Does confidence really help?

[Arkhangelsk]

And I don't mean when it comes to getting the courage to do something. But does confidence really show? People say to me that, when it comes to looks, if I believe in myself people will notice and I'll therefore be more attractive. But that doesn't really make much sense to me. How can you see confidence? Cause I don't see much notable difference in how I act and look.

 

[NeutralMunchHotel]

Yes, it really does.

Well, at least in terms of how you act. Confident people ofthen have the (shock) confidence to talk to new people, to stand up and say things in front of others and do things that people who are self-concious generally won't do.

And undoubtedly, this will have an effect on how people want themselves to look.

 

[Actual]

Just like you can see a person's emotion by their facial expressions and demeanour so you can see confidence.

And it is usually more desirable. Do what most people do, fake it till you feel it.

 

[FoolKiller]

I concur.

If two people who are identical for the most part are going for the same job and one is confident and the other is not, the confident one will get it as the interviewers will pick up on it through subtle hints in the body language, speech etc.

 

[PureChaos]

absolutely, can make the world of difference

 

[Taerdin]

Its almost better to be really confident and wrong than to be not confident and right all the time. Just putting yourself out there in front of people gets you more noticed, and you miss less opportunities in life. This is from someone who doesn't act that confidently ever and has no friends mind you

 

[justhereforthemoney]

Dude (?) confidence helps uber amounts. In high school, why do all the cocky dicks end up with girls? They have the confidence that tell girls "I am awesome and you want me." Im not going to say much more, but you would be so surprised how far confidence can get you, it is absolutely necessary.

 

[El Poncho]

Well you can sense that they are confident like you can sense how people are depressed etc.

If you watch the dog whisperer he explains it with dogs and energy and all that jazz, which is pretty much the same for most animals.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

Confidence is key. When athletes are confident, they play better. When you feel confident, people like you more. If you don't show confidence your children won't respect you and you will be a shitty parent.

 

[Robert632]

it's more of a body language thing, i think. please correct me if i'm wrong.

 

[Borrowed Time]

Yes, it translates into body language and verbally. People can pick subconsciously if you are confident or not with out even realizing it.

 

[Xyphon]

Being confident in yourself makes a world of difference. It is easily seen. Confidence effects the way your carry yourself. When you're confident, you don't slouch. You stand up tall for everyone to see and you have a little pep to your step (God help me if I ever use that term again).

Say you own a business and you're interviewing two people looking to work for you. Would you rather hire the person that exhibits poor body language and mutters "I don't know if I can do that....", or someone that sits up straight, makes direct eye contact and tells you they in fact CAN do what you ask of them?

 

[AWC Viper]

Yes. he who is Ballsiest wins.

 

[ProfessorLayton]

Yes. You can always tell confidence.

 

[Noamuth]

Confidence helps so damn much.

A woman can be average-looking, nothing too special, but if she's walking with pride (not arrogance), with her shoulders back, nice stride.. Bloody hell, it catches your attention.

The only thing is, the line between 'confidence' and 'arrogance' can be crossed so easily. And that is very, very bad, IMO.

 

[SkylerRock]

Being confident in yourself makes a world of difference. It is easily seen. Confidence effects the way your carry yourself. When you're confident, you don't slouch. You stand up tall for everyone to see and you have a little pep to your step (God help me if I ever use that term again).

Say you own a business and you're interviewing two people looking to work for you. Would you rather hire the person that exhibits poor body language and mutters "I don't know if I can do that....", or someone that sits up straight, makes direct eye contact and tells you they in fact CAN do what you ask of them?

I agree totally. A person who has confidence in his/herself gives the impression of being in command of their environment, and that reflects in your body language and in turn is picked up by other people as a sign of strength and ability.

The most successful job applicants for instance aren't just the ones who answer the interviewer's questions, they're the ones who turn round and tell the employer exactly what they can bring to the company.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

I can stand up in a debate and give a very one-sided argument (devil's advocate and all that) and I'll still get a healthy round of applause because I said it confidently, with smiles, and by making jokes. If you look like you're in charge it certainly helps.

Look at the absolutely hideous, stupid, shaved-headed, rough-mouthed ingrates that get all the best girls. It's certainly not because they're trash that they get the girls - it's because they are confident, self-assured ingrates.

I'm good at talking to a class, not so good at it outside of debates. I take solace in the fact that none of these people will ever do well in life, because they are frankly useless.

 

[Spygon]

deffinly but the problem with me is i can talk to anybody and do rather bullisy stuff.

But i am not sure if that is confidence or i am just crazy.

Anyway look at anybody who seems to have life going all their way a good job,a attractive partner (even when everybody else is why are they are going out with them) and seems to get what they want.

It's mainly confidence the confidence to use their skills to impress there boss,the confidence to impressive there partner and the confidence to chase what they want.One of the things i have learned is when you have the confidence to ignore you inner demons you can solely concrerte on the getting what you want from the outside world.

Okay that sounded scarily like something Dr. Phil would say but never mind i am the only real doctor Phi

 

[Arkhangelsk]

And I don't mean when it comes to getting the courage to do something. But does confidence really show? People say to me that, when it comes to looks, if I believe in myself people will notice and I'll therefore be more attractive. But that doesn't really make much sense to me. How can you see confidence? Cause I don't see much notable difference in how I act and look.

Still on the relationship thing?

Confidence shows in your actions, your mannerisims, your speech, and in a number of subtle ways that many people have written books about.

And the result is essentially this = most people feel comfortable and happier around confident people. They relax, and become more open to dialogue. I may be gettting confused with charisma, but I consider them linked. Charismatic people have a way of making others feel better, and therefore people are drawn and usually prefer their company, as opposed to the constantly depressed or the un-hinged/violent.

You become more attractive to women when you are confident, because in their minds (probably more sub-consciously) you represent safety. However, not all women want safety, and hence the 'bad-boy' archetype sometimes draws more attention. Despite being a 'bad-boy', they still exude a feeling of confidence, which keeps them sucked in.

Nah, ain't the reason I brought it up, just curious, cause I hear it a lot from people.

 

[wewontdie11]

Yes it makes a huge difference. Nobody really thinks timidity is a good feature to have in 90% of circumstances and you can tell just by the body language and intonation of the voice if a person is confident or not.