Do you hold grudges?

[blankedboy]

Definitely depends on the situation.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

No.
It helps that I have difficulty giving a shit about anything.

 

[Blue Musician]

If so, for how long? How often? Why? If not, why?

I do. I'm friends with my ex, but I hate her enough that I burned everything I owned that was connected to her.

I am a very remorseful misanthrope, so basically every offense made to me I do not forget easily.

 

[Sharkosauros]

Till a few months ago not, really, all the person had to do was to say sorry and we woud be cool, but because of that, well things got of line, and now days, i hold grudges and i have wishfull thinking of they dieying in a horrible, horrible way :\

 

[Warped_Ghost]

I wish I could. Seriosly I can't, the best I can do is continue to mistrust someone who has wronged me.

 

[Extraintrovert]

I hold intense, persistent grudges, but only against myself. Does that qualify?

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Only against those who betray me. I don't forget what you did to me, you know that right?

Incidentally, I'm not unforgiving but trust is like a house of cards. It takes a long time to build it up to a size that matters but can be destroyed in a split second.

 

[GrimTuesday]

I don't hold grudges for the most part but every now and then someone really pisses me off and they are completely irredeemable in my eyes. Oddly enough most of the time it's not anything they did to me but to someone else. There was a guy at my school who thought he was hot shit and would cheat on his girlfriend. Now I didn't even know the girl but I just can't stand people like that. The only other guy who I have held a grudge against of a long period of time was a guy who was on both my football team and wrestling team and would constantly make fun of my... shall we say corpulent physique. I still hate him to this day despite the fact that my brother beat the shit out of him when he heard him making fun of me, and he got cancer. I don't think karma is done with him yet.

 

[Sinclair Solutions]

Only if the person has proven that they are unwilling to change, and continue doing the thing that angers/upsets me or people I care about. If they have legitimately changed, then I let it go. Otherwise, the grudge will remain until they deal with it.

This. I actually give many people chances to change before I start holding a grudge and start hating them. If they don't change after the, say, third time, then I'll probably hate him or her from that point on.

 

[The Arc of Eden]

Usually for the rest of the day. After i wake up i don't care anymore.

 

[Weaver]

I hold grudges for the rest of my life.

 

[Marter]

This. I actually give many people chances to change before I start holding a grudge and start hating them. If they don't change after the, say, third time, then I'll probably hate him or her from that point on.

It's funny. I actually give people far more chances than that.

As such, there is only one person I can say that I hate.

 

[2fish]

I will take my hatred to my grave.

Your hate will be your grave. Good to know I am not alone in that.

I can forgive, but without respect for the person what use is it? Respect must be earned with me. If you break my trust or my respect I will not trust you again until you have proven you are worthy of it. Oddly no one that has broken trust or respect with me has ever tried. They simpley moved far away and hid.

Yes I can hold a grudge although I usually don't I just enjoy playing with people.

 

[NathLines]

Only if the person has proven that they are unwilling to change, and continue doing the thing that angers/upsets me or people I care about. If they have legitimately changed, then I let it go. Otherwise, the grudge will remain until they deal with it.

If they change it might be enough to quell my anger. But if they change when they're grown up, I just can't forgive them. If some racist bastard from my time in school apologized to me now when we're adults, I'd probably try to tear his limbs off. Apologizing for something you did when you were younger when you're an adult is just unfair.

 

[Marter]

This might be enough to quell my anger. But if they change when they're grown up, I just can't forgive them. If some racist bastard from my time in school apologized to me now when we're adults, I'd probably try to tear his limbs off. Apologizing for something you did when you were younger when you're an adult is just unfair.

Apologizing is different from actually changing. If they just apologize, then that doesn't make me not hold a grudge. It's once I've observed that they have changed their ways that I begin to forgive.

 

[Daipire]

No, I get things solved.

Or forget about it after a day...

 

[Drexlor]

Rarely. I am willing to forgive though.

 

[Free Thinker]

My grudges are the only thing that remind me of why I dislike certain people, and they actually help me sleep at night.

 

[fenrizz]

Yes, I do hold grudges.
For a long, long time.

My viking ancestors practiced "Blood Vengeance", which could last for decades.

Why shouldn't I?

 

[Marter]

Your stepdad? :-(

That guess is completely correct.