against their position on the matter and they don't supply one back, instead just relying on "no, I won't listen to your rational argument. I'm right no matter what you say".
Although I generally find that if they are taking that stance then they are wrong and know it but are refusing to admit it.

 

[Souplex]

Since I'm always right, if someone disagrees with me they're wrong.
Basic logic.
I hate it when people insist on being wrong.

 

[Henkie36]

I think you shouldn't be if they argue within reason. If someone is like ''My argument is more valid because you suck'' then I get fed up with them pretty quickly.

 

[Multi-Hobbyist]

Kind of. They can disagree with me all they want, it's part of being human. I can always hope they'll see things from my point of view, because we all know the Self is always right. Anyway, I try my hardest not to hate, but in the end, I just don't care. One bit. I've always been blessed with apathy.

 

[AperioContra]

I guess it really depends on exactly what they are disagreeing with me on. I have a strong policy on my continued breathing and existance, and if you aggressively disagree with me that I should continue to live, than I might be mildly irritated with you.

Aside from fringe issues, like: racism (I'm Against It), whether or not it's right to rape or murder (I'm Against It), Whether or not this fate should happen to lawyers and politicians (I'm for it), than simply disagreeing with you, even the subject is heated, is not reason enough for me to hate you.

This kind blind viewpoint is inherently solipsistic and lacks humility. The fact is that we as humans are wrong 90% of the things that we believe, and being unable to accept that a person may have a different, or even more correct viewpoint than your own, or just so much to be able to tolerate the fact that they don't quite agree with you, than you have a big problem.

That of course only applies to everyone else, and everything I say you are morally and legally obligated to agree with me. If not you're just a bad person.

DFTBA.

 

[KissingSunlight]

I am getting disturbed by all the posts saying, "It's alright to hate another person when say they hate a group of people." It's really ironic when someone is prejudice against bigots. What worse is that attitude is what causing conversations about sexism and racism to break down into petty name-calling.

It's not prejudice. It isn't a preconceived notion without basis, because the basis is their bigotry.

You are judging people solely on the basis of their beliefs. How is that different from hating someone with a different religion? There is a difference from not liking someone's opinion and hating the person on the basis of their opinion.

 

[Jynthor]

Totally, I love beating my wife. She refused to wash the mustard stain out of my wifebeater and buy me new beers. What a ****!

 

[Fireaxe]

When their reasoning is completely idiotic or just plain arseholeish, yes. Otherwise, no.

 

[Soundwave]

Not if they earned their opinion with actual research and thought. People disagreeing with me about things they know nothing about beyond what they heard on the radio or whatever, yes.