Do you want Children?

[game-lover]

Nope.

My family has unfortunately had too many instances of surprise children. I love them but I don't them as my own. Too much stress, too much work and the responsibility really hinders your life. More so when you're young.

Any urge I might have had in the past about being a mother was firmly quashed with the arrival of my nephews. I'm sure I'll be happier just remaining a childless female.

 

[Amberella]

I want kids.

My boyfriend and I are going to have lots of babies together one day!

 

[Sansha]

No, and I have many reasons

1. I'm preparing to graduate college, so I'm going to become financially secure.
2. I don't have a girlfriend
3. If I did, and the question came up to get married, I might not have enough money
4. Even if I did, I wouldn't risk having my life's importance lose priority to love (for both wife and child)
5. The time committment to children is MASSIVE!
6. I don't believe in the "children are our living legacy" bollocks (always wanted to use that word). People make their own legacies. You can thank Solidus Snake and Beowulf for that thought process.

My life is all about me right now. I'm a selfish jerk (among other words I could use). It's not that I don't want relationships with people. It's that the more I get, the more I compromise my own goals. I'm stable and secure and have everything I want. Why screw it up?

This is pretty much my attitude. I don't want to fuck up my own pursuits for everyone else's dream of the idyllic family.

That, and children are just vending machines. You put in food, and they deposit noise and poop.

 

[Caligulove]

One day, of course. Far too young to plan any of that just yet, though.

Not sure if I'll have kids of my own or adopt- lots of factors involved in that choice that haven't even become realized yet like my spouse, our ability to conceive, financial security etc etc. Though the idea of raising children is always one that I have enjoyed. Passing one something that I have learned or something of value onto the next generation. Don't know what that bit of information is, though, doubt I will ever know unless my son/daughter tells me.

 

[SamuelT]

I would like to, but I don't think I'd make a very good father without growing up a whole lot, I think. Still; being eighteen I think there's room to think, methinks.

 

[Harkonnen64]

Only if it was a daughter. I wouldn't be good as a role model for a son, as I'm not a particularly manly man.

 

[deserteagleeye]

Yes, but I only want one kid. I am very good with kids but siblings don't bode well with me.

 

[Amberella]

I want kids.

My boyfriend and I are going to have lots of babies together one day!

You hope.

Nope. I know we will.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Of course children are the most lasting legacy anyone can leave (excluding doing something extremely horrible, hitler etc, or something for the good of humanity, Neil Armstrong)

 

[Bioluminescence]

No. 1- I don't like being around children. 2- There are way too many of the little things as it is. I know that I can't stop people from having four (or eighteen or however many) kids but I don't have to add to that.

As a side note, I have considered financing one when I get older and settled. You know, help a pre-existing kid get a good education or something.

 

[Biodeamon]

I know it's selfish with all the overpopulation in the world but i would prefer to pass on my genetic legacy

 

[Azure-Supernova]

I want kids.

My boyfriend and I are going to have lots of babies together one day!

You hope.

Nope. I know we will.

Like he said, You hope.

No sir, it's definitely happening. I've wanted kids since I was one myself.

 

[MissDK]

Maybe after I have the career I want, and I am secure and stuff... I my eyes children are a 50-50% mix of a pain in the ass and adorable little creatures...

 

[googleit6]

Nope. Never ever, for many reasons. First, I don't like kids. Second, I was/am a terrible kid, and do not want another one of me running around. Third, I have the weirdest anxiety issues that would only amplify tenfold with a child. Fourth, it's a financial burden I don't want. Finally, kids take up time that I don't want to give.

I don't exactly have that maternal instinct. I'm really terrible in situations where I'm supposed to offer help to other people, and it would be the same with a kid.

 

[Neo10101]

Yes, hopefully a boy and a girl.

 

[Katana314]

I somewhat agree with the overpopulation model. There are so many instances where you could just say "If every person in the world did X once, then it would have Y kabillion impact"

I dunno. I've been told I'm good with little kids, but I see them as a big responsibility. If/when I get married, I'd look for my wife's opinion on it. If she's obsessed with the idea I won't fight it and would do my best as a dad.

Maybe I'll look for a woman who's scared to death of the idea of giving birth.

 

[Embz]

Not in the near future, but maybe when Im in my late 20's/ early 30's its something I would probably consider. I want to live my life a bit before I get tied down with kids

 

[Vern5]

I'm going to go ahead and assume that we can mostly agree that the world is ridiculously overpopulated right now.

No, you can't assume that. I disagree completely. There are vast areas that are underpopulated. Many "western" nations have immigration programs because of low population and low population growth.

People are dying in the streets. There isn't enough food to go around.

On a world wide basis there is plenty, that isn't why they are starving. They are starving due to war, politics, greed, luck, and many other factors. Billions of tonnes of food are wasted or allowed to rot every year. In some areas farmers are paid NOT to grow food or to destroy perfectly good food to keep the prices at artificial price points.

So, I've got to know, do any of you want children and, if so, why?

Most people are genetically wired to want to reproduce. Even people who think they don't want kids suddenly see things a whole new way as they age, or as they/their partner become pregnant. Nothing in my life has been as rewarding as having a child.

1) Seriously? I can't assume things anymore? I guess I'm just getting stubborn. I'm forgetting to observe the laws of the Secret Mental Police. Just because I assume something doesn't mean it absolutely has to be right. Actually, you proved my point of "mostly agreeing" because mostly doesn't count everyone.

2) You happily proved my point of there not being enough food to go around. Yes a lot of it is lost to fire and neglect. Yes a lot of it is stockpiled away from those who need. So between losing and withholding food, there really isn't enough to go around.

3) I can agree with what you're saying. I'm pretty sure that I'll think differently on having kids or not once I've felt the need to lay down roots. Still, why was having your child such an incredible reward, if you don't mind me asking?

1) You assumed that most people think the world was overpopulated. You are simply wrong. It is underpopulated. Only a handful of people think otherwise.

2) There is plenty to go around. The fact that we don't share it doesn't mean there isn't enough. When there were 100,000 people in the world we didn't share it and people starved then too. Your model is overly simplistic to the point of being cartoonish.

3) It is a little hard to describe. What makes anything you do rewarding? It's something you feel inside. It's the feeling when you first see them, when they come running to the door because they heard you come home, they way they look at you, they feeling you get as you watch them grow and learn and become a little person of their own.

1) Now we've come to an impasse based on an opinion. Over and underpopulation are opinions. You can't be right or wrong about opinions. And it is my opinion that I can assume what I want to, especially when you are the only one who seems to want to call me out on that assumption for no explainable reason.

Besides, I have never heard anyone but you talk about how the world doesn't have enough people. There are a lot of people across the globe. What gives you the idea that there aren't enough people around?

2) There isn't plenty to go around because that plenty is not available to everyone. Just because there is plenty doesn't mean its going where it is needed. Thus, of the food that is available for distribution, there is not enough to go around.

I'm not going to argue about the kids thing because that at least makes some sense. If you just wanted to win at arguing then fine, you won. You can go tell your kids how awesome you are now. Jeez.

 

[OptimisticPessimist]

Nope. I firmly believe that people should require a license to procreate. I wouldn't even apply for said license.

 

[NerfRIder]

I don't want to have any children. If I ever change my mind about that I aim to adopt.

I see no reason the bring a life into this world when there are so many already here that have been abandoned. Also I cannot bring a life into this world just to look him/her in the eye and tell him that all logic and reason say that the only reason he/she exists is because I wanted to procreate, that his/her life is meaningless and when he/she dies he/she will simple cease to exist.