'Normal' was the only word I could think of for a catchy title.
I will explain what I mean....
After having recently chat to friends (both hetero and homo sexuals) I descovered that when it came around to them discovering what gender they preferred, they kinda just 'knew'. It may have taken a little while to figure it out, but when it clicked for them, they were content in knowing they had made the right choice.
Now here's my question - was it easy for you to decide upon which gender you preferred, or did it take you a while to figure out? I want you to think about this hard, and not just give responses like 'I was born straight/gay/whatever so therefore I grew up and followed it' because sure, that may have been your case, but can you honestly say there has never been a time where you doubted your sexuality, or experimented?
My own personal case is that I like women, although this has varied dramatically - when I was at school, I liked school-aged girls (a similar age to me at the time), when I was at university I liked girls a few years older than me, and now that I am out of university and into a working world I like older women (about 10-15 years older). However I have doubted my sexuality at one time, for a while I wasn't attracting any female attention and strangely lots of male attention, and so I thought I might be gay. I never acted upon it, but I did discuss it with a few of my gay friends (gay and lesbian friends) and just decided that it was a weird coincidence, and they were right, my female attention quickly returned after that.
However on a weird side note, and this is where the heart of my 'normality' question comes into play - Apart from one or two very special girls over the years, I don't really feel much for the girls I go out with, yet I go out with them to appear 'normal' as someone in their 20's who lives alone, and who doesn't have a girlfriend isn't really normal behaviour by any means.
So to conclude - how 'normal' are you? and do you do specific things to appear normal? and also how did you know what gender you like? have you ever had any doubts about your sexuality?
I will explain what I mean....
After having recently chat to friends (both hetero and homo sexuals) I descovered that when it came around to them discovering what gender they preferred, they kinda just 'knew'. It may have taken a little while to figure it out, but when it clicked for them, they were content in knowing they had made the right choice.
Now here's my question - was it easy for you to decide upon which gender you preferred, or did it take you a while to figure out? I want you to think about this hard, and not just give responses like 'I was born straight/gay/whatever so therefore I grew up and followed it' because sure, that may have been your case, but can you honestly say there has never been a time where you doubted your sexuality, or experimented?
My own personal case is that I like women, although this has varied dramatically - when I was at school, I liked school-aged girls (a similar age to me at the time), when I was at university I liked girls a few years older than me, and now that I am out of university and into a working world I like older women (about 10-15 years older). However I have doubted my sexuality at one time, for a while I wasn't attracting any female attention and strangely lots of male attention, and so I thought I might be gay. I never acted upon it, but I did discuss it with a few of my gay friends (gay and lesbian friends) and just decided that it was a weird coincidence, and they were right, my female attention quickly returned after that.
However on a weird side note, and this is where the heart of my 'normality' question comes into play - Apart from one or two very special girls over the years, I don't really feel much for the girls I go out with, yet I go out with them to appear 'normal' as someone in their 20's who lives alone, and who doesn't have a girlfriend isn't really normal behaviour by any means.
So to conclude - how 'normal' are you? and do you do specific things to appear normal? and also how did you know what gender you like? have you ever had any doubts about your sexuality?